Since geting really bad cystitis a couple of times i've become frightened of sex, we've done it twice in the last 5months because of it. I get really worried afterwards and it just makes having sex pointless. I'm very lucky because my bf doesn't mind, but I want to be able to share that affection with him, i'm just so frustrated!
frightened of sex :( Watch
- Thread Starter
- 02-08-2009 19:34
- 03-08-2009 01:54
Poor girl! I have two friends who are prone to cystitis and although I've never had it I can tell from them that it's uber painful. Have you gone to a doctor to get some suggestions? I'd say that's your best bet but just from going to the shops to get stuff for my friends and seeing what helped them all I can say is::
1) I know there are certain teas and herbal mixtures you can get at the health shop that will help soothe the pain when it hits - maybe pop in to one of them and ask the staff what they'd recommend? I think one in Ireland is called...cystopurine maybe?? You mix one of the sachets with water and drink up.
2) Also maybe having a shower after sex (a bit weird maybe but if it keeps you healthy why not?! Maybe invite him in too )
3) Alcohol and certain fluids make it loads worse so stick to water and those herbal teas. LOADS of water!!
Whatever you do, do not let this ruin sex for you! The problem here isn't sex; it's cystitis. Once you get the cystitis under control you'll be good to go. Sex is meant to be fun and if you are with a bf who is right for you in that dept of course you want to enjoy it. Even just google some remedies to try out til you find one that works.
Hope that helps!
- 03-08-2009 01:56
I have recurrent cystitis, PM if you want to talk about it, have a LOT of information that may be of use.