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    Please keep anon or delete.

    I am absolutely rubbish at giving advice to people. I never know the 'right' thing to say. My friend has just sent me a text, saying she's come out to her parents and sister and they've basically told her they don't want anything to do with her and she's not allowed anything to do with her sisters unborn child.

    What the hell do I reply with?! :o: I'd be greatful for any advice...Thank you.
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    offer to go out for lunch or something in case she wants to talk, even if you just sit there and listen she'll appreciate it. suggest that they might just need time to come around, probably a shock etc. even if they don't she always has her friends and the rest of her family and you'll always be there for her.
    usual stuff.
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    Just be truthful and say to her that you dont know what to say, maybe because you haven't been in her position but let her know that you'll be there for her so that she can talk to you. Quite often just having someone to hear about your problems helps
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    Tell her it's her problem.

    Wait..maybe I'm crap at giving advice too!
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    She probably just wanted to tell somebody she could trust. Ask her if she wants to talk about it, always ask if they want to talk about it.
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    This forum is what?

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    Well, before you meet up with her tell her you've never been good at giving advice but you'd love to meet up and listen? :unsure:

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    Thanks people
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    Offer her a way out of the house. She needs to get away from there for a while, let her head calm down and hopefully her family too.
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    She doesn't want you to solve her problems and make everything right, she just wants support. Tell her you're there for her and maybe try and cheer her up, that's all she wants
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    If you are that out of your depth then tell her that you dont know what to say, but however suggest that you can support her and give it a go to help and listen if she wants it, so suggest that you meet up and see how it goes, let her say as little or as much as she likes and try and comment or help if you feel you can.
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    (Original post by Sh4w)
    Tell her it's her problem.

    Wait..maybe I'm crap at giving advice too!
    lol
 
 
 
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