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    Yes you are definitely a freak!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!! Never leave the house again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am 18 years old, male and have never had sex before. Never even had a girlfriend before and I hear most people have lost their virginity at 15 or 16. I am fearful that girls will think I am a freak and not want to be with a guy who lacks experience at such an old age. Am I a freak and am I doomed to live a life without sex and a girlfriend?
    No. Get over it. You will probably get more respect (form sensible people) for it. Does it really matter what people on here think anyway?
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    yes you are a freak

    not because of the virgin thing... because of this thread
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    (Original post by Hamcock)
    maybe if you're an ethnic majority; no if you're a minority (like proper minority)
    what's a proper minority? like Native American people?

    why the difference because of ethnicity? I don't get it.

    Are you suggesting that Native American people for example may insist on losing their virginity to another Native American person and because they are few and far between they would have less opportunity to meet - i.e. may have sex later?

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 21 and never had a gf let alone lose my v! then again i dnt belong in UK!
    Are you in prison? Sorry it's unclear from the way you've phrased your post.

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    A day wouldn't pass by on TSR without one of these threads.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am 18 years old, male and have never had sex before. Never even had a girlfriend before and I hear most people have lost their virginity at 15 or 16. I am fearful that girls will think I am a freak and not want to be with a guy who lacks experience at such an old age. Am I a freak and am I doomed to live a life without sex and a girlfriend?
    Girls don't care if you've slept with 0 or 100 people, they care about confidence. You just haven't found the right person yet and that's completely normal. Sure there are people who have had sex before 18, but that's due to many different factors, most people don't blossom until their late teens so there's nothing to worry about.

    Just wait til you find the right person instead of jumping in the bed just for the sake of it.
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    You're a lost cause, my friend. Know why? Not because you haven't had sex, but because you're so freaked out and anxious about it.
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    (Original post by Flying Cookie)
    You're a lost cause, my friend. Know why? Not because you haven't had sex, but because you're so freaked out and anxious about it.
    I'm kind of freaked out about it too - is that bad?

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    (Original post by xps.systems)
    I'm kind of freaked out about it too - is that bad?

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    It'd be way better if you weren't freaked out about it. It's really nothing important. If you want it, do it, if you get the opportunity do it, if you don't get the opportunity, seek it, etc. The truth is that if you wanted to do it, you would find a way to do it. It's not that imposible to realise.
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    (Original post by Flying Cookie)
    It'd be way better if you weren't freaked out about it. It's really nothing important. If you want it, do it, if you get the opportunity do it, if you don't get the opportunity, seek it, etc. The truth is that if you wanted to do it, you would find a way to do it. It's not that imposible to realise.
    I reckon the problem arises when the desires/plans of the two individuals partaking in the act aren't properly aligned. So it may not have been talked about fully in advance so for one individual it may be a one-night thing and for the other the feelings of a relationship could overwhelm them and make them subconsciously infatuated and emotionally dependent on the other person.

    Of course if you REALLY wanted to do it that badly then I'm sure you could just go to an escort/prostitute/brothel etc. But with any such act won't you have to think of the emotional repercussions from it? Out of curiosity how would you 'seek' it in a way which didn't involve financial exchange but which was efficient in terms of time spent?

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    search for other threads on this, because I doubt people will want to type out advice for the 34596th time.

    But in short, no you're not.
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    (Original post by xps.systems)
    ...why the difference because of ethnicity? I don't get it...
    the fact is ppl tend to choose their own race init!!! might not be considered racist but dats just human nature!!!
    if ur a minority of the minority then thats proper minority init!!! *facepam*
    i dont think u will ever understand fully how it's like to be proper minority unless u experience yourself!
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    (Original post by Jellynubbin)
    search for other threads on this, because I doubt people will want to type out advice for the 34596th time.

    But in short, no you're not.
    you see, you look really attractive and stuff like that but if you were about to let me do it with you, I feel like my inexperience would make me look like a virgin and you would reject me.
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    No you are not I have never even been kissed at 17 and I dont call myself a freak soo
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    (Original post by MaccyG)
    No you are not I have never even been kissed at 17 and I dont call myself a freak soo
    I've never been kissed and I am 3 yrs older than you (20). Not a problemo when you excel at other stuff.

    How is rugger? Don't you play cricket/croquet at Exeter?

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    (Original post by Bezzler)
    MILLIONS of threads on this all the time.

    For the last time, NO!
    Get me! Ahh!

    It's a little depressing to see other virgins think so negatively about it.
    Be proud, mehn! Love the suspense! :p:
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    (Original post by Hamcock)
    the fact is ppl tend to choose their own race init!!! might not be considered racist but dats just human nature!!!
    if ur a minority of the minority then thats proper minority init!!! *facepam*
    i dont think u will ever understand fully how it's like to be proper minority unless u experience yourself!
    well, if you're from a minority you COULD choose someone from another minority ethnic group or even the MAJORITY ethnic group? Why not? I mean in the UK there's a 92% chance that you'll be sleeping with an ethnically 'British' lady as opposed to someone else - if you're going to sideline 92% of potential mates based on ethnicity then obviously it will be more difficult.

    Are you native American by any chance? I am sort of a minority - I'm still Caucasian but not northern European (I'm mainly Persian) but I still don't understand quite what you're saying!

    Please explain further!

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    of course not it's a stupid question.

    think about how many people in your year at high school would have had sex... i can think of lots that just wouldn't.. the kind of people that are cool and everything and really friendly but just don't get involved with girls or whatever.

    it happens all the time, just because some people do lose their virginity early, there are just as many people that don't... its certainly nothing to get worried about, it's something special to hold onto and look forward to sharing with somebody.
 
 
 
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