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    There was a girl, seven years ago, who I was absolutely infatuated with. It wasn't just the normal kind of hormonal stuff kids go through, I really did love this girl. The thing is, I never told her.

    Since then, I'd more or less forgotten about her, but now I was searching for old friends on facebook, and it turns out she's joined. She's changed a lot, although still gorgeous. We've taken very different paths in life: I'm at a Russell Group Uni, whilst I think she's out of education altogether.

    Do you think I should contact her? Is there a way to do it without seeming like some sad weirdo that once knew her and still can't get over the fact she didn't fancy him back? Or should the past just die?
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    By the way I may be no model but I'm a lot more attractive than I was then!
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    If you still think about her then thier's no harm in trying otherwise just try to move on.
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    Assuming you were friends with her, I don't think contacting her could do much harm. It's perfectly normal for old friends to catch up.
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    If you think its going to cause you unnecessary stress than don't.
    Yes as written above it is perfectly normal for friends to catch up. Just add her then just casually talk to her if you want. If you're expecting something from her though, then this could cause problems then u might start to feel like u did a long time ago and remember as u said ur now living very different lives.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There was a girl, seven years ago, who I was absolutely infatuated with. It wasn't just the normal kind of hormonal stuff kids go through, I really did love this girl. The thing is, I never told her.

    Since then, I'd more or less forgotten about her, but now I was searching for old friends on facebook, and it turns out she's joined. She's changed a lot, although still gorgeous. We've taken very different paths in life: I'm at a Russell Group Uni, whilst I think she's out of education altogether.

    Do you think I should contact her? Is there a way to do it without seeming like some sad weirdo that once knew her and still can't get over the fact she didn't fancy him back? Or should the past just die?
    Wow. :troll2:
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    (Original post by TenthAvenueFreezeOut)
    Assuming you were friends with her, I don't think contacting her could do much harm. It's perfectly normal for old friends to catch up.
    Yeah, we were friends. The only thing is that the only mutual friend on facebook doesn't even know that I know her, and none of our real world mutual friends have added her, so it would be kind of obvious I was searching for her specifically.

    It seems a bit silly that I feel awkward about this, and I've added people I haven't seen for years plenty of times before, but she has a totally different life now, and hasn't really kept any of the mutual connections we had back then.
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    Still add her, it doesn't matter - you might as well go for it instead of wondering what could've happened. Even if she rejects you , at least you know you tried.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah, we were friends. The only thing is that the only mutual friend on facebook doesn't even know that I know her, and none of our real world mutual friends have added her, so it would be kind of obvious I was searching for her specifically.

    It seems a bit silly that I feel awkward about this, and I've added people I haven't seen for years plenty of times before, but she has a totally different life now, and hasn't really kept any of the mutual connections we had back then.
    You could always just say "Hey I was on (mutual friend's) profile and saw you, how have you been etc" or "Hey I was going through old photos/whatever and wondered what you'd been up to" etc etc that king of thing. Also, obviously I can't really comment not knowing you, the girl, what kind of relationship you had or whatever, but as you were friends, she might be flattered that you found her and added her even though other mutual friends haven't.
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    Its fine to add old friends. Just don't get your hopes up about her again I guess.
 
 
 
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