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    We love each other, but he lives 6 hours away by plane
    We talk for hours everyday on msn, and sometimes on the phone, and he came here for a couple of weeks a few weeks ago and it just killed me when we had to say goodbye
    He reagrds me as his girlfriend, and is going to try and come and see me around christmas time, but I keep thinking that I might get hurt as we live so far apart, and he could find someone else nearer
    He might be coming to England to study in 2 years or so, but I don't know whether long distance could work. Does anyone have any experience or avice with this??
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    I think it can definately work. 2 years is a long way away, if he were to study here, would you see him reguarly? Would he stay here after studying? If you have an end goal to work towards then it makes it alot easier. However if it's just an on going long distance relationship for years then I don't see the point to be honest.
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    I've been in a long distance relationship for over two months now and I have yet to meet the guy. He lives in America and did plan to come and visit in December, until we started arguing about two weeks ago. The argument was basically because I said to him that I felt uncomfortable about him talking about eternal commitment, i.e. marriage, when firstly I'm 17, secondly we've only been in a relationship for two months, and thirdly technically I've never even met him. So, two weeks ago I told him that even though I love him, I cannot possibly promise him that I will and he has been super duper annoyed with me ever since.

    Anyway, in answer to your question, yes I do think it can work. Even though I am going through an awful time with my boyfriend, I still have hope that we can make things work. I have faith in him that he will one day understand and that we can stop arguing. I think that as long as you love and trust each other, it can work.
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    Unless you're totally head over heels for each other, I really think an overseas LDR is too much pressure for a couple your age. Overseas LDRs, IMO, work if you're not overseas for that long, or if you've both settled down and have the money & time to see each other regularly.

    Anyway, I would say to go with the flow for now. If you start missing him too much, get too stressed about it or really feel like you are lacking that physical comfort you so desire, then you should consider calling it off.
 
 
 
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