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Can you sustain a relationship through uni?!

Hey guys! I know this has probably been asked before. :rolleyes:

I am doin as-levels and my boyfriend will be leaving for uni this year, we're not that far apart but i'm worried that it's going to be difficult to continue/he won't want to. We do have an AMAZING relationship though. Just curious, has anyone else managed to keep a relationship going? What does everyone think? Thanks for the help :biggrin:

xxxxxx

Reply 1

xx_ambellina_xx

It's possible, I hope.

Reply 2

lskdgjsj

Rather depends on one's emotional maturity and integrity, and whether the relationship consists of two independent, self-complete people who're improved by their relationship, or two utterly codependent people who can't function without one another.

Reply 3

ciara

Personally, I couldn't. But admittedly I'm just insecure and need frequent physical contact in a relationship (I don't just mean sex, more the hugging etc). Couldn't cope with being too far away from my bf.

However, it has been done, so if you reckon you can handle it, give it a go!

Cxx

Reply 4

Wild Thing

I dont think it can.

:smile:

Reply 5

lady

I think that it can work if you both want it to. Will you be able to visit him? How long will you have been going out when he goes to uni?
xxx

Reply 6

greenmuzz

It is certainly possible. I've recently been asked to be best-man for a mate I met in uni in first year.
He's marrying the girl he met prior to uni.
Kind of says everything.

Reply 7

misses77

It can be done.
Providing you're both committed to one another, and you can get on with your own lives whilst still making each other a part of them.
If your relationship's amazing, fight for it. If you both want to continue being together at uni, talk about it - you may find you're so crazy about one another you'll try anything to stay together!
My boyfriend and I have both nearly finished our first year of uni 200miles apart, and there have been ups and downs but yeah.. it can be done!

Reply 8

spoonofdeath

I managed for a year, but then I ended it for other reasons, there wasn't any lack of trust or cheating going on. So I'm sure it can be done, it just has to be the right person.

Reply 9

Rose_Greenthumb

Here's hoping! I'm in the same situation as you so I'm really hoping things can work long distance. We'll have been together 2 years and three months by the time he goes but it's too good a relationship to throw away.

Good luck!

Reply 10

Slice'N'Dice

It's possible. I know people who are at Uni but visit each other during the week and spend weekends together etc. They say it's great.

Reply 11

CrispyDuck

Thank you everyone for your help!!! :biggrin:

I really appreciate it. I hope it works - i will try my hardest and i think he will too :rolleyes:

I know it's going to be tough though

xxx

p.s good luck Rose_Greenthumb!! Let me know how it goes! :biggrin:

Reply 12

eurasianfeline

my friend and her bf have been on a long-distance relationship for the past 3 years or so...she's HK while he's in Canada. and they're still going strong. it's not easy...but if the two of you are willing to put the effort into making it work, it'll work out somehow.

my bf and i are both doing our alevels now...and he's going to US while i'm going to UK. dunno what's going to happen yet... :redface:

Reply 13

BlackHawk

LDRs can definatly work if both people put the effort into it. It calls for a certain amount of trust and maturity also.

When I went to university there wasn't one couple who stayed together from school. It was fine for the first semester or first year but gradually they all just fell apart as people moved on with their lives, met new people and had new experiences. They just grew out of their old school time relationships.