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    So the story is, I shall be starting university in September and I was just wondering how to form a connection with the new people that you meet. Sounds a bit ridiculous and I don't mean that I want to "fake" connections with loads of people just to make loads of friends - I just mean getting past the mundane and obvious like "where are you from?", "what course?", "what a levels" and blah. (you get my drift). I want to be able to talk about better things without having to rehearse something to say coz well, that is just tacky and I'd probably end up saying the same things over and over like a broken record (something which I am hoping to really avoid). I just fear I won't know what to say and end up resorting to the dullest form of interrogation ever. I don't want to end up asking people a list of all their favourite things like favourite colour, food n etc either because I still won't feel like the conversation is stimulating. Hmm... I feel like I'm overthinking this. Any thoughts? :eek3:
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    the best thing to do is to find common ground. Find an interest that you both share and talk about that and i guess it can lead to other stuff. This was the main problem that i found at uni was that i didn't have anything in common to talk to some people about, they didn't share any of my interests, and weren't interested in discussing anything except for alcohol. Those are the people that you soon realise won't be your real friends.
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    You need to chill out! I know that socialising doesn't come as naturally to some people as it does to others, but if you overthink this you're going to freak people out! Just be interesting and equally interested - you'll be fine.
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    It just happens

    juts be yourself, and smile!
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    (Original post by LouisianaPuuurchase)
    You need to chill out! I know that socialising doesn't come as naturally to some people as it does to others, but if you overthink this you're going to freak people out! Just be interesting and equally interested - you'll be fine.
    lol oops - i think i came across distressed or something without meaning to. i was just wondering how to get the ball rolling really and sorta hoping there'd be others thinking the same.

    argh. :eek: i'm the only one. lol
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    (Original post by Preeka)
    lol oops - i think i came across distressed or something without meaning to. i was just wondering how to get the ball rolling really and sorta hoping there'd be others thinking the same.

    argh. :eek: i'm the only one. lol
    Ah ok, you did a little!

    I think you'll find it'll come more naturally than you think though. It's hard to give tips on how to interact with others since everyone is so different. Hopefully you'll find people you have with enough in common with to form slightly deeper conversations with. I'm hoping as well!
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    (Original post by Preeka)
    lol oops - i think i came across distressed or something without meaning to. i was just wondering how to get the ball rolling really and sorta hoping there'd be others thinking the same.

    argh. :eek: i'm the only one. lol
    Dont worry you're not the only one - I'm worried about the mundane banal conversations where you only end up being 'surface' friends with someone...
    Anyway hopefully it'll be fine :yes:
    what uni are you going to?
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    (Original post by Toxic Tears)
    Dont worry you're not the only one - I'm worried about the mundane banal conversations where you only end up being 'surface' friends with someone...
    Anyway hopefully it'll be fine :yes:
    what uni are you going to?
    get what you mean about the 'surface' friends... then, everytime u walk by them, it's time to do the whole 'semi-fake smile, awkward hi, followed by nothing more to say so awkward walk-away flex'. lol

    i'm off to royal holloway to do maths (hopefully anyway). what about you?
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    (Original post by Preeka)
    get what you mean about the 'surface' friends... then, everytime u walk by them, it's time to do the whole 'semi-fake smile, awkward hi, followed by nothing more to say so awkward walk-away flex'. lol

    i'm off to royal holloway to do maths (hopefully anyway). what about you?
    bham for biology - good ol' brum brum.
    royal holloway is apparently really nice. i saw a picture of their main building and i was like :eek:
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    (Original post by Toxic Tears)
    bham for biology - good ol' brum brum.
    royal holloway is apparently really nice. i saw a picture of their main building and i was like :eek:
    o0 i was actually considering doing bio at one point (now that I've just written that, it seems pretty irrelevant )

    and yeah, the building.. it's very castle-like so I think for the first few days I'll just be randomly touching walls or pulling out books in the library hoping to find a secret passageway. :p: (disclaimer: i'm not weird :p:)
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    yeah i think on the first day since everyone will well most people will be drinking so the conversation will flow easier, i think the conversations should be easy enough depending on your social skills, if you have poor ones people will see that as when everyone is gathered around the table the odd chap may pick out the quiet one and talk to him im kinda talkative and quiet so i know both sides, i think if everyone has an open mind conversations should flow smoothly hopefully lol
 
 
 
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