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    I'm in a serious relationship and hope to settle down soon after Uni
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    I'm in a serious relationship with no plans of settling down
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    I want to stay free of responsibilites for as long as possible
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    I'm in a serious relationship and hope to settle down in about 15/20 years time
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    I want to settle down soon but am not in a relationship
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    (Original post by Sakura-Chan)
    In 10 years I'll be 28, so maybe. I go through stages of wanting kids, then not. But ultimately I'd like some little mini Amys running around
    Exactly this ^
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    You didn't give an option for "I am in a serious relationship and I want to settle down and not have kids. Ever!!!". I want to settle down now, house, money, proper job will hopefully come however unlikely it's looking at the moment But no, definitely no kids. Jelephant summed up my thoughts quite nicely!


    (Original post by Jelephant)
    Well first off there's the back pain, swollen ankles, mood swings, morning sickness, loss of bladder control..... then you've got several hours of agonising pain as it tries to force its way out of your body, possibly breaking bones, requiring your vajayjay to have an incision and random pooing as you push for dear life, all happening in the process. Next you have the crappy nappies, constant wailing and no sleep. Then the tantrums, "I want this"-ing, "It's not fair, you suck"-ing, rule breaking, you making sure they don't die of alcohol abuse/ get kidnapped/ making sure they're safe by wanting to know where they are and setting times to be home by, to the responce "That's not fair, you're so embarassing, you don't understand me". Not to mention the thousands upon thousands of pounds you have to spend to feed/ clothe/ house/ buy games consoles for/ buy holidays for, etc until they hit about 21.... then they don't want to see you again and put you in a care home......


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    (Original post by Jelephant)
    Well first off there's the back pain, swollen ankles, mood swings, morning sickness, loss of bladder control..... then you've got several hours of agonising pain as it tries to force its way out of your body, possibly breaking bones, requiring your vajayjay to have an incision and random pooing as you push for dear life, all happening in the process. Next you have the crappy nappies, constant wailing and no sleep.
    enter epidural or C-section
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    (Original post by sprite_fright)
    enter epidural or C-section
    I don't think I'd be allowed have a C-section (unnecessary surgery) unless it had to be done (diabetic!) and I've heard people say that sometimes an epidural is completely useless. Can they just give you a C section if you want one anyway? If you're not in a private hospital?
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    Definitely. Probably within the next 10 years.
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    Hopefully yeah
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    (Original post by Sprockette)
    I don't think I'd be allowed have a C-section (unnecessary surgery) unless it had to be done (diabetic!) and I've heard people say that sometimes an epidural is completely useless. Can they just give you a C section if you want one anyway? If you're not in a private hospital?
    Much to the disgust of many people, a lot of private patients do request a C-section rather than go through the birth, yes.
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    I really want kids, after I've 'made it' in the world - I wouldn't have kids unless I could give them a great life.
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    (Original post by Sprockette)
    I don't think I'd be allowed have a C-section (unnecessary surgery) unless it had to be done (diabetic!) and I've heard people say that sometimes an epidural is completely useless. Can they just give you a C section if you want one anyway? If you're not in a private hospital?
    I think they can give u a C-sec wherever u are if u request for one... I've never had a baby so im not sure but i don't see why not. It's a womans choice on how she delivers right?
    epidurals aren't always compeltely useless, that must only be a couple of people who have one with no effects. Failing that, laughing gas and oxygen! get high on the birth day (with the laughing gas, not pot or anything).
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    The thing is, I like being young and free without any responsibilities and the thought of settling down makes me shudder. And if I were to ever have kids I'd rather have them by the age of 30. I don't want to be taking care of a teenager when I'm nearing sixty. I'm a month from turning 22, however, and never been in a relationship so it's not like I find that thought very realistic at the moment. I'd also rather adopt than have my own biological children. A couple of reasons: I don't want to be pregnant (this is for completely selfish reasons). Besides there's way too many kids abandoned/not wanted by their parents in need of a loving home. A child would not have to be biologically mine for me to love it like my own. And I don't want to take part in overpopulating the planet.
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    (Original post by elisabethbridge)
    The thing is, I like being young and free without any responsibilities and the thought of settling down makes me shudder. And if I were to ever have kids I'd rather have them by the age of 30. I don't want to be taking care of a teenager when I'm nearing sixty. I'm a month from turning 22, however, and never been in a relationship so it's not like I find that thought very realistic at the moment. I'd also rather adopt than have my own biological children. A couple of reasons: I don't want to be pregnant (this is for completely selfish reasons). Besides there's way too many kids abandoned/not wanted by their parents in need of a loving home. A child would not have to be biologically mine for me to love it like my own. And I don't want to take part in overpopulating the planet.
    That's a really unique way of looking at things, and really lovely
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    (Original post by PrincessAriadne)
    This is totally random, but I don't suppose you know an Oscar Peake?
    I don't know him personally, we're in different years, but I know of him.
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    I want kids when I'm 26ish.
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    I hope to adopt in the future when I'm financially comfortable (and more mature).
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    Yes, when they find a new way to get them out.
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    YAY! but not before i'm in my late 20s/early 30s
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    (Original post by Heir-Head)
    Yes, when they find a new way to get them out.
    :laugh:
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    (Original post by PrincessAriadne)
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    I'm serious! I'm convinced that there was a fatal error in the drafting process when women were made, because that is most definately not meant to come out of there
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    I would love to have kids but I haven't even thought about uni yet! And I'm in a serious relationship atm, but who knows what will happen at uni?
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    lol i pick out baby names when i am bored and waiting for something. i do want to have a substantial sized family as i grew up in one,however i think there are so many selfish people out there having children when they can hardly support themselves. i wonder about these really young mothers and by no means i dnt want to offend anyone i jst thought id take the opportunity to vent. also and again no offence (as my dad is also one) but i think its a little selfish to only have one child (obviously there are exceptions) but i jst believe that its harder being an only child specially when ur young.....but idk.:o: :eek3: :confused:
 
 
 
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