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Crush and how to deal

Okay so I've got a crush on this guy (first crush - I'm 17 and have been out with someone before but not had a proper crush, is that weird?) and I really want to get to know him properly be like a friend. I don't even know him that well I've just gotten to like him because he's very intelligent, strongly-opinionated and generally nice and polite but I have no idea if he's, say, just being okay with me but secretly doesn't like me at all but is too nice to say.
Do you think I should start trying to talk to him more and being nicer? And how would I go about that without having to force conversation on him?
Reply 1
lol i had the same problem......but then realised it was just infatuation. lol. i managed to secretly get her email address and add her to my msn messenger contacts, her mobile number and her home number lol. on valentines day i sent her a card: but from anon. she figured it out i thnk cos she told my friends that she thought that it was me. then one day i looked back at all the things that iv done and said and realised how stupid i was. she was taking no notice and did not say anything. + i don't know her: i hardly spoke to her. remember avril lavigne's "skater boi" video? well she was the skater girl and i was the boy, chasing after her. i just left it in the end and now i think twice before commiting myself...
Reply 2
You got all those details about her? You should be like a private eye.
Sorani
Okay so I've got a crush on this guy (first crush - I'm 17 and have been out with someone before but not had a proper crush, is that weird?) and I really want to get to know him properly be like a friend. I don't even know him that well I've just gotten to like him because he's very intelligent, strongly-opinionated and generally nice and polite but I have no idea if he's, say, just being okay with me but secretly doesn't like me at all but is too nice to say.
Do you think I should start trying to talk to him more and being nicer? And how would I go about that without having to force conversation on him?


flirt like hell then go in for the kill
Reply 4
Good advice lol.
Oh and btw magiccarpet I am totally behind you for the TSR Miss World.
Sorani
Good advice lol.
Oh and btw magiccarpet I am totally behind you for the TSR Miss World.

hey thanks!


aww i feel mean about the crap advice now.


i say talk to him as a friend and get to know him totally to make sure its not just infatuation. then slowly pry him away from his friends- take hm for a coffee or drink and get to know him as frinds even more. if he fancies you, then things will slowly move upwards to more than frinds. oh and make sure hes single first :wink:
Reply 6
Sorani
You got all those details about her? You should be like a private eye.


:P i have my contacts. lol if there's a secret i WILL find out and know about it :wink:

but yeah. try flirting: but not until you know a lot about him/vvv friends with him. cos then i don't think it'll be as embarassing if he says no. (some people may think otherwise)

cos if u dnt kno him at all and flirt like mad: if he says no like there'll b massive repucussions around school (you're still in school, right?)

however, if you already know him you can just shake it off and people wouldn't think much of it: and you can still remain friends if it doesn't work out.
posh_git
:P i have my contacts. lol if there's a secret i WILL find out and know about it :wink:

but yeah. try flirting: but not until you know a lot about him/vvv friends with him. cos then i don't think it'll be as embarassing if he says no. (some people may think otherwise)

cos if u dnt kno him at all and flirt like mad: if he says no like there'll b massive repucussions around school (you're still in school, right?)

however, if you already know him you can just shake it off and people wouldn't think much of it: and you can still remain friends if it doesn't work out.

God yea thats 100% right, esp if he's a poputlar person. eveyone wil secretly laugh at u if he gets asked out and says no. omg take it slow girl!!