my gf is in love with me

She just admitted love for me, what should I do? I realyl jsut wanted something casual, not a wedding and all the other stuff that goes after it (house in the country, holiday home in seychelles etc)

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Reply 1

puppy

ramroff

She just admitted love for me, what should I do? I realyl jsut wanted something casual, not a wedding and all the other stuff that goes after it (house in the country, holiday home in seychelles etc)

If you wanted something casual, why do you have a gf?

Reply 2

username18215

Just say you love her as a friend, that should succesfully rub salt in the gaping hole in her chest!

Thus creating another anti-social, depressed but adored author.

Reply 3

roff

puppy

If you wanted something casual, why do you have a gf?

for all the casual stuff, i thought it was quite a casual relationship and that she got that because we only spoke when i wanted sex, but i cant imagine how she could begin to love me when we barely speak??

Reply 4

Lidka

lessthanthree

If you just wanted something casual, you ought to have clarified that from the start. Tell her before you hurt her even more.

That just about sums it up. Why did you start a relationship if you didn't want things to get serious? The reason most people start relationships is because they love somebody.

Anyway, nobody said love = marriage, necessarily. It's up to you where you go from here.

Reply 5

magiccarpet

im sure theres alot of rel8nsps lik that. don wry man, jus say u don really kno her cos u never rilly talk. then perhaps if u get 2 kno her u'll lov her aswell

Reply 6

TheLameMonkey

This thread hurts my heart.

She's going to be in pain when you tell her, but if you delay it even longer you'll hurt her even more.

I distress at this situation :frown:

Reply 7

ciara

ramroff

Hmm. The signs really aren't looking too good. Pushing girls heads down when they're going down on you, using someone for 'the casual stuff' who clearly didn't realise, general huuuuge thing with sex and tiiiiny amount of sensitivity? Lethal if you ask me. Is it just me noticing this guy?

In answer to your question though, all you can do is tell her now, SENSITIVELY, and leave her well alone to find the kinda guy she deserves, someone who'll love her back!

Cxx

Reply 8

magiccarpet

mabbe u wil lov her too if u getta know her

Reply 9

Herleif

do you love her?

if you do say yes. if you don't tel her, let her meet someone new

if you're not sure, try to stall, slow things down etc. be with her for a bit, then decide
good luck

-M-

PS: magiccarpet, when did u get all the red gems :confused:

i swear you never used to have all those, despite your, how shall we say, 'controversial' views on homosexuality :p:

Reply 10

thefish_uk

metta

PS: magiccarpet, when did u get all the red gems :confused:

i swear you never used to have all those, despite your, how shall we say, 'controversial' views on homosexuality :p:

I'm sure MC used to be able to type properly too....

I smell trouble.

Reply 11

Dude

How do you feel about her is the question?

Reply 12

pkchips

assuming you don't love her, what you need to do is tell her that you don't love her and that you're sorry.

Reply 13

JonnyB

Get out while you can?

Reply 14

spoonofdeath

Get out, get out now.

Reply 15

pkchips

tell her you hate her, just to rub it in a bit extra.

Reply 16

-TMG-

I think she THINKS she loves you. My ex (on and off gf cos I cant stand her crying) was the same. We had great sex, multiple orgasms (for her at least lol) and so she equates that with love. She actually said she loves me the first time we had sex, after the seventh orgasm or so. She had said it prior to that though...

Anyway you have to tell her. The girl if she is young probably doesn't love you and really loves the sex but can't realise it due to her lack of maturity/brains...course if she's a bit older like 19-20s it could be somethin else.

Reply 17

pkchips

hmmm interesting insight TMG

Reply 18

saz_1989

be happy. cos i'd never fall in love with my boyfriend.

Reply 19

-TMG-

Yes and what makes me believe that is the gf (mine) says she loves me and everything yet treats me really badly. She never used to do this but she started it because she felt guilty for cheating on me. Now she can't stop feeding me lies and being mean to me. So I tell her constantly its over and her flashing hot and cool is killing me (inside :P).

And then she cries, tells me she loves me and that she'll change. And so the cycle repeats. I think I'm too soft. I also really believe she doesn't love me like I love her, there's no way I could ever say a bad word about her and I always take her back because I care about her.

Anyway could be the same for ramroff...the girl being crazy I mean :P

Not crazy but perhaps she's dare I say it too young to know what love is. I used to think you could know love whatever age you were but some people really do confuse love with the joy of sex...