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    Please leave anon, I think 'friend' may be on TSR
    A friend once told me that I was 'difficult to talk to'.. Which is odd because I never considered myself 'difficult to talk to'... But that is a curse indeed.
    Do you guys have any pointers that might help?
    Thanks!
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    maybe just try and be laid back, smiley / happy, ask questions, make people feel important, and just try not to worry about it.
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    Don't limit the conversation by giving answers you can't expand on, ie, 'yes', 'no', 'I'm not sure', etc. Make an effort, even if you make a fool out of yourself.

    Ask questions and volunteer information about yourself.

    Be willing to have deep conversations, as well as just small talk.
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    (Original post by kat2pult)
    Don't limit the conversation by giving answers you can't expand on, ie, 'yes', 'no', 'I'm not sure', etc. Make an effort, even if you make a fool out of yourself.

    Ask questions and volunteer information about yourself.

    Be willing to have deep conversations, as well as just small talk.
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    It's incredibly hard trying to have a convesation with someone when they keep giving one word replies.
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    Don't be too serious, don't be too opinionated, and don't be too argumentative.
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    (Original post by kat2pult)
    Don't limit the conversation by giving answers you can't expand on, ie, 'yes', 'no', 'I'm not sure', etc. Make an effort, even if you make a fool out of yourself.

    Ask questions and volunteer information about yourself.

    Be willing to have deep conversations, as well as just small talk.
    Exactly this.


    Don't be one of those people who you have to try and force to have a decent conversation be prodding them to give more than just one word replies and so you end up blocking them because it just gets tedious - or in real life that everyone just talks less to.

    Start up conversations yourself, and, as kat2pult said, as questions and be prepared to open up more.

    Also, be less stubborn.
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    I found the best way, is if someone gives you some ribbing, don't get offended, just join in

    For example:

    Friend: "Dude, you live in a cardboard box!"
    Me: "Psh, I wish. That would be luxury compared to my bin liner."

    Simple, just laugh it off. And remember to give as good as you get

    Also, it sounds horrible, but people are stuck up and think they are #1. I.e. They like someone who can listen to their problems and offer opinions or advice. It's worked for me, and a lot of people I would of once never considered as a friend, now trust me with a lot of very personal problems and always come to me for advice
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    smiling helps
 
 
 
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