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    I quite like being alone sometimes. I adore my friends, but it's peaceful and I think it's important that you can be OK with being by yourself...I personally don't really care what people think about me at all. Symptom of living in London.
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    I don't like the idea of people thinking I don't want to speak to them or that I don't like socialising because that isn't true. I try to not be bothered by going out on my own if people see me and ask who I'm with and I'm like no one. I can feel self conscious because I do care what people think of me but going out alone is something that I enjoy and is better sometimes like shopping! If I'm with friends I just talk to them and I need all my concentration to shop!
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    In my experience, if people think/know you're a loner, they will try to avoid you. There is a stigma attached to being seen with a loner...nobody wants to be that loner's first friend. And therein lies the problem. As a loner, you simply cannot make friends because people put up a barrier between themselves and you, for the sake of their own image and reputation. :rolleyes:

    If only you had made a little effort to be approachable to begin with then none of that stigma would be present. OK, people may not exactly like you as a good friend, but they wouldn't feel obliged to avoid you either.
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    Sometimes people cannot help it, they want to be sociable but lack the confidence to click with loads of people and expand their network.
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    People see me as a loner, and strangely many of them want to be my friend. Of course i dont want to have a close friend who dont understand me and depend on me too much.. im happy being on my own.
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    (Original post by goodLife)
    Say if people saw you alone all/most of the time becaue you were quiet and enjoyed your own company or something, well would it bother you if others thought you were a loner honestly? Would you be ashamed of being a loner? Or would you be proud of it? If so why?
    Been a quiet keep-to-myself guy all my life and people know that I'm a bit of a loner and I really don't care. What does bother me is that because of this, I've never had a girlfriend or never really done anything with a female. Oh well, as long as I get a good grad job its all worth it since thats what I came to Uni for.
 
 
 
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