A boy on my course at university jumped in front of a train and most of us went to the funeral, even though most of us didn't really know him. I think it meant a lot to his parents. There weren't enough seats in the church for everyone who came.
It was only a month before our graduation. His parents came to the graduation and accepted his degree.
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- CV Helper
- 26-07-2009 16:44
- 26-07-2009 17:02
I think unless the parents have requested a private funeral then it would be good to go, as it would make the parents feel better if alot of people showed up to show that their child was cared about by your year. It depends where you live aswell, ie in a city or in a town, in towns tings tend to be more closeknit in a everyone knows everyone on a hello basis so would kind of be expected for most to show up I guess.
(Original post by mrs.dougie)
- 26-07-2009 17:13
yeah, this is kinda awful right, but i wanted 2 know what people thought- see, this girl in my year was killed last week and her funeral is monday, but im nt sure whether to go. Some people think our whole year should go in our uniform, as a sign of respect, but then others are saying it should be just family and close friends. The reason im nt sure is that i wasnt really friends with her- i mean, i think she would have known my name, and we were in the same form class this year, but i dunno- somehow i think i would feel kinda fake going to the funeral of someone i didnt really know, but then again, i feel i should, as she was in my year, and i have known her since i was 11: she was a living, breathing person that i knew and saw nearly every day for 5 years.
i really cant decide- could anyone who has experienced a loss like this help me decide what would be the right thing for me to do?
- 26-07-2009 23:01
A boy in my class was killed in a car accident last year and most of our school and the teachers turned up at his funeral. The teachers told us that it would be best if we all waited outside until the close family and friends had gone in, so that they would be able to find somewhere to sit first.
I think you should go as, after the service, the boy's parents told us that it meant a lot to them to see so many people paying their respects to their son.
Also, when my dad died, it was really touching to see how many people attended his funeral. The Church was packed and it was very comforting to have so many people around us, supporting us.
(Original post by Hugh-Jackman)
- 26-07-2009 23:39
too long, didn't read!
- Thread Starter
- 03-10-2009 00:37
thanks for the advice everyone, it helped- i ended up not going, just cos i felt uncomfortable going as i felt it should be just family and close friends
(Original post by letsdothetimewarpagain)
How about suggesting arranging something for in school for her, it would be a good way of paying respect whilst leaving the funeral to her family and close friends.
(Original post by DAFOne)
- 03-10-2009 00:57
I think I would go because her funeral (as silly as this might sound) is not about her but about her family. I would imagine, therefore, that seeing a lot of people attend to pay their respects would umm... give them a better memory of the event down the line (not as in they will remember it more, but they will have a better impression of it).
That's just how I see it - sorry if this offends anyone for whatever reason.