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    My ex and I broke up at the start of May, and he sent me an email last night supposedly "clarifying" what took place between us when we were together. Totally misconstrued, and sent it to all his friends. He also, mentioned this dirty email I'd sent to him (including a naked photograph - please don't flame me!). Unless I basically agree that I've lied about our relationship (which I didn't in my eyes, I clarified what he wanted me to) he's going to send his friends and my friends that email and has refused to delete it. Basically, he's using it to get what he wants people to hear out of me. I really don't like it and I've had several panic attacks. Half of his friends are also mine.

    Yes, I know I've been stupid etc, etc - but surely this is illegal?

    Is there anyway I can prevent him sending that email in anyway?

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    Please don't take off Anon, mutual friend is on TSR.
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    Why don't you send all his friends his email, and show how much of an insecure pussy he is to have to blackmail someone into bigging him up.
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    I'm not sure it would be illegal I'm afraid - freedom of information etc

    Unless it counts as emotional blackmail... any law students about?

    Anyhow, if I were you I'd just say what he wants you to say (you don't have to mean it), and then never talk to him again. Problem solved.
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    What age are you? You have two options:
    1) If you are under 18, tell him he will be distributing child pornography and if found to do so you will contact the police. As you sent the photo, you would get into trouble with the law for distributing the image originally. To get around this, say that he sent the e-mail with the photo attachment from your computer to his e-mail address without your knowledge.
    2) If you are over 18 and there is no EXIF data on the photo, then tell him the photo was taken when you were under 18, and carry out the steps mentioned in 1).

    Hope that helps.
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    (Original post by Anonhummus)
    I'm not sure it would be illegal I'm afraid - freedom of information etc

    Unless it counts as emotional blackmail... any law students about?

    Anyhow, if I were you I'd just say what he wants you to say (you don't have to mean it), and then never talk to him again. Problem solved.
    He's copied and sent the email he sent to me to all of his friends, so I seem the bad guy.
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    (Original post by Ghost)
    What age are you? You have two options:
    1) If you are under 18, tell him he will be distributing child pornography and if found to do so you will contact the police. As you sent the photo, you would get into trouble with the law for distributing the image originally. To get around this, say that he sent the e-mail with the photo attachment from your computer to his e-mail address without your knowledge.
    2) If you are over 18 and there is no EXIF data on the photo, then tell him the photo was taken when you were under 18, and carry out the steps mentioned in 1).

    Hope that helps.
    I'm 18 - turned so in September of last year... Photo was taken this June
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    Just call the police and see what they say?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 18 - turned so in September of last year... Photo was taken this June
    Your boyfriend can't be 100% sure that it was taken when you were 18. Or at least, even if HE is sure, the law wouldn't be, unless he could prove it. You could have taken the photo a year ago, and it was only sent to him recently. The idea here is to put fear into him, at least an element of doubt. He won't pass it around if he's worried it could be classed as child porn. Any guy who is willing to do that to their ex mustn't be the brightest either.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    He's copied and sent the email he sent to me to all of his friends, so I seem the bad guy.
    Got any good male friends? Tell them what's going on and they'll beat the **** out of him.
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    (Original post by Ghost)
    Your boyfriend can't be 100% sure that it was taken when you were 18. Or at least, even if HE is sure, the law wouldn't be, unless he could prove it. You could have taken the photo a year ago, and it was only sent to him recently. The idea here is to put fear into him, at least an element of doubt. He won't pass it around if he's worried it could be classed as child porn. Any guy who is willing to do that to their ex mustn't be the brightest either.
    Thing is, couldn't she then get into trouble for distributing child pornography?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 18 - turned so in September of last year... Photo was taken this June
    On the photo is there like a date in the corner? Can you do what someone said above like saying it was taken before you were 18?
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    (Original post by Ghost)
    Your boyfriend can't be 100% sure that it was taken when you were 18. Or at least, even if HE is sure, the law wouldn't be, unless he could prove it. You could have taken the photo a year ago, and it was only sent to him recently. The idea here is to put fear into him, at least an element of doubt. He won't pass it around if he's worried it could be classed as child porn. Any guy who is willing to do that to their ex mustn't be the brightest either.

    Would that work?

    It sounds like something I should only do in an extreme case though.
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    <Standard "I Am Not A Lawyer" Disclaimer>

    Even if the picture is entirely legal, I don't think his actions are. See for example http://leadingcounsel.co.uk/articles...12/blackmail1/, which actually seems fairly analogous, albeit on a larger scale. The blackmailer got 20 months in jail in that case.
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    Er, just ignore him?
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    im pretty sure he is not allowed to blackmail you. call the local non-emergency police line for advice imo
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    (Original post by DFranklin)
    <Standard "I Am Not A Lawyer" Disclaimer>

    Even if the picture is entirely legal, I don't think his actions are. See for example http://leadingcounsel.co.uk/articles...12/blackmail1/, which actually seems fairly analogous, albeit on a larger scale. The blackmailer got 20 months in jail in that case.
    However, he's using the excuse I spread rumours about him - which isn't true, I told two people my side of the story and they misconstrued it.

    He's basically wanting them to know my side of the story, and will supposedly forward my account of what happened (which I doubt - I think he'll edit it) or he'll send around this naked email.
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    (Original post by johnbrown)
    Is the picture really that bad? I mean almost everyone has done something like this at some point maybe it's not so bad if everyone sees?

    Otherwise, do you have anyway of getting onto his email account? Do you think you could answer the secret question to change the password or anything and then you could delete it yourself
    She could do this but the guy may have saved the picture onto his actual pc/laptop<-- although the guy may not be clever enough for this!
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    I'd call the police. They're obliged to follow up all enquiries and complaints; a visit from the police would scare the life out of such a pussy anyway.
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    Freedom of information act on applies to public services like councils and the police and not you!

    He is breaking the law by blackmailing you so call the non-emergency police number and get him locked up at most but warned at the least!
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    (Original post by johnbrown)
    Is the picture really that bad? I mean almost everyone has done something like this at some point maybe it's not so bad if everyone sees?

    Otherwise, do you have anyway of getting onto his email account? Do you think you could answer the secret question to change the password or anything and then you could delete it yourself
    I know his email account, but not the password or secret questions. He may well have a back up stored on his computer as well.

    Yes, it's pornographic and I deeply regret having it taken. It would be really bad for me.
 
 
 
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