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I had drunken unprotected sex with a girl I really didnt want to :(... watch

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I think Im just writing this because I need to get it off my chest more than anything. I went party and got very very drunk and was one of the few left at the end as well as this girl from uni who I know had a real crush on me but I dont like at all. Anyway, cut a long story short she told us a story about something terrible that happened to her when she was walkin home alone drunk once and then wanted to walk across town by herself to go home. I offered to walk her seeing as it was on the way to the taxi rank and i felt bad after hearing the story. Anyway as we got to her flat she said she fancied another drink and would I like one. me still being in the party mood, I decided to take her up on it and went up to hers (with no other intentions might i add). I was sat on the floor and after about half of this drink I just fell back and pretty much passed out from the amount i had drank and kept drifting in and out of conscioussness. After a while the lights went out and she was on top of me unbuttoning my trousers before going down on me. I cant remember everthing that was happening but it felt like I was dreaming or something so I just went with it. Before I knew it she was on top of me naked and we started having sex. It must have gone on for 10-15 mins before I suddenly realised what was happening and stopped and just got up and left. This happened a few days ago and since Ive been literally feelin physically sick at the thought that I might have accidentally gotten her pregnant or got a disease. To get any girl, let alone this one pregnant at the point i am in my life now would just bring my world crashing down around me. I know i didnt ejaculate at all because i would remember that, but there may have been precum (even then I hadnt ejaculated all day and had urinated alot before hand so my understanding is that there is a very low chance it contained any sperm at all). Ive asked her to take the morning after pill just in case but she just doesnt seem too bothered by the whole thing which worries me even more. I feel so disappointed with myself because I have never had unprotected sex with anyone (Im 19 and have only had a few sexual partners since being 16) but I cant help but feel like i was taken advantage of. I never had any intention of doing anything with her ever and she knew that. I suppose I cant blame anyone but myself for gettin in the state I was anyway. Has anyone else been in a similar situation to me and how have you dealt with the worry and stress of it all? I know under the circumstances the chances i might have gotten her pregnant are very slim but so long as there is a chance I cant help but worry as if I know Ive got her pregnant! Am I being unreasonable for thinkin she is also in the wrong here? I would never try it on with a girl lying there in the state I was in. Anyway if you've managed to read all this, thanks. any reassuring comments appreciated .
    Heyyy don't worry, you are not in the wrong! You are a guy and everyone is probably just expecting you to be glad to have been taken advantage of, however if you were not attracted to her at all then the experience has probably stirred you a bit. Not to mention the fact that it was unprotected. Lets just hope she is like you and most other normal people who do not want to get pregnant and have cute little frog babies (like the one in my sig).

    I think you should not worry and try and put it past you. You are a male and so be glad that this sort of thing only happens to you minority of the time.

    Good Luck, and get help if you think you need it. Till then just confront the situation. Tell her straight-up (without looking aggressive or mean) that what you both did was irresponsible and a drunken mistake. And that you should both just put it behind you and move on. Offer to chum her to get teh pill/pregnancy test, but I am sure its unlikely she is preggers. Better to be safe than sorry though.



    Good luck
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    why am i leaving a ******** of kisses?
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    (Original post by ipulledhermione)
    Heyyy don't worry, you are not in the wrong! You are a guy and everyone is probably just expecting you to be glad to have been taken advantage of, however if you were not attracted to her at all then the experience has probably stirred you a bit. Not to mention the fact that it was unprotected. Lets just hope she is like you and most other normal people who do not want to get pregnant and have cute little frog babies (like the one in my sig).

    I think you should not worry and try and put it past you. You are a male and so be glad that this sort of thing only happens to you minority of the time.

    Good Luck, and get help if you think you need it. Till then just confront the situation. Tell her straight-up (without looking aggressive or mean) that what you both did was irresponsible and a drunken mistake. And that you should both just put it behind you and move on. Offer to chum her to get teh pill/pregnancy test, but I am sure its unlikely she is preggers. Better to be safe than sorry though.



    Good luck
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    why am i leaving a ******** of kisses?
    Because you're after some lovin'? :sexface:

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    I don't think you're in the wrong, and stop worrying! I'm pretty sure everything will turn out fine.
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    If the roles where reversed, then thats what we in the biz would call rape...
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    She raped you.
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    this is technically rape... report if you wish
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    (Original post by AMZB)
    Dear, I'm sure your story is very interesting, and I want to read it and say something reassuring to you, but first let me introduce you to the "enter" key. It's located to the right of your right hand, and you can use it to create paragraph breaks.
    This :rofl: I cba to read what you wrote.
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    Go get all the tests done an avoid her an hope she dies

    i know how you feel though, just everytime it enters your mind try an think about something else
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I think Im just writing this because I need to get it off my chest more than anything. I went party and got very very drunk and was one of the few left at the end as well as this girl from uni who I know had a real crush on me but I dont like at all. Anyway, cut a long story short O RLY? she told us a story about something terrible that happened to her when she was walkin home alone drunk once and then wanted to walk across town by herself to go home. I offered to walk her seeing as it was on the way to the taxi rank and i felt bad after hearing the story. Anyway as we got to her flat she said she fancied another drink and would I like one. me still being in the party mood, I decided to take her up on it and went up to hers (with no other intentions might i add). I was sat on the floor and after about half of this drink I just fell back and pretty much passed out from the amount i had drank and kept drifting in and out of conscioussness. After a while the lights went out and she was on top of me unbuttoning my trousers before going down on me. I cant remember everthing that was happening but it felt like I was dreaming or something so I just went with it. Before I knew it she was on top of me naked and we started having sex. It must have gone on for 10-15 mins before I suddenly realised what was happening and stopped and just got up and left. This happened a few days ago and since Ive been literally feelin physically sick at the thought that I might have accidentally gotten her pregnant or got a disease. To get any girl, let alone this one pregnant at the point i am in my life now would just bring my world crashing down around me. I know i didnt ejaculate at all because i would remember that, but there may have been precum (even then I hadnt ejaculated all day and had urinated alot before hand so my understanding is that there is a very low chance it contained any sperm at all). Ive asked her to take the morning after pill just in case but she just doesnt seem too bothered by the whole thing which worries me even more. I feel so disappointed with myself because I have never had unprotected sex with anyone (Im 19 and have only had a few sexual partners since being 16) but I cant help but feel like i was taken advantage of. I never had any intention of doing anything with her ever and she knew that. I suppose I cant blame anyone but myself for gettin in the state I was anyway. Has anyone else been in a similar situation to me and how have you dealt with the worry and stress of it all? I know under the circumstances the chances i might have gotten her pregnant are very slim but so long as there is a chance I cant help but worry as if I know Ive got her pregnant! Am I being unreasonable for thinkin she is also in the wrong here? I would never try it on with a girl lying there in the state I was in. Anyway if you've managed to read all this, thanks. any reassuring comments appreciated .
    You were raped
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    We've all been there. Last one on the dance floor/at the party, fat girl catches your eye, you wake up thinking 'wtf' :lolwut:

    As long as she's not preggers, you'll get over it :yep:
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    I'm not sure it was rape, I mean was anything forced up your ass?
 
 
 
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