Is going to the cinema alone perceived as a bit sad?

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I've never had many friends, and certainly not enough friends for there to be someone available anytime I want to go and see a film. In the past I've been to the cinema alone and never thought much of it, however, on occasion people stare and only recently I've learnt that in the minds of many people, going to the cinema alone is something to be avoided and makes one appear a loner.

I know I should do what I want to do, but I'm reluctant to go alone now as I feel people in groups (ie the majority) will think its weird and I will be concious that people are staring at me and being condecending.
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Don't feel concious. It says more about the people judging you for doing something normal (like seeing a film) than you.
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I don't think it's that weird, no.
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No. If none of my friends want to see the movie, I just don't get to go?
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i wouldnt mind going alone :P no sharing pop corn
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It's not exactly sticks and stones. All they can do is give you funny looks.
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Depends on the film I think, if you go and watch like a love movie or something like this alone..I think thats a bit strange, but generally dont worry about it!
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(Original post by burninginme)
I've never had many friends, and certainly not enough friends for there to be someone available anytime I want to go and see a film. In the past I've been to the cinema alone and never thought much of it, however, on occasion people stare and only recently I've learnt that in the minds of many people, going to the cinema alone is something to be avoided and makes one appear a loner.

I know I should do what I want to do, but I'm reluctant to go alone now as I feel people in groups (ie the majority) will think its weird and I will be concious that people are staring at me and being condecending.
I'm the sort of person who is generally very friendly, but I would go to the cinema without anyone else, for sure! It really helps just not to even bother thinking about what everyone else is thinking about you: if you want to go alone, go ahead!

It can be quite hard to notice when someone is actually alone anyway: their friend(s) might just have just gone to the toilet, as far as everyone else knows!

So yeah, it's probably perceived as a bit sad, but do you need to take note of that perception ... ?
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Don't worry about it.
If they're with they're friends, why are they concerning themselves with you.
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yer dats sad blud innit
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No.
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Yes, i must say i find a it a bit sad when i see someone alone at a cinema. But then again, most people will be concentrated on the film 99% of the time than on you.

And even if someone does find it sad, they're not going to say anything about it. Good old english politeness

If you feel really self conscious about it, take a note pad and and a pen and squiggle down rubbish every once in a while whilst you're watching it.
The other people will think that you're a critic or something.
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I often go to the cinema alone, nothing strange about that. Mostly I just don't ask any of my friends because they all talk during films and that REALLY gets on my nerves.
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Nah, I think it's perfectly fine to go to the cinema alone. All you're doing is sitting in a dark room enjoying a movie, not really that social anyway. :P
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(Original post by Giaa)
Yes, i must say i find a it a bit sad when i see someone alone at a cinema. But then again, most people will be concentrated on the film 99% of the time than on you.

And even if someone does find it sad, they're not going to say anything about it. Good old english politeness

If you feel really self conscious about it, take a note pad and and a pen and squiggle down rubbish every once in a while whilst you're watching it.
The other people will think that you're a critic or something.
Or just really really weird...
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I work at the cinema, and don't look down on people who are blatantly going in alone to watch a film. However, I pretty much get free films but won't watch them alone (save for sitting for half an hour in a screen on my break or something). It's not because I feel people will look down on me, it's just that I feel lonely watching a film by myself and would much prefer at least one person with me. So I say if you're okay with watching films by yourself, then do it. If you're not, don't.

On a strange side-note, im mostly fine with watching DVDs at home by myself. Double standards really.
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People have different views about everything. People think going to cinemas alone is sad, going to club alone is sad, going to shopping alone is sad, going to holiday alone is sad.. living alone is sad.. having your own lamborghini supercar alone is sad...

but..wait one minute. Is it sad? Not entirely true, you can do what you want, how you want, when you want by going cinemas alone. You could always sit in the front row of the cinemas? Though it aint the bestest seat when watching a film.
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It depends entirely on the film. If you're an elderly anorak-wearing gentleman, and choose to go alone to watch St. Trinians, then yes, it probably is.

But for most films, I wouldn't have thought it mattered too much. After all, how much socialising do you do when the lights go down?
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lol, this reminds me the day I went to see 'Jumper' on my own. At first I felt a little uneasy especially since I was sitting next to a bunch of teenage boys 'kickin it' with their homies, but then I thought, aahhhh F**** it, I'm here to watch the movie, not their weird face expressions.
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not really, i used to have a unlimited card and would go every week, mostly on my own. but i didn't care. i could keep to my own time schedule and do/eat where i wanted.
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