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    I don't think it's a problem. BUT. I pretty much went through the exact same thing as you, except I was 18 and he was 24 going on 25 (so only 6 years difference). Going really well ... until suddenly he just never called/contacted me ever again - I was a bit gutted! I reckon it's cos he realised I was so young.

    So it may not end out happily!!
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    if he is 24 the lowest he should really consider is 18, and even then the gap may cause a few problems.

    i'm 24 myself and i would not go out with a 16 year old to date, too much issue's to do with age would surface and i'll probably feel somewhat embaressed to be seen with her in public.

    wouldn't feel good about introducing her to anyone i know either..
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    (Original post by Blondi)

    please girls inn particular give me ur opinion..IS 8 YEARS JUST WRONG??? we did talk about the age thing and his last GF was 17 and i'm soon to be 17 (he is soon going to be 25), hmm....!!! :confused:
    I don't think that age is EVERYTHING and I think it can be made to work..but I think it's worrying that his last gf was 17 as well? Maybe he has a thing for younger girls, which would make me wary tbh.

    8 years when you're both over 18 is fine, but while you're still 16 (even if you're nearly 17) I'd steer clear, why is a 24 year old hanging out with people who are still in school?
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    (Original post by hey guysch im kl)
    Your original post:


    1. Your example is ridiculous. Part 1a of your argument- the fact that the guy was abusive and controlling - has nothing to do with him being older, so is irrelevant to your conclusion. Your conclusion IS that she is too young to go out with a man that age. How else could that have been reached if you weren't tarring all older men with the same brush? The assumption needed in your argument is that all older men will act in a similar way as the ways previously stated, otherwise your conclusion is invalid.

    2. Part 1b of your argument is slightly valid - it is more likely that an older man would have a wife and child. However, it is not more likely that an older man would lie about an aspect of him that is undesirable to a romantic partner - and that is the crux of your reason for avoidance in this part. So I would say mostly invalid.

    The last part of your argument I don't have a problem with, although it doesnt really add anything
    Again, I was merely pointing out an example. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't recall mentioning in any of my posts that all 25 year old men should be avoided because they're all going to be abusive and controlling. I was just trying to point out that a 16 year old girl going out with a 25 year old man often suggests that the relationship is maintained for reasons other than love or mutual interest for one another. Plus it looks absurd. Someone made a point about how the man is going to introduce his so called girlfriend to his peers, and I think that's a valid argument; it would just look totally ridiculous.
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    (Original post by Eva2)
    Again, I was merely pointing out an example. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't recall mentioning in any of my posts that all 25 year old men should be avoided because they're all going to be abusive and controlling. I was just trying to point out that a 16 year old girl going out with a 25 year old man often suggests that the relationship is maintained for reasons other than love or mutual interest for one another. Plus it looks absurd. Someone made a point about how the man is going to introduce his so called girlfriend to his peers, and I think that's a valid argument; it would just look totally ridiculous.
    How shallow :rolleyes:

    Anyway, I don't really care. I have no idea why a 25 year old would want a 16 year old anyway, but heh.
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    (Original post by hey guysch im kl)
    How shallow :rolleyes:

    Anyway, I don't really care. I have no idea why a 25 year old would want a 16 year old anyway, but heh.
    Precisely my point. He would only want her for one reason, if you ask me. This may sound shallow but, more often than not, it's the truth.
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    (Original post by Eva2)
    Precisely my point. He would only want her for one reason, if you ask me. This may sound shallow but, more often than not, it's the truth.
    Probably. I guess if he's got good game he can overcome that though
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    (Original post by OriginofSymmetry)
    Is he 12?
    lmao. surely can't be that age, but you never know.:yes:
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    Well he must have assumed you were at least 18, being in a club/bar...
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    (Original post by hey guysch im kl)
    Probably. I guess if he's got good game he can overcome that though
    That's true, but like I said: it's pretty hard to find a decent guy nowadays, regardless of what age they are.
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    (Original post by Eva2)
    That's true, but like I said: it's pretty hard to find a decent guy nowadays, regardless of what age they are.
    If you define decent as only wants a relationship with you and no one else, and doesn't just want sex, then I think you're misdefining the word decent.

    Otherwise, I'm not sure I agree. I think that women often expect/ want far too much :p:
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    (Original post by hey guysch im kl)
    If you define decent as only wants a relationship with you and no one else, and doesn't just want sex, then I think you're misdefining the word decent.

    Otherwise, I'm not sure I agree. I think that women often expect/ want far too much :p:
    No, I meant "decent" in terms of finding a man who is patient enough and will understand that the girl/woman might not want to rush into sex straight away. AND someone that will understand that you have a separate life from them and want to carry on doing the things you like, despite dating/ being in a relationship. By that, I didn't mean finding a guy that is solely looking for a relationship without sex. That would be virtually impossible.
    I don't think that I ask for "far too much" in a man. I just want someone decent. A "gentleman", if you want to put it that way.
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    8 years isn't wrong but you're only 16 which I think is a bit too young. He must be in a full time job and living on his own whereas you are still are schoolgirl.
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    (Original post by zimstar)
    8 years isn't wrong but you're only 16 which I think is a bit too young. He must be in a full time job and living on his own whereas you are still are schoolgirl.
    :ditto: this.

    precisely my point. You're just a little girl to him.
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    (Original post by Eva2)
    No, I meant "decent" in terms of finding a man who is patient enough and will understand that the girl/woman might not want to rush into sex straight away. AND someone that will understand that you have a separate life from them and want to carry on doing the things you like, despite dating/ being in a relationship. By that, I didn't mean finding a guy that is solely looking for a relationship without sex. That would be virtually impossible.
    I don't think that I ask for "far too much" in a man. I just want someone decent. A "gentleman", if you want to put it that way.
    tbh, most girls say that but then go out with a guy with charisma and confidence but who treats them badly. I'm not judging, but you can't blame guys for acting that way when it does work
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    (Original post by hey guysch im kl)
    tbh, most girls say that but then go out with a guy with charisma and confidence but who treats them badly. I'm not judging, but you can't blame guys for acting that way when it does work
    yeah, that statement is only true for girls who like the "bad boys". Fortunately, I'm not one of those girls. Plus, a man that treats a woman badly hasn't got a lot of charisma and confidence, otherwise he wouldn't treat her badly in the first place.
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    (Original post by Eva2)
    yeah, that statement is only true for girls who like the "bad boys". Fortunately, I'm not one of those girls. Plus, a man that treats a woman badly hasn't got a lot of charisma and confidence, otherwise he wouldn't treat her badly in the first place.
    That really is not true. If a man cheats on a woman, it doesn't mean he has no charisma or confidence, all it means is that he wants to get his end off in someone else
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    some teenage girl's are the training to become the new prostitutes and escorts!
    no credit crunch effecting them :X
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    Let me do the Maths :
    When you were born pooping in nappies
    he was runnning around in year 4

    when you were running around in year 4
    he was your age, doing a different type of running

    Voila!
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    (Original post by hey guysch im kl)
    That really is not true. If a man cheats on a woman, it doesn't mean he has no charisma or confidence, all it means is that he wants to get his end off in someone else
    So if a man cheats, he is confident and charismatic, is that what you're trying to say? I don't think that's true somehow.
    If a man cheats it's because he's a ****** who has no conscience or consideration for a girl's feelings and isn't satisfied by just one woman.
 
 
 
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