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    My bf has been into my email inbox and deleted emails from a mutual friend of ours - someone who had once fancied me, and someone who I had feelings for (Which given, were taken too far). The inappropriate relationship with the friend ended when my bf found out and we haven't spoken since - upon my bfs insistence.

    The emails were not love letters or anything of the sort; merely 'hi's', 'hello's', and forwards.
    While I do understand my bf insisting upon 'no contact' and completely ignorance because of what had happened, I am hurt that he went into my inbox and deleted messages that were MINE to delete.

    I feel like he has invaded my private space - he doesnt believe there should be any privacy in the relationship - something we regularly clash upon.
    I know I did something wrong and we have been working towards normalcy again, but I cannot help but feeling uncomfortable, angry and hurt by his action.

    Am I normal in feeling this way? How would you react and what would you do?
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    I would be furious! I would feel like he didn't trust me and i would find that difficult to just forget - but that's just me. It's something i would have to talk to him about
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    Trust. Your relationship has none.

    Relationships without trust become farcical quickly. I'd get out now if I were you.
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    Go into his email's all the time? He'll soon learn.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    he doesnt believe there should be any privacy in the relationship
    Then he's free to bugger off and find someone whos willing to give up their privacy entirly for him.

    He'll be looking for a long long time.
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    (Original post by mikeyd85)
    Trust. Your relationship has none.

    Relationships without trust become farcical quickly. I'd get out now if I were you.
    OMFG it's Jeremy Kyle, everyone run
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    (Original post by zKlown)
    OMFG it's Jeremy Kyle, everyone run
    :ninja:

    Great. Now you've blown my cover. You have NO IDEA how much effort it took to get me away from the last nut job on my show.
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    Well by the sounds of it you cheated on him, so I'm not surprised he's not comfortable.

    It's your own fault.
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    Nobody should have the right to snoop a private inbox without your permission regardless of trust issues. Give him an ultimatum, stop accessing your private files or he can leave.
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    I would be annoyed, yes as most people would be as there could be a few things on there you wouldnt want anyone to read or see.

    However i think the more pressing matter at the moment is the trust problem you boyfriend seems to have, you need to address this and try and get over it, as if you dont your relationship has little foundation. Communicate with one another, allow him to explain and then voice how it wasnt fair of him, you can get over this, it was a mistake on his part.
 
 
 
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