I’ve been dating my boyfriend for nearly four years now. I’ve just graduated and am faced with that daunting prospect of entering the world and finding my feet. I love him so much, and owe him a great deal; however there is still part of me that wants to jump from this comfy spot and live a little. He’s been my only really meaningful relationship, and that causes a great deal of concern for me. I’m stuck in that timeless cycle: questioning whether the grass is greener on the other side or whether I’ve got it so good that to throw it away would be madness?! He’s very different to me. I’m right brain he’s left. I’m always the one planning fun things to do, and such. He seems to just go along with it. I’ve tried to shake him up, but it’s not in his nature. That’s not to say he doesn’t offer a lot: he’s warm, compassionate, intelligent and our vision of our future is similar so we could have a very comfortable life together. Yet, I worry that I’m wasting my youth by not experience the world more.
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- Thread Starter
- 30-07-2009 23:43
- 30-07-2009 23:50
After four years, it's pretty normal to want change. After all, variety is the spice of life. You sound like you're happy and content with your boyfriend and you, realistically, don't want somebody else, you just want more from your boyfriend.
- 30-07-2009 23:53
Yeah, I'd say before you split up with your boyfriend, just try something new with him and explore the boundaries of your relationship a bit more. The grass will ALWAYS sound greener on the other side, just remember that half the time it's astroturf (i.e, not what it appears)
Explore your relationship moe befor committing yourself to go out into the big nasty real world, you owe him that much at least