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Do people seek inner beauty or just pure looks.

beastout

Will you go out with someone who has all you want your gf or bf to be but does not have the kind of looks you want....

perhaps.

I'm sorry to be shallow, but I think physical attraction is a requirement of a relationship. So probably not, but I'd really want them as a friend. Just because you get on amazingly with someone doesn't mean you should be having sex with them :P. (That's what I see a relationship as generally, very good friendship + sex).

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ruthiepoothie

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beastout

Will you go out with someone who has all you want your gf or bf to be but does not have the kind of looks you want....

If they have all you want your gf or bf to be, then surely you like them? and so therefore are attracted to them? and so therefore do like their looks??

If what you're trying to say is, is personality more important than looks, then I would say that liking someone is when you like all of them...if you'd consider going out with them then you must like their looks as well, otherwise you wouldn't condsider it....am i making an sense?

But if what you mean is do you look purely for looks in someone, then the answer would be no. None of the guys i've 'liked' in the that way have been Tom Cruises or Orlando Blooms, but I've still liked them and found them attractive....

Ruthie xx

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Everdawn

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im shallow as well and i admit it. you cant be 100% if you dont like the way they look.

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ruthiepoothie

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spoonofdeath

I'm sorry to be shallow, but I think physical attraction is a requirement of a relationship. So probably not, but I'd really want them as a friend.

Yeah but my point being that if you 'fancy' someone or whatever then you tend to already like the whole person....you don't fancy someone thinking if only they were prettier or slimmer......

Ruthie xx

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jd27

Having tried seeing someone I liked a lot, but wasn't attracted to, I have to say it didn't really work. She was by no means unnattractive, just not in my opinion.

That said, I've never found much attraction about someone who just looked good and nothing else - there needs to be a spark.
I think you have to find a balance of the two - attraction based on physical appearance, which is different for everybody, and personality (ditto!)

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pkchips

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don't people define attractiveness depending on what they want in their partner? Is there really anything concrete which makes someone good looking in everyone's eyes?

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ruthiepoothie

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pkchips

don't people define attractiveness depending on what they want in their partner? Is there really anything concrete which makes someone good looking in everyone's eyes?

I don't think there is......everyone finds different people attractive...for example someone I think is nice looking my friends often don't agree with me about...

There lies the beauty of it all, everyone is different, so there is hope for finding someone out there for you :smile:

Ruthie xx

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saz_1989

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I think finding someone attractive depends on how they look, but not necessarily their looks. According to my friends I like ugly people. But I think they fancy people I wouldn't go for, no matter how well I get on with them.

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What's Chico Time Precious?

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I think a combination of the two usually works best. :smile:

Reply 11

Mean Mr. Mustard

beastout

Will you go out with someone who has all you want your gf or bf to be but does not have the kind of looks you want....

I'm greedy, I want both, perhaps it makes me superficial, but I wouldn't date someone I didn't find sexually attractive.

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Raziel

i would go out with someine i didnt find physically attractive if their personality was appelling to me but most people tend to notice other people for what they look like and after theyget to know them you cant help not looking at someone

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roff

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she has to be stunning, im not fussy on personality

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blueprints

Well there was this absolute babe I used to date. We were casual friends before hand but just one day I absolutly fell for him just like that. He has the most amazing personality and we got on brilliantly. Before when we were just friends I wouldn't have dreamt of fancying him becasue despite being a great bloke many people, including mysef at that point, thought him to be a bit on the less attractive side of things. But when we clicked I suddenly found him deeply attractive. So I'd say that was a case of a sparkling personality making someone attractive.

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spoonofdeath

Love can make anyone look beautiful. :smile:

(this is not a bad thing)

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dappleddawndrawndauphin

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blueprints

Well there was this absolute babe I used to date. We were casual friends before hand but just one day I absolutly fell for him just like that. He has the most amazing personality and we got on brilliantly. Before when we were just friends I wouldn't have dreamt of fancying him becasue despite being a great bloke many people, including mysef at that point, thought him to be a bit on the less attractive side of things. But when we clicked I suddenly found him deeply attractive. So I'd say that was a case of a sparkling personality making someone attractive.

:dito:

Exactly! When you are suddenly attracted by someone who has qualities that just draw you to them (like irresistable sense of humour combined with intelligence......) suddenly you just can't resist them even if they have physical features you normally find revolting!! Whereas if you hate someone as a person, all their bad features are underlined for you...

For me there are no set in stone physical prerequisites -although I am partial to a certain type of brown eyes :love:

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saz_1989

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i dont think i could ever find someone attractive who was smelly or spotty. cant stand that aura of being unclean. i'm not a fan of fat ppl either.

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pink_lucie

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sometimes your bf/gf is your friend first so you dont really care about looks, so i would say it depends on the situation and how you got to be bf/gf

Reply 19

Haushinka

I think if you don't find someone physically attractive then there's not much point in being with them. I'd rather go for a friendship if someone was genuinely nice and everything but not attractive to me. Although sometimes you can grow to fancy or love the person.

Do people seek inner beauty or just pure looks.

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