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    Am I sad for going out to clubs on my own to try and meet new people?

    I only have 1 best mate and when he's unavailable or skint to go out with it can sometimes be difficult to get in touch with other people to go out and socialise with. Usually most of them I just know as acquaintances rather than good friends.

    It really gets to me as I want to meet new people asap! I have a job which 90% of the time I spend doing on my own so that really isn't an option for meeting people.

    Any advice is cool
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    When you say clubs, do you mean nightclubs and bars or just social clubs?

    Trouble with bars and anything of the night variety is that it is too loud for you to talk to someone and get to know them properly.
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    i think thats cool if you have the confidence...i would always be too scared to go out on my own, good on ya

    only problem may be that people might think its a bit odd to be on your own...i know thats stupid but some may think that, still good though
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    I feel it's always best to have someone with you...in case the night turns out wrong, something happens etc. Plus sometimes you just need some company to 'buzz' you up and get you all sociable..which you wouldn't get being on your larry.

    But if you're confident enough to just walk up to people and try to chat..then kudos to you..but some people may be a bit wary!
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    It would be kind of difficult, I imagine. Maybe try getting involved in something so that you're kind of working there and helping out, that way you have a bunch of people you know and also it makes you feel like you can do anything there really. For example I worked behind a bar (for free) the other night, for the first time, and it was so much fun. You meet EVERYONE.
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    I used to do it. I'd have a lot of acquaintances in a particular club so when none of my close mates were able to come out, Id just go on by myself! Nothing wrong with it as I'd never be standing in the corner by myself with noone to talk to...but i'd only go if I knew there were gonna be other people there I could chat to...and get drunk with.
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    (Original post by robocop1andahalf)
    When you say clubs, do you mean nightclubs and bars or just social clubs?

    Trouble with bars and anything of the night variety is that it is too loud for you to talk to someone and get to know them properly.
    Yeah I was generally thinking along the line of nightclubs/bars and maybe seeing what happens?

    It gets really frustrating when I can't go out and socialise although I want to, feels as if im a bit stuck sometimes.

    Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it . I just crave meeting new people! lol
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    Go for it, mate. There is nothing wrong in it. I suggest that you go to a pub rather than a club. Don't listen to people who say that it is sad. Most of them don't have the balls to go out on their own.
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    So what do we do when we're there? How do we talk to people? If someone else is there alone, it's easy. But you can't just go and stick your head into a group and start laughing at their jokes.
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    I go out on my own every friday. Sometimes meet friends there but if I don't then I have the trick of standing my the pool table and helping people with their next shot and that generally gets offers to play a game and the night continues and we get pissed :borat:
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    I admire your confidence!! I couldn;t do it
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    I kind of go out on my own, but that's only really to the bar in the hotel i work in, and i end up drinking with people from work. So i guess that doesn't count.
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    So it's the weekend. .

    Do I or don't I? That is the question! :confused:

    Still a bit stuck, what do you think?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Usually most of them I just know as acquaintances rather than good friends.
    haha makes me laugh reminds me of pride and prejudice..:confused:
    but... yeas... go once and see how it goes? if it goes fine then continue? or just go for a few hours and leave if the plan fails?
    but like someone else said.. best to go with someone so you get a bit of confidence.
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    Pretty good to go out and see who you meet. Only done this when abroad though.
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    In most major London clubs it's not that uncommon, especially at raves or DnB clubs. Admittedly the sort of person is normally a bit 'weird' but nice nevertheless.

    Go for it if you're cool with it, I'm sure you'll start making some good friends.
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    I went out alone tonight, hoped to bump into someone I knew, though. I knew *no one at all* when I moved here, but I've made a bunch of vague friends through volunteering in music/arts places and helping run events and all that.

    I went to two different venues, a few times each, and sort of looked out for people.

    I was going to go and sit with a couple of girls who had a spare seat, but then it got taken that very moment.

    so then I came back home, saw a friend on her bike, spoke with her for a moment, then got the **** online
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    Went out alone last night and met 4 mates there: One who I knew was going, 2 who I hven't seen for 3 months due to them moving away and bumped into the guy I work with. All of them minus Wayne, I met down the pub.

    Going alone tonight but gonna meet someone there instead and have some fun.
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    Most posts so far have talked about making the journey between your house and the venue, alone, and then meeting your friends there. I don't think that counts at all. What about when you actually don't know anyone there? It's a bit tricky. I reckon the best thing to do is to try to get an empty seat by some people, then just introduce yourself. Say you're waiting for your friends or something, or that they might be here but your phone is gay so you can't find out.
 
 
 
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