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    Hi I'm new here, and just needed somewhere to let out my feelings! At the moment I can't stop thinking about children, I don't want them right now, but I've nearly finished Uni, and my husband and I plan to get jobs, and work for a few years, buy a house, and then when we have a bit put by, we want to have children together. I have no siblings, and have always wanted a big family to care for, and love little children, and I know my husband will be the most amazing father.

    I just wondered if anyone else out there is feeling really broody, and how to get over it, as it's going round in my head now! I want to call my kids Ruby, Jack, Katherine or Thomas. And I really want a boy first.
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    Just give it time and it will pass
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    Im very maternal also, sometimes i scare myself ha. But i know that it would be foolish for me to have a kid now, its better to be financially stable with a good house and be fully prepared. To get over it maybe babysit some of your friends/familys kids, younger cousins etcc
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    That sounds so cool, Thomas is a good name btw

    You know youself that you are not at the right stage in your life to have a child at the moment, so i guess as long as you remember that then you will get through and when you feel ready as a couple and stable enough it will be even more great when you have kida, all good things come to those who wait
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    I kind of know the feeling, it isn't too hard for me to put it to the back of my mind once rational thought kicks in because I'm only 19 and I've not even started university yet. Me and my boyfriend are going to be struggling to support ourselves never mind kids as well.

    You are obviously a bit older though, how old are you? Also how long have you been married?
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    (Original post by Abhead)
    I kind of know the feeling, it isn't too hard for me to put it to the back of my mind once rational thought kicks in because I'm only 19 and I've not even started university yet. Me and my boyfriend are going to be struggling to support ourselves never mind kids as well.

    You are obviously a bit older though, how old are you? Also how long have you been married?
    I'm 22, and we've been married for 4 years.
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    (Original post by Little Weed)
    I'm 22, and we've been married for 4 years.
    Oh wow, how long were you together before you got engaged and how long after that did you get married? Was it a big event or did you do it on a budget?

    Sorry for all the questions, its just me and my boyfriend have talked about marriage before but he says he wouldn't ever want to propose until he can afford a decent ring, even though I really don't care about stuff like that.
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    (Original post by Abhead)
    Oh wow, how long were you together before you got engaged and how long after that did you get married? Was it a big event or did you do it on a budget?

    Sorry for all the questions, its just me and my boyfriend have talked about marriage before but he says he wouldn't ever want to propose until he can afford a decent ring, even though I really don't care about stuff like that.
    That's fine It's nice to have someone so interested in me!
    We were together for about 8 months before we got engaged, and then a year and 2 months later we got married (just before we went to Uni). It was just one of those times when you know something is meant to be: a 'whirlwind romance' I suppose

    Good for your bf, he sounds like a gentleman. My husband, saved up for a while I think to get me an engagement ring (thought it wasn't a dead expensive one, as we were both at college!), but I wouldn't have minded if he had just proposed without one tbh.

    EDIT: forgot your other Q! We weren't very well off, no, as my family's pretty low income-wise, and my husband has been independent of his family since we met, but we neither of us wanted a big do, so that was ok We just had some friends and family at a gorgeous big register office (really lovely town hall) and then had some drinks and socialising after.
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    (Original post by Little Weed)
    Hi I'm new here, and just needed somewhere to let out my feelings! At the moment I can't stop thinking about children, I don't want them right now, but I've nearly finished Uni, and my husband and I plan to get jobs, and work for a few years, buy a house, and then when we have a bit put by, we want to have children together. I have no siblings, and have always wanted a big family to care for, and love little children, and I know my husband will be the most amazing father.

    I just wondered if anyone else out there is feeling really broody, and how to get over it, as it's going round in my head now! I want to call my kids Ruby, Jack, Katherine or Thomas. And I really want a boy first.

    I am always broody. I can remember being told that I was broody when I was 5. I honestly think that if it wasn't for common sense I would have had lots of kids by now because I love them!

    However, I highlighted the bit above because like you, I love little children. However little children grow into bigger children, who grow into pre-teens, who grow into teenagers and all the rest of it. I don't want to patronise you, and i'm not suggesting you're about to get sprogged up, but its good to have some time for you and your husband. Be selfish for a bit. So that when you decide you're ready to have children you can look back and know that you've had some good experiences that maybe you couldn't have done with kids.

    That said I have nothing against young parents, my mum was 21 when she had me. But I know that there are things I want to do, need to get out of my system before i'm ready to have a child.
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    (Original post by Little Weed)

    I just wondered if anyone else out there is feeling really broody, and how to get over it,
    Buy a puppy.
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    (Original post by Little Weed)
    That's fine It's nice to have someone so interested in me!
    We were together for about 8 months before we got engaged, and then a year and 2 months later we got married (just before we went to Uni). It was just one of those times when you know something is meant to be: a 'whirlwind romance' I suppose

    Good for your bf, he sounds like a gentleman. My husband, saved up for a while I think to get me an engagement ring (thought it wasn't a dead expensive one, as we were both at college!), but I wouldn't have minded if he had just proposed without one tbh.

    EDIT: forgot your other Q! We weren't very well off, no, as my family's pretty low income-wise, and my husband has been independent of his family since we met, but we neither of us wanted a big do, so that was ok We just had some friends and family at a gorgeous big register office (really lovely town hall) and then had some drinks and socialising after.
    Its lovely to hear about someone getting married young and it working out so well I completely know what you mean about it feeling "meant to be", I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now but it felt like that after only a few months.
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    (Original post by Abhead)
    Its lovely to hear about someone getting married young and it working out so well I completely know what you mean about it feeling "meant to be", I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now but it felt like that after only a few months.
    yes, that was how it was for us. We met on a Wednesday, then talked over email and text, then the following Monday, he asked me out (after he'd plucked up the courage - he nearly fainted when I said yes!!). We knew it was special, as we felt so close so fast, and after a month and a half, he told me he loved me, and a week or so later, I knew I loved him back, and after that it was a done deal really.
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    (Original post by Little Weed)
    yes, that was how it was for us. We met on a Wednesday, then talked over email and text, then the following Monday, he asked me out (after he'd plucked up the courage - he nearly fainted when I said yes!!). We knew it was special, as we felt so close so fast, and after a month and a half, he told me he loved me, and a week or so later, I knew I loved him back, and after that it was a done deal really.
    Aww thats even quicker than it was with us, I think he told me he loved me after about 2 or 3 months.

    I've just +repped you, I dunno if you know what rep is yet though being a new member.
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    (Original post by Sarky)
    I am always broody. I can remember being told that I was broody when I was 5. I honestly think that if it wasn't for common sense I would have had lots of kids by now because I love them!

    However, I highlighted the bit above because like you, I love little children. However little children grow into bigger children, who grow into pre-teens, who grow into teenagers and all the rest of it. I don't want to patronise you, and i'm not suggesting you're about to get sprogged up, but its good to have some time for you and your husband. Be selfish for a bit. So that when you decide you're ready to have children you can look back and know that you've had some good experiences that maybe you couldn't have done with kids.

    That said I have nothing against young parents, my mum was 21 when she had me. But I know that there are things I want to do, need to get out of my system before i'm ready to have a child.
    Don't worry - I'm sensible, i won't be having children just yet, I just really wish it was time!! (but at the same time I don't, as I don't wanna grow up too fast:p: )
    If you don't mind me asking, did your mum plan to have you or were you a surprise? My mother had me quite late in her life, as the doctors had always told her she couldn't have children, and it came as a real surprise to her!

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    Aww thats even quicker than it was with us, I think he told me he loved me after about 2 or 3 months.

    I've just +repped you, I dunno if you know what rep is yet though being a new member.
    Thanks very much How did you and your bf meet then? And how long have you been together?
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    (Original post by Little Weed)
    Don't worry - I'm sensible, i won't be having children just yet, I just really wish it was time!! (but at the same time I don't, as I don't wanna grow up too fast:p: )
    If you don't mind me asking, did your mum plan to have you or were you a surprise? My mother had me quite late in her life, as the doctors had always told her she couldn't have children, and it came as a real surprise to her!


    Thanks very much How did you and your bf meet then? And how long have you been together?
    We met when he came into the bar I was working at with a couple of lads I know. He was driving so I got a lift home with them that night, and managed to get myself invited on their next night out. Kissed him for the first time at the end of that night and we were officially a couple a few weeks later. We've been together a year and a half now.
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    (Original post by Abhead)
    We met when he came into the bar I was working at with a couple of lads I know. He was driving so I got a lift home with them that night, and managed to get myself invited on their next night out. Kissed him for the first time at the end of that night and we were officially a couple a few weeks later. We've been together a year and a half now.
    What are you doing about Uni - are you both going to the same one or..? And do you live together now? (I'm in a LTR too, and curious!)
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    (Original post by PrincessAriadne)
    What are you doing about Uni - are you both going to the same one or..? And do you live together now?
    I'm going to uni in Bristol and he is moving down with me and looking for work. There are a few big engineering schemes he is going to apply for when they open again. Don't live together yet but I wish we did because I sleep at his house 5-6/7 nights a week and it is a pain having to bring stuff back and forth. We're moving into our flat in Bristol on the 25th of August

    What is your situation?
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    (Original post by Abhead)
    I'm going to uni in Bristol and he is moving down with me and looking for work. There are a few big engineering schemes he is going to apply for when they open again. Don't live together yet but I wish we did because I sleep at his house 5-6/7 nights a week and it is a pain having to bring stuff back and forth. We're moving into our flat in Bristol on the 25th of August

    What is your situation?
    How are your families about this? Are they supportive of you two, or was there any problems when you first met?
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    I don't meant to be judgmental, but I think you're mad marrying someone you've never ever lived with

    But on topic - I get broody alot; At the moment my obsession is houses! I really really want to buy a house, but won't be able to for another 3-4 years at least (I have another 2 yrs as a student and then 2 years as a trainee lawyer, and my boyfriend doesn't qualify for another 2 years as an engineer).
    I think about kids alot but I think that's all part and parcel of wanting to live with my boyfriend and commit to him more. I hope that once we are living together, have our own place and can afford to live a little the baby thoughts will drift away as I'll want to enjoy life without any babies at home to worry about!!
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    (Original post by Little Weed)
    Hi I'm new here, and just needed somewhere to let out my feelings! At the moment I can't stop thinking about children, I don't want them right now, but I've nearly finished Uni, and my husband and I plan to get jobs, and work for a few years, buy a house, and then when we have a bit put by, we want to have children together. I have no siblings, and have always wanted a big family to care for, and love little children, and I know my husband will be the most amazing father.

    I just wondered if anyone else out there is feeling really broody, and how to get over it, as it's going round in my head now! I want to call my kids Ruby, Jack, Katherine or Thomas. And I really want a boy first.
    I know exactly how you feel. Im anon because i think i have extreme broodyness. I sit and watch those programs where people give birth and cry and ive even joined up to the odd baby websites and have a few little bits in a babybox, and im only 19! My partner thinks im mad but i just cant help it and ive been like it for years.
 
 
 
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