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    I have known her for a couple of years now and for the past year have really wanted to be more than just friends with her. Untrustworthy friends have told her that I want her, but we have never talked about this. Almost like its a taboo. I dont know what i should do. should we talk about it.
    I dont have a chance because she told me she is completely not interested in men which sucks for me but i accept it
    I wouldnt mind the not talking about it but it might make the atmosphere between us weird and i really dont want this to happen because she is the greatest friend and i dont want to ruin that either.
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    This happened to me. I found it best to just move on because its not going to work:yes:
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    If people have told her how you feel and she hasn't discussed this with you then she's not into you. Leave it be or risk ruining a friendship.
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    Yeah, leave it and move on .. unfortunately. I know its hard
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    I think you still need to set the record straight with her about how you feel now, if you are going to move on as if she still thinks and believes what the gossips have said then it may get in the way with the friendship.

    However move on is the best thing to do.
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    Mm.
    Do what you think is right.
    You know her best, how she'll react to you telling her etc.
    Do whatevers best for your friendship, whether that's declaring your love, or just moving on.
    Once they're out the closet its pretty much game over, isnt it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have known her for a couple of years now and for the past year have really wanted to be more than just friends with her. Untrustworthy friends have told her that I want her, but we have never talked about this. Almost like its a taboo. I dont know what i should do. should we talk about it.
    I dont have a chance because she told me she is completely not interested in men which sucks for me but i accept it
    I wouldnt mind the not talking about it but it might make the atmosphere between us weird and i really dont want this to happen because she is the greatest friend and i dont want to ruin that either.
    Imagine if one of you heard one of your guy friends had a crush on you... what would you want?

    I say just tell her straight up, acknowledge that it's not going to happen, then never speak of it again :P

    That way neither of you is really worried about what the other's intentions are...

    Or get her blasted with some fine booze? Idk how lesbian is she? O.o
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    (Original post by BumperBo)
    how lesbian is she? O.o
    i lol'd.

    oh and move on OP.
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    Agreeing with another reply: Seeing as she has been told about it, and she hasn't brought it up, she probably doesn't want it to be brought up. I think you should avoid the awkwardness and keep quiet. Hopefully in the near future you'll find someone else to take your mind off of her
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    I don't want to be provocative, but have you considered that you might be gay? I just wondered as you say for the past year you have wanted to be with someone who is unattainable (because of their sexuality). Perhaps you have subconsciously sought this situation so that you don't have to address your own sexuality?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't want to be provocative, but have you considered that you might be gay? I just wondered as you say for the past year you have wanted to be with someone who is unattainable (because of their sexuality). Perhaps you have subconsciously sought this situation so that you don't have to address your own sexuality?
    LOL. wtf? it much more likely he just thinks his lesbian friend is hot.
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    I've been on the receiving end of this and the guy was one of my best friends. We talked about it and he told me pretty much everything. He said it was one of the weirdest, greatest things because he'd never been able to talk to girl who he liked so openly before and not make it awkward!

    I think he learnt a lot from it; lesbian mates are great to have but it didn't change my mind so I doubt it would with your friend. Don't push her because you'd probably lose her completely
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    (Original post by Chrrye)
    LOL. wtf? it much more likely he just thinks his lesbian friend is hot.
    Hot and unattainable. A year is a long time to have not figured this one out. Perhaps anon no. 2 is on to something.
 
 
 
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