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    So the moral of the story is; don't log on to your boyfriends facebook?

    I don't understand couples who give each other their facebook passwords. The scope for it to go disastrously wrong (like in this case!) is huge!!
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    (Original post by TomTeeTom)
    I would never ever ever ever ever ever ever give my girlfriend my facebook password. not in a million billiona trillion years.
    Orrrrrrrrrrrrrr.... you should be a trustworthy enough boyfriend so that you have nothing to hide from her. I don't mean you should hand out your facebook password, but if you're loyal and trustworthy then it shouldn't matter either way and you shouldn't feel the need to make such a comment.

    OP after four years, for him to say things aren't peachy shows something's up. And the way he only said you were his girlfriend "-ish" shows something's playing on his mind. IMO this is all perfectly reasonable to discuss with a friend, but obviously not with a previous fling with whom he hasnt spoken for years. Confront him, but not in an accusatory way. Try to get to the bottom of this "mmm yeah-ish" problem first - from the evidence he hasn't cheated with this girl yet so don't make that your main argument or even perhaps mention it until you can discuss the relationship between the two of you. Accusing him will only make things worse.

    :hugs: It is harsh though, hope things work out for you two
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    What a *******. Leave him.
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    all he said is its going okish, maybe he thinks you two aren't getting on as well as you could be, or arguing more then normal? its not like hes cheated on you, all he said was its okish, and you cant be mad at him wanting to meet up with his friends-weather or not they havn't spoke in a while!
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    well if you do argue a lot you can´t blame him.
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    (Original post by Psycho0101)
    Lesson 1: Don't treat a relationship as your life and give it so much of importance.

    Oh my GOD...if only teenagers could listen to you.....SO many people need to read that!

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    (Original post by aeiou81)
    OP after four years, for him to say things aren't peachy shows something's up. And the way he only said you were his girlfriend "-ish" shows something's playing on his mind. IMO this is all perfectly reasonable to discuss with a friend, but obviously not with a previous fling with whom he hasnt spoken for years. Confront him, but not in an accusatory way. Try to get to the bottom of this "mmm yeah-ish" problem first - from the evidence he hasn't cheated with this girl yet so don't make that your main argument or even perhaps mention it until you can discuss the relationship between the two of you. Accusing him will only make things worse.

    :hugs: It is harsh though, hope things work out for you two
    Thank you for your advice. I know exactly why things aren't peachy in our relationship atm. We both know it, but I thought that we both love each other so much we would stick by each other no matter what. Last thing I thought was that he would openly admit that we have been through a tough time recently to an ex from the past.
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    (Original post by butchered_wyer)
    all he said is its going okish, maybe he thinks you two aren't getting on as well as you could be, or arguing more then normal? its not like hes cheated on you, all he said was its okish, and you cant be mad at him wanting to meet up with his friends-weather or not they havn't spoke in a while!
    No, he said he has a girlfriend -ish. I would say it's a pretty definite thing after 4 years.

    Then he said they're not getting on well and mentioned she's going away on holiday, as though hinting to the other girl that he'd like for something to happen in those 2 weeks.
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    He's clearly trying to get a piece of this girl. I can't imagine my boyfriend ever saying that to anybody, and if he did he'd be leaving sharpish. Preferably through an upstairs window.
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    (Original post by PygmyShrew)
    Oh yeah, because it would be so much better if she doesn't find out he's being a ****..?

    I don't understand you.
    If she didn't find out, then she wouldn't be in this situation? Meaning that if she found out later, it could be better for her :P
    I.E. she could find out while hes actually there..so then he'd be forced to say something? :dontknow:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon or delete.

    Ok, I know it was bad but I logged in to my boyfriends facebook account. I know his password and he knows mine, and I've logged in before to upload his photos and he doesn't mind. I logged in today to upload a photo of us I took today. Then a chat box came up from a girl. He must have been logged in at the same time because I could see the conversation they were having. She is someone he has known in the past. I vaguely remember him telling me about him kissing her ages ago, but I could be mistake as to whether this is the same girl.
    Anyway, she asked him whether he has a girlfriend. His reply was this: 'mmm yeah-ish. things aren't going so peachy. mmmm, we argue alot it seems and shes off on hol for 2 weeks'. This was before he realised that she has a partner herself. He also suggested meeting up for a catch up.
    I'm confused. Is this something I should be ok with after four years of being together - 'mmm yeah-ish' ???? I feel betrayed, I would never admit flaws in our relationship to someone I hadn't spoken to in years.
    Please don't have a go about being on his facebook about. Please, what should I do? I feel hurt
    maybe the girl is more friend of his. If anything it is more like the girl would do something than your BF, maybe he trusts her too much; you could tell him to to be aware that she may be after him.
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    (Original post by katie_bird)
    You should ******* kill him the betraying basard.
    Let's ******* kill everyone!!!!111one!1eleven11!
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    (Original post by BossManSingh)
    Upload all naked pictures of him on his facebook, that will teach him.
    LOLOL!
    I agree
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    (Original post by Kinsula)
    Kick him in the ******** REALLY hard

    OMFG I LOVE the thing in your signature! I LOVE that song its soooo hilarious :p:

    And I agree with this guy's advice, kick him in the balls and then dump his sorry sorry sorry waste of a living being ass. Then kick him once more in the balls to really drive the message home.

    Hes Dumped
    Hes Dumped
    Hes Really Reaaallyyy DUMPED.

    :woo: :woo: :woo: :woo: :woo: :woo: :woo: :woo: :woo: :woo: :woo: :woo:
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    (Original post by aeiou81)
    Orrrrrrrrrrrrrr.... you should be a trustworthy enough boyfriend so that you have nothing to hide from her. I don't mean you should hand out your facebook password, but if you're loyal and trustworthy then it shouldn't matter either way and you shouldn't feel the need to make such a comment.

    OP after four years, for him to say things aren't peachy shows something's up. And the way he only said you were his girlfriend "-ish" shows something's playing on his mind. IMO this is all perfectly reasonable to discuss with a friend, but obviously not with a previous fling with whom he hasnt spoken for years. Confront him, but not in an accusatory way. Try to get to the bottom of this "mmm yeah-ish" problem first - from the evidence he hasn't cheated with this girl yet so don't make that your main argument or even perhaps mention it until you can discuss the relationship between the two of you. Accusing him will only make things worse.

    :hugs: It is harsh though, hope things work out for you two
    Reading threads some girls post on here though, they often feel betrayed if a guy so much as speaks to another girl. :p:


    OP: talk to your boyfriend about it, but it certainly seems very unfair of him to say "yeah-ish". It's hard to tell though if he was trying to hint something to the girl, or if he was just annoyed if you'd had an argument or whatever. But it certainly seems a bit odd.
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    I don't get why you going on holiday is a relevant response to "Do you have a girlfriend?" o_o, he may have just wanted someone to talk to about it, it depends what his friends are like, if they are all guys he might find it hard to talk to them about srs relationship stuff, depending on their personalities. Since this is his ex, he must be able to trust her, maybe that's why he told her. You could try talking to him about these problems you already have, you don't HAVE to tell him you read the chat until it's absolutely necessary, for example if he says everything's fine you could bring it up.
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    I know.
    You can pretend it didnt happen.
    And then to project your anger, when you're taking lovey dovey coupley photos, make sure you look perfect, but ALWAYS catch him unawares.
    Then upload them onto facebook.
    Hey Presto!
    Hundreds of photos of him blinking and squinting and gurning. Eventually you'll find him so unattractive that you can dump him, publicly on facebook seems as though facebook seems to be the entire basis of relationships these days.

    Social Interaction, a new application from Facebook.
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    Punch him in his weiner!
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    (Original post by sophisticated)
    So the moral of the story is; don't log on to your boyfriends facebook?

    I don't understand couples who give each other their facebook passwords. The scope for it to go disastrously wrong (like in this case!) is huge!!
    She only went on his account to upload pictures. Not her fault, it was a coincidence and he was a prick - it's good that she nows now.
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    Lol.

    I can only laugh at couples who give each other their email/facebook passwords, credit cards, debit pin, house keys etc. This leads to them no longer being individuals and is asking for trouble. Is it not possible to lead an individual life, giving each other space, and yet be in a relationship?
 
 
 
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