im 21 going in the air force to become a firefighter, life on career front is great, i just cant seem to find a girlfriend, i am told by girls who are friends im a good looking decent guy with heart in right place etc, but every girl i meet just does not seem interested i speak to them normally about normal things i.e music what do u do uni etc??
am i doing something wrong can i have some pointers maybe? i am pretty shy to be honest aswell.
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- 26-07-2009 22:52
- 26-07-2009 22:55
Maybe your just not cut out for relationships like me my humble friend. Like God never had a partner
- 26-07-2009 22:57
Maybe you come accross as nervous? I know most girls don't have the patience for that. Just be confident in yourself, show these girlies who you are, your finest attributes (whatever they may be) etc.
Show youre a good catch but try not to be too pally or that's exactly what you'll be. A friend
You'll be fine, maybe just be a bit more flirty?
I know I'm not much help hehe
- 26-07-2009 22:58
Doesn't sound like your doing much wrong here, but the tip i will give you is girls (mostly) like confident guys, so they think that they have to make the first move etc. Totoally unjustified, i know, but its usually how it works.
Mostly i think you need to give it time, she will come along!
- 26-07-2009 23:03
tbh guys can be too "nice". Men should be men (but still decent people), we don't want you to be like our brothers... just have confidence and you will be fine!
Although a little tip, you don't have to be interested in our makeup or our clothes, or general girly things - we have girl friends for that
- 26-07-2009 23:08
Girls like confident guys its not '(mostly)' as said above, it is all of them. You maybe trying to get girls out of your league, I know it sounds harsh. But know your place/standard. Also you maybe acting desperate which really really isn't a good trait.
Things I can pick up just from what you have said are that... you have to think that you are good looking and not just take your friends words for it, I'm not saying become anal, but have confidence in your looks. They may not win over a girl but they can loose you one. Thus from this dress well and take care of yourself. If your not lying and you're speaking to them like a normal human that is GREAT, really common mistake guys make. So you are one step closer already.
If you want I can PM a bit more 'info' on what to do with girls.
PS. I know you asked for girls advice, but I could see what you were going to say before I even opened the thread
- 26-07-2009 23:11
Your friends know you better than these 'new' girls you've been seeing, so of course they'll agree that you're a decent guy.
As Smile91 pointed out, be a
gentleman. Girls can't decide whether they want a bad-boy or a nice-boy - so try to mix it up a little.
- 26-07-2009 23:16
awwww im sure the right girl will come along!.. ... in the mean time have fun being single
- 27-07-2009 00:00
Yeah, it's the confidence thing I think - I always like to feel 'protected' by a man and will be more convinced in him generally if he doesn't come across as nervous, otherwise that'll make me nervous and want to leave the situation. That's all I can think of really. But yeah, try not to come across as though you're talking for the sake of trying to get a girl. Talk to them as if you're really interested and you have something good to say. Be more confident in what you're saying, too. But don't be arrogant. :P I don't know, that's all I can suggest really!