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    I'm going to be upfront about this: I don't drink much. I enjoy a little alcohol, now and again, in a dinner/relaxed setting, but the thought of going out and getting plastered just isn't my idea of fun.

    Eh, who knows. I might come round to the idea, or discover I do actually enjoy it. I get the impression that a lot of the social side of University life is party-party - I hope it's an exaggerated stereotype, sometimes. I guess... I guess I'm just posting to see whether there's alternatives, or to learn a bit about what people who don't enjoy drinking so much do to socialise! Experience scouting.

    And are you going to be considered a... stingy hermit if you decline drinking? I know I should think most people are pretty reasonable about these things, but when I was gapping I had people try - and fail, repeatedly - to cajole me round to joining them in a piss-up. I'm so boring. xD

    PS - I've been to York city several times and think it's gooorgeous.
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    Well I'm not in university, but I know for a fact people won't consider you a stingy hermit for declining alcohol. Most would see it as quite sensible.
    Myself, I don't tend to drink much purely because I don't like the taste. Most people say it's acquired, but I've been trying to acquire it for quite some time to no avail :laugh:
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    The student stereotype of drinking does have some basis in fact, but there are plenty of people who don't conform to that stereotype. What they do varies, but there are plenty of non-alcoholic socials available, both by societies and by YUSU and the JCRs (film nights, etc)
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    I'm not at York yet, but figured I'd post *shrugs* I'm doing Eng & Politics. Hi!

    The city is stunning :yep: Haha, and what's wrong with being a hermit? You can always form a hermits united soc :p:

    It's an interesting question though. There's bound to be people who, for whatever reasons, don't go out every night with the intention of getting smashed. What do they do? I know there's a QuietSoc, which in it's own words is:
    A society that doesn't have its social emphasis on drinking, but instead, we go out on fun cheap or free socials.
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    I'm not off to York, but this thread interests me anyway...

    I completely agree, going out and getting pissed every night does not at all appeal to me. I mean, I like going out and getting drunk, but it should be a treat, not something that's done ALL the time, it just gets boring.
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    Morose, hello! I'm liking the anime avatar, though I'm not in to FMA. I'll be blatantly flaunting Nausicaa back at you.

    I'm doing English and Related Lit. myself, did I mention?

    QuietSoc sounds intriguing.

    And thank you, Laser. That's sort of what I hoped/expected. But you know, nightmare tales, the media, etc...~
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    Having completed a year of uni, i can honestly say that the stereotype is generally true for the majority. Nevertheless, u can still enjoy nights out drinking little or no alcohol as I have done without being considered a weirdo. In fact, when i told various people i don't really drink, a lot were impressed so don't worry about it.
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    I've found that other people at uni respect my decision not to drink much, or at all. Most of my uni friends are like me in that they rarely drink and prefer quiet nights in/going to the cinema/out for meals etc.! However, most other students seem to enjoy getting plastered, which I really don't understand the appeal of!

    I would say that you shouldn't feel pressurised into drinking and that you can still go out clubbing and to bars without drinking. You'll probably meet some like-minded people at uni who also don't drink much anyway.
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    (Original post by Chaiteafairy)
    Morose, hello! I'm liking the anime avatar, though I'm not in to FMA. I'll be blatantly flaunting Nausicaa back at you.

    I'm doing English and Related Lit. myself, did I mention?

    QuietSoc sounds intriguing.
    Miyazaki is awesome as is your avatar. :yep: Thanks! I need to change mine soon, methinks.

    I thought you had, heh. I'm wondering why I had assumed you were doing English o_o Probably because it's a fantastic subject :P:
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    Miyazaki or Hetalia here, mostly. x3 The latter is an extremely guilty pleasure of mine. <33

    Well, I actually posted in a thread just before putting this one up - that might be it? xD
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    hmm, this thread interests me (i was originally going to york but have decided to go for a different course somewhere else). however, i completely agree about the whole drinking scenario. it's not generally my kind of style. i don't mind the occasional outing/going clubbing and drinking but generally i'm with a group of friends i know really well and there's always one of us that stays sober so nothing bad can happen. i'm just a little worried that when i go to uni and start drinking next to people i don't know something shameful will happen!
    however, after being on a gap year and meeting new people who prefer to do other things than getting drunk it goes to show that there are people out there who share the same insight as you and that there are always alternatives to drinking.
    btw OP i love hetalia too. >< some national pride with the icon
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    ...I totally didn't notice your icon, Yas, until I read the latter part of your post.

    NOW, you're making me think of me and my friend from Hong Kong at school and sixth form. xD NOW I want to draw pictures, darn it. <3 I was going to the London meet-up on Wednesday, but I haven't had chance to make a costume, and alas, need the money my job can offer me (it's either: have no money for costume but all the free time to make it, or have money for costume but not enough free time to make it!) October expo beckons as a crack-tastic weekend outing.

    That was another thing I was considering... if I'm to go out with a group of friends in the future, and, say, several of them do enjoy getting plastered, I can sort of see myself as the mother duck sort. Which is useful to have around, I suppose, but could be irritating if they're/I'm forced into that situation often. It's striving for the right balance, as with most things.
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    i live in cambridge and am poor atm so i can't do meet ups unfortunately ;__; (plus i fail at textiles and don't have anything costumey either).
    i had alot of international people from HK, China, Korea etc at my 6th too! i miss a fair few of them.
    my uni has quite a few societies that are offering trips to the expo in october (first expo for me if i choose to go and i'm 99% certain that i'd like to).
    i'm the youngest in my group of friends (some are nearly 2 years older than me) and therefore give into peer pressure more than i should. problem is i have a terrible tolerance for alcohol (a couple of shots mixed with a vodka pop or 2 and i'm gone) but luckily i have a friend who's very much the 'mother duck' type. i'll need to find another one of those at uni asap. most of my friends already at uni say 1st year is all about meeting the right sorts of people and getting drunk at all the socials along the way. work comming in second. not so sure if i agree with the last part :shifty:
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    I think freshers have a reputation in particular for getting so pissed they up-check. P:

    Or, wait, is that just early twentieth century Oxfordians that go by the name of Sebastian Flyte? <3

    So it doesn't help that I torment myself by reading Brideshead Revisited and, worse in respects of alcohol, The Secret History.

    * w* Ooh, it would be soo neat if a society at York was planning to venture down. I'd be in like a shot.
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    I don't drink and should hopefully be at York this year. I don't mind people who socially drink but drinking to get hammered seems pointless to me.
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    It really looks like I'm not going to be all that lonely in this regard. x3
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    Although I do enjoy a good drink, I'll comment anyway:

    A lot of uni stereotypes about going out and getting pissed are true, but (and that's a pretty big but) for a lot of people, definitely for me, I prefer the atmosphere more than anything else. I love partying, whether I've been drinking or not. Going out with a gaggle of friends, laughter and dancing essential is what makes my uni life so brilliant, to be honest

    But, even as someone who enjoys drinking, I don't look down my nose at anyone who does, nor do their experiences consist of cinema goings and meals out - they still party hard like the rest of us
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    (Original post by Chaiteafairy)

    And are you going to be considered a... stingy hermit if you decline drinking? I know I should think most people are pretty reasonable about these things, but when I was gapping I had people try - and fail, repeatedly - to cajole me round to joining them in a piss-up. I'm so boring. xD
    Haha you don’t need to enjoy artificial stimulants to be “interesting” – be as crazy and subversive as you like on your own terms!

    I completely understand why other people would drink/enjoy alcohol, but I'm not fussed either. I'm quite partial to the thought of meeting up with good friends and talking about absolute nonsense, so if you’re pretty open-minded and have opinions to share I’m sure you’ll be fine :p:
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    I'm one of the sad ones who feel if I'm not drinking there's not much point in going out. But I acknowledge it's a pretty poor frame of mind. I'd never go out night after night on end and get smashed, but I wouldn't head out sober. But that's just me (and my whimpering insides).

    And those who refrain from drinking in excess are definitely doing themselves a favour, and you definitely won't have it held against you. Don't worry
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    Aww, thank you, Dissonance. I certainly have opinions, but in my usual circles I've been reluctant to voice them too loudly. xD I do fear I might bore people/seem TOO unusual.
 
 
 
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