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    so im totally in love with one of my closest friends. we've been friends for awhile now and sometime in may we kinda hooked up. but we were kinda under the influence. so when i asked him the next week wht it meant to him he said it didnt really mean anything to him. i was pretty upset but about after 2 weeks things started turning back to normal, there was no awkwardness and we were joking around and stuff. so i dont understand why i let it happen but we kinda hooked up again...only this time neither of us were drunks. we were plain sober! and i was pretty confused after he said the frist time didnt mean anything to him. so i confronted him again about wht happened and he said he wasnt sure if he had those kind of feelings for me :'( he went on to explaint tht he did it cause he thought i was attractive and tt i have an amazing personality and tht he couldnt just help himself. he added that right before coming to uni he got out of a 2 year relationship in which he got hurt and tht he wasnt really looking for anything the first year of uni. which is pretty understabdable i guess but i still didnt understand why he would do that to me, someone he considered a really good friend? anyways the last week of uni he barely spoke to me, ignored me and to make things worse he flitrted with my best friend right in front of me continously.
    so as soon as it was summer break i sent him the longest message ever telling him how i feel and how i was compeltely hurt by wht he did to me and hw he didnt even have the decency to talk to e afterward.
    after a couple days he came on msn and said tht hed read the message and tht he was going to reply to it and tht he was sorry tht he ruined my last month of uni. tht was over a month ago and he still hasnt written that letter.

    no shockingly... he's started flirting with me again. constatnly everyday for the past week. and i obviosuly like an idiot cant help myself so im fliritng back. all i wanna know is what is he doing now?! is he using me for sumnmer time boredem? im so confused and still so badly in love with him.

    i would love to know wht u guys think!

    xx
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    could seriosuly use other peoples advice on this one!
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    Yes he's using/used you. Get over him, you deserve so much better.
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    I was in a similar situation once, yes he is using you. I'd stop getting with him if I was you.
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    Yeah hes using you, don't fall in to his trap. It will only end in you getting hurt again, I don't think hes a horrid guy I just think hes not really interested in you and may think of you as a fling.
    You deserve much better
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    I know what this is like... :/ not fun.
    Try and forget about him, clearly he's not worth it.
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    What the others said, it's a waste if you stay around him, life is too short, seriously.
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    but he's supposed to be one of my closest friends. he's like my best guy friend. why would he do tht to me? i really dont understand
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    You deserve so much better than this.
    And the worst part is you know this!
    He's just using you, don't give in to him. You will be the one that gets hurt.

    Good luck.
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    (Original post by Missmeem)
    Yes he's using/used you. Get over him, you deserve so much better.
    This^^

    I think you are being soft on him because you like him!:yep:
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    If he's good in the sack keep him around. Good men like us are hard to come by :P
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    im still confused as to why someone who is considered a good friend would do this someone again after knowing and having it in written form how muuch it hurt me the first and second time?
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    (Original post by Lordzola)
    If he's good in the sack keep him around. Good men like us are hard to come by :P
    i had to lol at this
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    but he's supposed to be one of my closest friends. he's like my best guy friend. why would he do tht to me? i really dont understand
    The situation I was in was with my best guy friend, I never understood it either and now we don't speak ...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    im still confused as to why someone who is considered a good friend would do this someone again after knowing and having it in written form how muuch it hurt me the first and second time?
    I can think of 2 reasons:

    #1) He likes you and is playing games to try and make you want him more (but I doubt it because he would have made a move when he had a chance)

    #2) He just cares about sex more than your feelings which is pretty **** if he is supposed to be a good friend.
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    (Original post by fallen angel9)
    The situation I was in was with my best guy friend, I never understood it either and now we don't speak ...
    same thing happened to u? did u ever get to confront him about it? xx
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    same thing happened to u? did u ever get to confront him about it? xx
    yeah, he would just be like I really like you but I just want to be friends and then he suggested this whole friends with benefits thing which just didn't turn out good in the end.
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    i wanna confront him (again) but i honestly dont knw wht to say
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    Just say how you feel, and how you're not happy with the situation.
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    Do not confront him again. It just shows how badly you want him and therefore makes you look less attractive (too easy). I say start ignoring him to build up your desirability.

    What you do after that is your choice!
 
 
 
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