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    why woudl you want to talk to your teachers after school?
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    (Original post by hannah_dru)
    Isn't it obvious why you might wanna stay in touch? They might wanna know how you are, how things are in your academic world, you might want advice, you might have similar interests. It's not that uncommon, I don't get why loads of you find it weird.
    Generally you have people on your facebook you see socially. Did you socialise with your teachers out of school? If so fair enough, if not they aren't your friends and you are deluded and a bit sad if you think otherwise.

    Fair enough keep in contact if you think you might need their help, but use email or something, its a more appropriate medium for a teacher-pupil relationship.
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    maybe because they're on holiday and haven't been on FB
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    (Original post by mikeytk)
    Isn't it a bit wierd to add all your teachers? They're not your friends.
    Facebook - Keep your friends close. Keep your enemies closer.
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    i wouldn't add my teachers on facebook for the simple reason that i don't WANT them to know what i've been up to. a lot of my teachers judge the students who go out, drink, smoke and go to parties etc as the 'difficult ones' compared to the students who don't. i prefer to be at equal levelling with all of my peers instead of my teacher's judging me on what i get up to at the weekends :yep:
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    (Original post by Abhead)
    Generally you have people on your facebook you see socially. Did you socialise with your teachers out of school? If so fair enough, if not they aren't your friends and you are deluded and a bit sad if you think otherwise.

    Fair enough keep in contact if you think you might need their help, but use email or something, its a more appropriate medium for a teacher-pupil relationship.
    I did in sixth form yes and I've gone for coffee with uni lecturers. Even if you don't socialise with them outside of school/uni (you can't always, obviously because of rules) you are in no way sad or deluded and can still be friends. You've obviously never been friends with a teacher and don't get it.

    I really don't see a problem with it.
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    I have a mate who's a teacher, and after looking at his facebook, I can well understand why teachers may not want pupils/ex-pupils seeing what they get up to :ninja:
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    Facebook is serious business!

    Nothing you can do about that.
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    I vote current peer group and EX teachers/work colleagues only on FB. Teachers only after a few years as well or I feel it would be weird. I have 2 on my FB and they haven't taught me for about 8 years, I can cope with that!
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    (Original post by mikeytk)
    Sorry for being a noob but what does "This." mean?
    I agree with the statement I quoted. :P
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    All my old teachers at secondary used to have fake name accounts on Facebook just so the students wouldnt search + add them :P
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    Oh well you've finished college now, why do you still care?
    Also its only facebook, you shouldn't take it so seriously and anyway you'll probs never see them again.
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    I think you should get over it. You've moved on from college now, surely you don't need to stay in contact with them?
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    I didn't add any teachers :proud:
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    i know i shouldnt let it bother me or anything but i just dont see why they not accepting me when they are accpeting everyone else it just doesnt make sense

    like i said i always thought they liked me as a person as they were always nice to me and smiled and spoke to me whenever we saw each other around college but now im gettin the impression that they are being two faced about what they thought of me if you see what i mean
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    (Original post by ufo_01)
    i know i shouldnt let it bother me or anything but i just dont see why they not accepting me when they are accpeting everyone else it just doesnt make sense

    like i said i always thought they liked me as a person as they were always nice to me and smiled and spoke to me whenever we saw each other around college but now im gettin the impression that they are being two faced about what they thought of me if you see what i mean
    Unfortunately some people are. From my experience a lot of people think it's better not to say anything to spare someone's feelings rather than be direct. Not a lot you can do really.
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    Hahah, I added one of my teachers (who has loads of ex-pupils added) and we didn't speak or anything. But he added my best friend and started speaking to her, saying what a hard worker she was and stuff... I got an A* and she got a C! I was quite offended that he didn't bother with me, but I guess I was a bit of a dork in school.

    I don't see anything wrong with having teachers on FB, but it is a bit weird being proper friends with them... I know a girl who's slept with at least two of our ex-teachers. Weird.
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    Haha, OP this happened to me.

    Some teachers actually were the ones who added me as a friend, and with other teachers I've added them.

    But some I've tried to add have rejected me (not just 'not got round to it', but you know when someone's rejected you as you have the option of "adding them as a friend" again).

    To be honest, there's not much to say. There's not anything you can do about it, and there's no point thinking about it unless you're actually planning to ask them why they didn't accept your request, and we're not going to know why.

    I know it's annoying though, it's kind of rude. Not rude as obviously it's their choice but you know.

    I tried to add one of my P.E. teachers and she'd accepted about 30 people from my year - well, the popular ones who bullied me... but she rejected me. Nice.

    But yeah like I said, there's no point thinking about it. Their loss.
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    (Original post by hannah_dru)
    I did in sixth form yes and I've gone for coffee with uni lecturers. Even if you don't socialise with them outside of school/uni (you can't always, obviously because of rules) you are in no way sad or deluded and can still be friends. You've obviously never been friends with a teacher and don't get it.

    I really don't see a problem with it.
    Quite right, good post.
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    (Original post by malleablegrace)
    Quite right, good post.
    I'm glad someone agrees with me! I know people find it weird but I just see them as people. Often we've been interested in the same things.
 
 
 
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