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When you were young, was getting married ever a dream of yours?

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Est.1989

defo, i even went through a phase where i would order wedding magazines and subsribe to websites associated with weddings. i was obsessed, so my mom sat me down and told me to get a life.
i still have the scrapbook tho

Reply 61

missaphrodite

Lefty Leo

I hate the way marriage and family is bigged up as some ideal goal for women, culturally or through the media.

I yearn for the day when women are considered truly equal partners!

We are equal (except in work... :mad:

)
but it's my personal goal because...I don't know...it's still a fairytale for me. I don't think I need to or have to, but I'd absolutely hate it if I never got married :sad:

I know full well I don't have to, but who's going to say no to a gorgeous dress and a massive cake and a gathering of all your friends and family and a celebration of your relationship and a honeymoon and omg :woo:

Yeah, I get a bit carried away :biggrin:

Reply 62

Ella-x

Not at all - when I was younger I dreamt of being a cat. No joke, I refused to answer the register with anything other than "Meow". I also insisted on lapping up milk from a bowl. I was a strange animal, sorry, person. :biggrin:

Reply 63

x-pri-x

meee =D i still do i want a massive bollywood type wedding =D

Reply 64

Lefty Leo

missaphrodite

We are equal (except in work... :mad:

)
but it's my personal goal because...I don't know...it's still a fairytale for me. I don't think I need to or have to, but I'd absolutely hate it if I never got married :sad:

Yeah, I get a bit carried away :biggrin:

I would say no to those for these reasons:
a) The financial cost
b) The emotional cost of the inevitable breakup
c) The emotional cost on any children
d) All those wasted years of life
e) Lack of independence
f) Your success being measured by that of others, not yourself.

Reply 65

missaphrodite

Lefty Leo

a) well yeah there's a cost, but it's meant to be something you only do once.
b) break up is NOT inevitable!!! in any way!!!
c) it's better to be married to the mother/father of your children though :s-smilie:

d) I'm going to be with the person I love for as many years as possible anyway, and not a minute is wasted :smile:

e) Well, if you're married, part of that is that your partner has to respect your independence and stick by your decisions.
f) Not really, your successes count too!

I don't think anyone can understand why someone would want to get married, unless they're completely in love with someone. Then, it becomes obvious :biggrin:

Reply 66

Lefty Leo

missaphrodite

d) I'm going to be with the person I love for as many years as possible anyway, and not a minute is wasted :smile:

Mm, totally get your final point.

But for the others:

a) It isn't anymore ..
b) Statistically speaking, marriages are unlikely to succeed.
c) Or to not have any kids!? :p:

d) You won't say that when it ends! :sadnod:

e) In a way, but you give up total independence and have to compromise.
f) Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh.

Reply 67

Malsy

lol you two..it's like you're bloody married to each other already :eek:

Reply 68

Lefty Leo

Malsy

lol you two..it's like you're bloody married to each other already :eek:

She wishes, the perv :rolleyes:

Yep

It has always been part of my fuzzy and never-elaborated checklist of stuff I should get round to at some point in my life.

Reply 71

ياسمين

I'm like those little girls that always dreamed of being married, I think for a lot of girls they'd really love that stability of being looked after and having one man to give all your love to. But, I think nowadays things are changing, we don't need to marry to have kids, to leave home etc. :smile:

Reply 72

englandforever

Nah never thought about it and now I'm not too keen on the idea either

No.

Get Cape.Wear Cape.Fly.

How on earth did you come up with that assumption?!? Just because I never spent my childhood imagining getting married doesn't mean I don't want to get married now and have children. :rolleyes:

Who put the stupid idea in your head that you have to 'spend your childhood imagining getting married' in order to consider marriage later on???? if you dont marry...then why exist at all?!?!?! cos then you cannot have children and whats the point in that.

Reply 75

Atrixa

No, I wanted to be a princess instead.

Reply 76

loveisjustasong

money-makes-friends

Obviously, everyone else in this thread knows what I'm talking about except you. You've completely misunderstood the thread. You're a lunatic.

Uh, no.

It still is.

Get Cape.Wear Cape.Fly.

Obviously, everyone else in this thread knows what I'm talking about except you. You've completely misunderstood the thread. You're a lunatic.

This thread is like...the title of the thread, it's like saying...'When you were young did you ever imagine that one day you would become an adult?'.

I mean...it's a very obvious question...I dont know what planet you are from.