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OK guys, breaking up advice

I cant do it.

A few of you may be aware of the rugby boy my bestie has been seeing. Shes been meeting him for drinks the past few weeks and its resulted in making out etc, he really digs her she says that she feels nothing and doesnt want to go out with him. Shes not keen on seeing him face to face to end it. How should she do it, im no good at giving her advice.

I think she should txt him, but thats really impersonal. Still keeping in mind she wont have to see him and he does live on the other side of town. It would settle her nerves a lot. What should she tell him?
Reply 1
why can't she just tell him? Texting him will make it ten times worse and he will let everyone know how cowardly she is. Guys talk. She might as well do the decent thing.
Reply 2
she said its becuase she doesnt want to "drag him all the way out to the city for a meeting that will be 2 minutes long"
Reply 3
can't she go and see him? Why text and not phone?
Reply 4
Everdawn
I cant do it.

A few of you may be aware of the rugby boy my bestie has been seeing. Shes been meeting him for drinks the past few weeks and its resulted in making out etc, he really digs her she says that she feels nothing and doesnt want to go out with him. Shes not keen on seeing him face to face to end it. How should she do it, im no good at giving her advice.

I think she should txt him, but thats really impersonal. Still keeping in mind she wont have to see him and he does live on the other side of town. It would settle her nerves a lot. What should she tell him?

tell her to stop being a wuss and just tell him! If she's mature enough to realise she doesnt want anything from the relationship then she should be mature eough to end it properlyy
Reply 5
yeah my friend Elizabeth is on the ringing him side of things.
Texting someone to break up is selfish and insensitive...

If she sees it as pointless meeting up just to break up, then surely a phone call is the right way to be thinking about this??
Reply 7
My ex told me laughingly of her friend who did the "mature thing" when he wanted to end things - he stopped answering his phone. Somehow it's not so funny when you're on the receiving end.

The only polite and reasonable way to end something is to see someone in person. I flew to Amsterdam to break up with someone. She can go for a coffee..
jd27
My ex told me laughingly of her friend who did the "mature thing" when he wanted to end things - he stopped answering his phone. Somehow it's not so funny when you're on the receiving end.

The only polite and reasonable way to end something is to see someone in person. I flew to Amsterdam to break up with someone. She can go for a coffee..

Yeah I kind of agree, I think the person you break up with would appreciate the effort you made to tell them in person....

Ruthie xx
Reply 9
If she doesn't want to have to see him/drag him out just to break up with him, definitely phone.
Or you could always go down the Post-it route...:biggrin:
Madelyn
If she doesn't want to have to see him/drag him out just to break up with him, definitely phone.
Or you could always go down the Post-it route...:biggrin:


Lol....

Well I did break up with my boyfriend of 5 years over the phone, which I do regret as I think it made it all the more worse for him.....so I'd say if you have the chance in person is much better than by phone, especially if you want to try and be friends again after... just shows you care, even if you don't care enough to stay with them, it still shows thoughtfulness :smile:

Ruthie xx
Reply 11
She's said shes going to call him, poor thing she feels badly. This guy looks like hes going to make the Wallabies this year as well. I respect her for following her gut and not haning onto him just becuase he plays for the famous team. But still, they live waaay apart so shes got a little speech, and she thinks they can still be mates, thats the way this guy is.