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    Im female and don't understand why some people (in my opinion) are a bit funny with me yet others are not. I don't know if this happens to everyone as obviously I only know my own experiences. Anyway its nothing major just little things that make me worry about how people see me. Im very quiet and introverted in personality but can have a conversation and will talk and have a laugh with anyone. Here are some examples that make me concerned though.

    I had to go on a training day for work and saw a qualified nurse there who Ive done a few shifts with (Id guess shes in her 40's), she was a bit annoyed at me during one shift because I brought her the wrong thing back from the pharmacy (she asked me to go) and had to go back but Ive made her drinks etc lol. Anyway I saw her and another nurse who Ive done a few shifts with (maybe 3/4) walk in together and sit down rght in front of me. I tried to make eye contact with them to smile but assumed they didn't notice me even though they looked.

    I thought nothing of it but at the end on my way out i saw them stood waiting so I smiled at her but she just looked at me, glanced me up and down then looked away.

    Ive also noticed that a lot of girls around my age can be very quiet around me despite me attempting to initiate conversation they just answer then go quiet. Yet if someone else new walks up to them they will be smiling and laughing in seconds with them. Why can't I click with people like most people seem able to do:confused:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Im female and don't understand why some people (in my opinion) are a bit funny with me yet others are not. I don't know if this happens to everyone as obviously I only know my own experiences. Anyway its nothing major just little things that make me worry about how people see me. Im very quiet and introverted in personality but can have a conversation and will talk and have a laugh with anyone. Here are some examples that make me concerned though.

    I had to go on a training day for work and saw a qualified nurse there who Ive done a few shifts with (Id guess shes in her 40's), she was a bit annoyed at me during one shift because I brought her the wrong thing back from the pharmacy (she asked me to go) and had to go back but Ive made her drinks etc lol. Anyway I saw her and another nurse who Ive done a few shifts with (maybe 3/4) walk in together and sit down rght in front of me. I tried to make eye contact with them to smile but assumed they didn't notice me even though they looked.

    I thought nothing of it but at the end on my way out i saw them stood waiting so I smiled at her but she just looked at me, glanced me up and down then looked away.

    Ive also noticed that a lot of girls around my age can be very quiet around me despite me attempting to initiate conversation they just answer then go quiet. Yet if someone else new walks up to them they will be smiling and laughing in seconds with them. Why can't I click with people like most people seem able to do:confused:
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    it's a vibe you give off.
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    It's probably nothing other than it's generally more awkward chatting to someone who's pretty quiet. Conversation flows less easily for example. As for that nurse, she doesn't sound worth your time to be honest. If someone smiles at you it's common politeness to return it. So I wouldn't worry yourself about her.
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    Think nothing of it, ifrom what you have said it sounds like that the nurses were being particulary *****y for no reason. I doubt its your fault for being quiet not everyone is going to be chatty.
    Ive noticed around me a ot of guys will do this " man" thing were for a greeting you get a hello then no converstaion. Probably because, like lions,they feel like im going to try and seize there territory. So its probably not that your not clicking its people being defensive/ shy.
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    I try not to be shy but I can never think of anything to say small talk just bores me but I do make the effort.
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    It's probably because they're already friends with the people who are there. So the 'new' people don't know anyone else, so they'll talk to you and create their own 'group'?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I try not to be shy but I can never think of anything to say small talk just bores me but I do make the effort.
    I know exactly what you mean I'm not shy or quiet with my friends or people I know well AT ALL! But stick me with a couple of people I've never met before, they'll all be chatting within minutes, and I'll stay quiet because I never know what to say. It's like everyone has this ability to talk and make friends quickly, while it takes me a while because I'm so introverted at times. Fresher's was hell... but it got better after a couple of weeks... I'd recommend making an effort to think of topics you could talk about whether they bore you or not, it's the best way of making friends.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ive also noticed that a lot of girls around my age can be very quiet around me despite me attempting to initiate conversation they just answer then go quiet. Yet if someone else new walks up to them they will be smiling and laughing in seconds with them. Why can't I click with people like most people seem able to do:confused:
    This happens ALL THE TIME with me. I can't suggest anything I'm afraid, but I completely empathise.
    It's weird because I always make an effort to be extremely friendly, have a laugh with them etc and I'm not 'quiet'. I am most of the time but in situations where I have to socialise I'll be much more open, engaging, talkative and friendly. I just don't get it. I suppose some people are just like it. :confused: I haven't quite understood it yet either.
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    They're probably just jealous of you
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    I get the same too. I tend to alienate a lot of people because I'm shy and quiet. It's just something you learn to accept. And the people that know you, also accept it and like you despite your inability to blabber on.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anyway its nothing major just little things that make me worry about how people see me. Im very quiet and introverted in personality but can have a conversation and will talk and have a laugh with anyone.
    I have a similar personality type and I get the same thing, even though I try to be funny and accomodating. Sucks to be us.
 
 
 
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