Im 22 and I just feel weak and useless. I play a lot of sport and am physically strong for my height Im 4ft 11 and slim but it just disadvantages me.
Thats just the start of it though Im not really one for bf's Im quite a loner and enjoy my own company but feel I can't be who I really want to be. For example (this is what provoked me to start the thread) at work last week (I work on a psychiatric unit) a patient (40 odd year old man) started punching and kicking a male staff nurse so I sounded my alarm and and all I could do was stand there and watch, Im not allowed to restrain because Im not qualified to do it but I was chatting about it after with the other nurses and one of them said 'tbh with your small build it would be impossible to restrain someone in most cases anyway' I just stood there thinking well Id not be on my own others would be helping lol
Im starting nurse training this september in mental health and Im thinking well I enjoy the job but Im going to be so disadvantaged when applying and working at the job, women nurses do restrain but they have always been bigger/stronger than me. Men just come in more handy for working on wards for this reason.
Id also like to go travelling sometime on my own but my mum and nan are saying 'oh its not safe' you'l get raped/knifed' and all that. Whats more Ive been threatened by 14 year old girls who are bigger than me lol.
It seems that men can do as they please and be free so to speak.
I just feel useless because of my size really!
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If it makes you feel any better, I'm half an inch shy off six foot, and I'd love to be tiny. The tiny girls get all the guys
Also, you'll never get mistaken for a transvestite.
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I'm sure there are plenty of things that you can do despite you're height which can help. You're not useless and I'm sure you'll make a fantastic nurse.
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OP, you can't change your height, you can only learn to live with it.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Im 22 and I just feel weak and useless. I play a lot of sport and am physically strong for my height Im 4ft 11 and slim but it just disadvantages me.
Thats just the start of it though Im not really one for bf's Im quite a loner and enjoy my own company but feel I can't be who I really want to be. For example (this is what provoked me to start the thread) at work last week (I work on a psychiatric unit) a patient (40 odd year old man) started punching and kicking a male staff nurse so I sounded my alarm and and all I could do was stand there and watch, Im not allowed to restrain because Im not qualified to do it but I was chatting about it after with the other nurses and one of them said 'tbh with your small build it would be impossible to restrain someone in most cases anyway' I just stood there thinking well Id not be on my own others would be helping lol
Im starting nurse training this september in mental health and Im thinking well I enjoy the job but Im going to be so disadvantaged when applying and working at the job, women nurses do restrain but they have always been bigger/stronger than me. Men just come in more handy for working on wards for this reason.
Id also like to go travelling sometime on my own but my mum and nan are saying 'oh its not safe' you'l get raped/knifed' and all that. Whats more Ive been threatened by 14 year old girls who are bigger than me lol.
It seems that men can do as they please and be free so to speak.
I just feel useless because of my size really!
Secondly, a lot of it comes down to confidence I think - yes you may not be much use in restraining largely built guys, but there will definitely be other virtues you have which are irrelvant to size or gender. Can't say too much else without knowing much about you I think.
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- 02-08-2009 22:31
Perhaps you could learn a martial art? I don't think you need to feel disadvantaged because you are a little below the average height though ..
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(Original post by charlotterg5)
Constructive :/
If it makes you feel any better, I'm half an inch shy off six foot, and I'd love to be tiny. The tiny girls get all the guysAlso, you'll never get mistaken for a transvestite.
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- 02-08-2009 22:31
Don't worry, a lot feel the same.
At the paintball site, for example, I was always given the rowdy groups as they were 'less likely to hit a girl'. Then the day came where they didn't hold back, but I couldn't defend myself as it was just me out there. (Well, there was another lad, but he was an idiot and did screw all).
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Im 5ft too so similar height, training to be a vet, and the amount of people who say "oh god you can't hold that horse you're far too small" blah blah. Grates on me a bit! I make sure I work out though and am pretty strong for my size, I just dont have the weight behind me to back it up!
Being small works to your advantage though, just put on a cutesy voice and guys will do anything for you!! Managed to get my boss to manoveure a minging bin out of the way yesterday at work... GREAT SUCCESSS -
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- 02-08-2009 22:33
Well there's things the really tall people have to suffer for too. Can't walk through doorways without having to bend down, can't fit in nice sports cars, the list is endless. Nobody can do everything unfortunately, how about just embrace the good points and advantages for being that height instead of feeling weak and useless. Nobody's got the ideal package to do everything, some people are to obese, some are too skinny...happens for everybody.
Just embrace it, do what you can do and accept what you can't.
Also, I'm no nursing expert, but I'm presuming there is so much more to it than just restraining ill patients getting out of control. There are plenty of other tasks for which your height will not be a disadvantage. As for the travellling problem, loads of girls get that from their parents, safety is relevant to everyone nobody is immune from rape etc. Whether you can defend yourself is another issue entirely, but anyway I hope you don't back down from your course just because of this one small (and in many respects totally irrelavent) issue.
Plus, who knows you might find a guy who thinks you're really cute and just wishes he wants to keep you in his pocket -
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OP, you're far from useless. Sounding the alarm was a good, sensible thing to do - and if you think about it, you're lucky - what if one of these patients had a knife or something? Or if he was particularly strong or frenzied. You wouldn't want to be considered one of the useful ones then, right?
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- 02-08-2009 22:34
don't worry about the restraining thing lol - thats just one part o ur job, and if it was that necessary, they wouldnt employ a small gal lol
i think maybe u just need to see the good points in being a woman, maybe try and be more social lol make works friends and hang out with them - itll give you a reason to dress up and feel womanly. you've got alot going for u lol dont let the small things seem like a big deal -
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Im 5ft too so similar height, training to be a vet, and the amount of people who say "oh god you can't hold that horse you're far too small" blah blah. Grates on me a bit! I make sure I work out though and am pretty strong for my size, I just dont have the weight behind me to back it up!
Being small works to your advantage though, just put on a cutesy voice and guys will do anything for you!! Managed to get my boss to manoveure a minging bin out of the way yesterday at work... GREAT SUCCESSS -
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Ive been mistaken for a boy though lol. I don't get any guys really
and as for the people who was saying stuff about your size, put them right! stand up for yourself, the word will soon get around that you are strong both physically and mentally and people will stop making remarks.
your height is something that you cannot change, so you have to start accepting it and your confidence will soon grow. i also agree with taking up a martial arts class! -
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Ive been mistaken for a boy though lol. I don't get any guys really
Anyway being female is an advatange in loooads of other ways. There are women who can kick a lot of guys asses and, although raw strength does help, it's certainly possible to overpower people in other ways. There may be things on that job that males are not good at. I don't know too much about the job description but think about things that you can do better because you are female. -
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don't worry about the restraining thing lol - thats just one part o ur job, and if it was that necessary, they wouldnt employ a small gal lol
i think maybe u just need to see the good points in being a woman, maybe try and be more social lol make works friends and hang out with them - itll give you a reason to dress up and feel womanly. you've got alot going for u lol dont let the small things seem like a big deal -
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There will always be bigger and also smaller persons than you. I can be annoyed by big guys who run over me because they are bigger... But just be who you are and you will see that size is not what matters.
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- 02-08-2009 22:45
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Makes it easier for them to suck ****? What be your justification here?
Seriously though OP, in the same way as I can't change being tall, you can't change being short, and I don't think being short is necessarily a bad thing. And I'm sure you don't look like a boy -
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You should change the 'female' in your thread title to 'small'.
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Well everyone here is certainly a barrel of monkeys tonight...
It's not just woman who get this. I am also fairly short at 5ft 3.5. I am however quite largly built but also get a lot of "What on earth can you do in a fight" thing. I'd be lying if I said this type of thing never bothered me, especially when people attribute my actions due to a percieved "Napoleon complex". Both the good and the bad.
There isn't a lot you can do about it, but you already know that. Just have a laugh at those who tell you otherwise. Theres not that many who could restrain a largly built man by themselves.
Do you get to dose them once you have qualified? That may help somewhat.
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