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    (Original post by Chillaxer)
    OK, don't get offended. But there are some stereotypes that black women are kind of harsh, demandent, fiesty etc. And the query is to any people that have had mixed relationships, any white guys or black/mixed women who are on tsr, is do you think black women wear the trousers, are they stronger forces in the relationship, do they think white guys are effete or they get away with more, because have heard SOME black guys say that about white women.

    And finally, why are there more Black guy/white girls relationships than vice/versa would you say? Is it because black women and white women prefer more dominant black guys and men want control? Or is it purely because of **** size?
    I'm a black girl and I certainly don't follow this stereotype. I'm quite shy and retiring and when I've had a boyfriend, I would say that he wore the trousers. I have dated black, white and mixed race men.

    I can see where you're kinda coming from with the 'stereotype', I can see it in my mum. This is probably because my dad left her, and im not gonna generalise here but a lot of black men leave wives so they have to be strong, perceived as more masculine, if not they'll be taken for a ride.

    I think its easier for men to charm women, in general, but not the other way round. If I stick to your stereotype, I can also say that black men are more dominant, women like dominance therefore they want a black man. (This is all hypothetical obviously). I have noticed that there are more black guy/white girl couples, but my cousin just married a white man, so :dontknow: surely this must be changing. They are a lovely couple and I suppose you can't help who you love.
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    (Original post by corallie13)
    Its a shame its always the loud, aggressive and rude black girls that get spoken about. The educated, sophisticated and refined ones get very little recognition.
    This.
    We're not all "rude gyals"
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    (Original post by *agridulce*)
    omg i've had this.
    nothing gets me angrier.
    its like. I.AM.BLACK.
    I should not have to act in a certain way to prove my colour. Are you blind? Just look at my skin. That should be enough. Now **** off.

    Arghhhhhh it pisses me off so much.

    I once had a former friend (who's white) come up to me and say "i'm more black than you".
    ******* hell.
    This. It ****** me off so much.

    I got called 'bounty' for a whole two years of secondary school. :sad:
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    (Original post by natty_d)
    This. It ****** me off so much.

    I got called 'bounty' for a whole two years of secondary school. :sad:
    Yeah, my best mate got called malteser once.
    What is wrong with people.
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    (Original post by Chillaxer)
    Do black girls like white guys? Generally IYO?
    Yes.. Me TBH I can't really imagine myself with a black guy for the rest of my life. People think i'm a bit odd for thinking that but I really like the way that others 'show the love'. It's different, in a really nice way.
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    So what if I am a black woman?
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wZCRDSICeRQ
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    (Original post by corallie13)
    Its a shame its always the loud, aggressive and rude black girls that get spoken about. The educated, sophisticated and refined ones get very little recognition.
    Yes.
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    (Original post by corallie13)
    Its a shame its always the loud, aggressive and rude black girls that get spoken about. The educated, sophisticated and refined ones get very little recognition.
    This, also.

    You're more likely to black girls who are the latter on TSR. :yep:
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    (Original post by *agridulce*)
    omg i've had this.
    nothing gets me angrier.
    its like. I.AM.BLACK.
    I should not have to act in a certain way to prove my colour. Are you blind? Just look at my skin. That should be enough. Now **** off.

    Arghhhhhh it pisses me off so much.

    I once had a former friend (who's white) come up to me and say "i'm more black than you".
    ******* hell.
    LOOOOOL I wish I was there to hear that..
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    (Original post by Bludclotzz)
    lol its VERY RARE that i see mixed race guys and girls that associate more with white culture than black, very rare, also mixed girls i know like black guys...
    Very rare? I always thought it was fairly equal 'cos I know loadsss of mixed race girls that associate more with the white culture. Probably depends on the area.
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    (Original post by Hafsaay)
    Yes.. Me TBH I can't really imagine myself with a black guy for the rest of my life. People think i'm a bit odd for thinking that but I really like the way that others 'show the love'. It's different, in a really nice way.
    Again, I'm intrigued. How do you mean 'how others show the love'.
    If you mean that kind of feeling I get like, I'm coming from a different angle and willing to be sensitive. And show something she's not used to, and she kind of feels strong or something..err yeah I like that
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    (Original post by Bludclotzz)
    must have a big ****

    (no homo)
    lol
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    It's sexy to be the slightly sensitive one, to bridge a divide or something....
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    apparently I'm not true black... i mean i didn't know people could dye their skin black nowdays. But one of my close friends calls me blasian cos I like anime. :P:
    ahh wells, I don't mind and to be honest I don't mind if people say I'm not black if they're referring to the negative stereotypes about some black females e.g loudness, rudeness etc.
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    (Original post by natty_d)
    I can see where you're kinda coming from with the 'stereotype', I can see it in my mum. This is probably because my dad left her, and im not gonna generalise here but a lot of black men leave wives so they have to be strong, perceived as more masculine, if not they'll be taken for a ride..
    Same here - being of Jamaican parentage I've seen quite a few lasses who I'd say would fit the stereotype of being aggressive and feisty - but not all.As you say , I wouldn't be surprised if that has something to do with it - but I also think there's some collateral damage goin on from slavery.


    (Original post by *agridulce*)
    omg i've had this.
    nothing gets me angrier.
    its like. I.AM.BLACK.
    I should not have to act in a certain way to prove my colour. Are you blind? Just look at my skin. That should be enough. Now **** off.

    Arghhhhhh it pisses me off so much.

    I once had a former friend (who's white) come up to me and say "i'm more black than you".
    ******* hell.
    Had similar problems with some people at one of my secondary schools thinking I'm too "white" for their liking.I'm beyond caring about that tbh now becuase most of the people doing the calling didn't go too far in their education , but it did irk me at the time.
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    (Original post by conroe-killed-the-k8-star)
    Same here - being of Jamaican parentage I've seen quite a few lasses who I'd say would fit the stereotype of being aggressive and feisty - but not all.As you say , I wouldn't be surprised if that has something to do with it - but I also think there's some collateral damage goin on from slavery.




    Had similar problems with some people at one of my secondary schools thinking I'm too "white" for their liking.I'm beyond caring about that tbh now becuase most of the people doing the calling didn't go too far in their education , but it did irk me at the time.
    (Original post by conroe-killed-the-k8-star)
    Same here - being of Jamaican parentage I've seen quite a few lasses who I'd say would fit the stereotype of being aggressive and feisty - but not all.As you say , I wouldn't be surprised if that has something to do with it - but I also think there's some collateral damage goin on from slavery.




    Had similar problems with some people at one of my secondary schools thinking I'm too "white" for their liking.I'm beyond caring about that tbh now becuase most of the people doing the calling didn't go too far in their education , but it did irk me at the time.
    Ahh, I get this all the time at school :/ one guy even had a proper rant at me about how I wasn't black enough and needed to learn from the other black girls in my year! :mad:
    So yeah, they all see me as an outsider because of the way I act & speak, the music I listen to etc but I'm glad after next year I won't have to deal with them
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Firstly not many white women go for black men in reality. Those that do, it's usually because of the whole "bad boy, aggressor" image rather than good looks.

    Lastly, black women are generally ugly and alot of black guys themselves have commented on this. So if black guys themselves do not find them attractive, why would a white guy?

    Ask a black guy, which race he finds most hot. If he answers honestly he will say white/asian/latina, not black.
    You know what you're probably right.

    But, any black man that says a black woman is ugly is talking about his mother, sister, auntie etc. Following on from that this means he's probably ugly too.
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    God, some people are so ignorant. It's nothing to do with the colour of their skin. It's how they're raised and their company. The very same girls raised in a different environment would be completely different. There are many classy and educated black women. More than black men, as statistics show. I mean it astounds me that a guy who writes like this...

    (Original post by Tsukuyomi)
    im also black and i hate the way black gyrls are, thats y im not really attrated 2 black gryls, also i listen 2 either gothic rock or gothic metal, and ive neva met any annoying white gyrl while all the black gyrls ive met are loud ugly, and annoying
    ...has put himself above all black women. He's barely literate. The only reason black men choose not to date their women is self-hatred. Of course they can't say that, so they make it the women's fault :rolleyes:
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    come to think of it...i hardly ever see white men with black women...i was a bit surprised the other day when i did...don't quite know why though..!
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    (Original post by Chillaxer)
    OK, don't get offended. But there are some stereotypes that black women are kind of harsh, demandent, fiesty etc. And the query is to any people that have had mixed relationships, any white guys or black/mixed women who are on tsr, is do you think black women wear the trousers, are they stronger forces in the relationship, do they think white guys are effete or they get away with more, because have heard SOME black guys say that about white women.

    And finally, why are there more Black guy/white girls relationships than vice/versa would you say? Is it because black women and white women prefer more dominant black guys and men want control? Or is it purely because of **** size?
    Just out of interest, what race are you?
 
 
 
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