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    I think it's fine for just one or two dates, yeah - wouldn't bother me at all if a guy I dated had another date a week later, if it was just a first date.

    However, don't let it continue - think of Phoebe from Friends! She ended up with nothing because she was too greedy.
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    I would say No. Your just stringing them along and they might get hurt if they found out, it's not fair and if you cared about other people's feelings then you would just choose one.
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    Go on both, they're only first dates
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    imo, if you're open and honest with all concerned then you can see 10 people at the same time ...
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    if it's the first for both, then i don't see the problem. but i'd say only have a second date with one, not both. you don't want to lead them on...
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    I dont see why it's a problem, but you will probably come across people who will have an issue with it if you go shouting about it.
    im currently 'seeing' two guys, and i basically just told them it was non-exclusive. both were fine with that as long as honesty is involved.

    as long as you let them know where they stand at some point (soon) then imo you arent doing anything wrong.
    and if one of them has a problem with it and bows out then i guess its problem solved.
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    (Original post by as cruel as school children)
    At least she's literate..
    ? :iiam:
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    Two lettered word. Begins with an N ends with an O.
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    It's only a date, Nothing wrong with that. Obviously you can only allow one of these to develop into a relationship, though. Maybe you should try to postpone the second one until you know whether the first one is going anywhere.
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    it seems ok to me, to be honest. If I was only just getting to know a girl then I wouldn't want to have to put all other socialising on hold - and I wouldn't expect her to do the same. But if we decided to keep seeing each other, then I'd want to make it exclusive fairly soon.
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    It's fine. Just until one of them gets exclusive or more serious than just some dates.
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    Nothing wrong with it, you do not need to mention it. However if the guy asks if you are dating someone else as well, then tell them the truth (i.e. yes!). Do not lie to him!

    And if you decide to go with the other guy, please for heaven sakes do not bring out the "its not you its me" excuse!
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    If your not actually in a close relationship with either guys and it's just a first date then sure it's ok. You don't have to tell them you're also going a date with the other guy. You're just exploring the field. But if it does go on to be something more with one of them, better to back off the other guy or make sure he knows your just friends.
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    Yes it's ok. It's like buying two packets of maltesers , one white , one black. You're seeing both of them , but you finally choose the white ones. I'm not refering to race in this at all , white maltesers are better though

    As long as your not official going out with one of them then it's fine.
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    They're only first dates, so I think that's fine. But if you were to carry on "dating" both of them, then it wouldn't be. The whole idea of dating is to get to know somebody, to see if you can see a relationship with them. Obviously a relationship with two people IS wrong, so choose which one you like best after the first date or something.
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    (Original post by Maximum Velocity)
    Yes it's ok. It's like buying two packets of maltesers , one white , one black. You're seeing both of them , but you finally choose the white ones. I'm not refering to race in this at all , white maltesers are better though

    As long as your not official going out with one of them then it's fine.
    White maltesers are much better, its true! No contest!
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    There's some extremely Victorian attitudes in this thread. Nothing wrong with it in my opinion.
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    u r just tooooo desperate just stick with one man
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    First date = fine.
    Anything more = not fine.
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    Poor guys if they are both thinking I have a chance with this girl! But you can't really avoid the situation, they both know it's a first date so nothing too serious, but it would be weird if you kiss both of them on the seperate dates.
 
 
 
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