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    About two hours ago someone asked me on a date, I said yes.

    About ten minutes ago someone else asked me on a date. I haven't replied yet.

    I want to go to the second one, but is it ok? Is it morally acceptable? And if it is, do I have to tell either/both that I'm seeing someone else as well?

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    Edit: to clarify they are both first dates and I'm not really good friends with either of them to start with, and I wouldn't really say I'd prefer one over the other
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    Short answer: No

    Long answer: No
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    It's only a date, so no don't go telling everyone. But if it's more dates or more, than probably should yah, just to avoid you looking bad :p:

    Plus it sounds like you like the second one anyway, can't you cancel the first guy, or go on a date but let him know you wanna be friends?

    "Morally acceptable"... everyone will have different opinions on that. Some will call you a ****, others won't give a crap.
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    are they just first dates?
    are either your offical bf?
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    Hoe.
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    If neither are official boyfriends yet and you dont plan to be after the first date, I dont see why not.
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    They're only dates so I don't think it's that bad
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    Well either of the guys would be offended if they found out - i guess that means a no.
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    Everyone needs a back up plan
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    They're only dates, so you may as well. But I'd make sure to make it quite clear that it's not an exclusive thing.
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    Is it ok to even think about asking if it's ok to be seeing 2 people at the same time? :curious:
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    (Original post by PoisonDonna)
    It's only a date, so no don't go telling everyone. But if it's more dates or more, than probably should yah, just to avoid you looking bad :p:

    Plus it sounds like you like the second one anyway, can't you cancel the first guy, or go on a date but let him know you wanna be friends?

    "Morally acceptable"... everyone will have different opinions on that. Some will call you a ****, others won't give a crap.
    I like both of them, it's not like I'm completely obsessed with and definitely want as a bf either of them, I don't know either particularly well so the idea would be to get to know them...
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    In the US women go on dates with guys all the time don't see why England should be any different.
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    (Original post by g_star_raw_1989)
    Hoe.
    ...tel manager.

    Nah, just a hoe.

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    If you're not dating them yet then it's like picking things up in the super market and inspecting them, nothing wrong with that
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    Sounds fine to me... it's unlikely both will ever know, it's better to keep your options open in a sense and see how it goes
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    I'm going to go for "no".
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    (Original post by weet_ABI_x)
    I like both of them, it's not like I'm completely obsessed with and definitely want as a bf either of them, I don't know either particularly well so the idea would be to get to know them...
    Oh right. Go on both then. But make it informal. Coffee or whatever (i.e. don't get wasted and sleep with both, that would definitely allow people to hurl abuse). See who you like best and persue that.

    Edit: I like the "it's like picking things up in the super market and inspecting them, nothing wrong with that" analogy.
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    Soultion: Be with me, both guys end up hurt.
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    (Original post by FinalFlash)
    Is it ok to even think about asking if it's ok to be seeing 2 people at the same time? :curious:
    That's not her question though, make a new thread asking that question, this is not "asking OP a question" this is OP asking US a question. Duh. :hmmm:

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