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    OP, don't do anything. First, she's with someone at the moment, so don't get involved like that. Second, she's 10 years older than you... the mentality of someone that age and your age is, IMO, significantly different. However, if you genuinely believe getting those feelings off of your chest will help you get over her, then we can't stop you...

    But it's good to reflect on the experience. Next time you encounter a situation like that (and assuming the girl isn't attached) you need to be more assertive: if you're not willing to take the risks, you won't get what you want.
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    (Original post by trm90)
    OP, don't do anything. First, she's with someone at the moment, so don't get involved like that. Second, she's 10 years older than you... the mentality of someone that age and your age is, IMO, significantly different. However, if you genuinely believe getting those feelings off of your chest will help you get over her, then we can't stop you...

    But it's good to reflect on the experience. Next time you encounter a situation like that (and assuming the girl isn't attached) you need to be more assertive: if you're not willing to take the risks, you won't get what you want.
    I was worried about the large age gap. If she was 18 or 19, maybe 20, I might have told her my feelings but that large age gap put some doubt in my mind along with everything else that happened.

    Why do all the great girls have to be so much older than me?
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    Too late

    from where i see it, you had a chance, lost it cause you succumbed to peer pressure and now need to move on or do something drastic

    be cheesy
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    Sounds more like infatuation than anything else to me, and honestly dude you probably havent got a chance in hell with her, she probably just sees you as her mates lazy annoying little brother and to be frank you telling her anything would not gain you anything, and more likely than not she will be laughing at you when you turn your back.

    Give it up.
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    dont go back you're too young and shes too old
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    Sounds like a teenage crush, just get over it? She's dating someone else and well she's 9 years older than you!
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    (Original post by inksplodge)
    Sounds like a teenage crush, just get over it? She's dating someone else and well she's 9 years older than you!
    its more a casual relationship but I get what you mean.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    its more a casual relationship but I get what you mean.
    she will probably kiss you on the forhead, if you told her, i think she likes you as a person, or a lil bro
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    During the October half term last year, I went and stayed at my brother's house. He shares a house with three other Germans - one boy (aged 29), two girls (aged 26 and 27). More like one man, two women to be fair.

    So I arrived and met his house mates when I was there. I met the girl aged 26 first, she was pretty cool, had a funny sense of humour, not great looking but still good. I met the man the next morning, he was laid back and good to chat to.

    I met the girl aged 27 in the afternoon that day, and this is where the problems start. She has this really bubbly personality, really cheerful and always looking on the bright side of life. She has boundless energy and jokes around a lot. She flirted a lot with me, particularly when we first met, but I wasn't great at flirting back. She's really intelligent too (got a 1st at degree and a PHd in Physics from a top university). I became really attracted to her. Her English wasn't always great, but that made for even more laughs with her. Her looks were beautiful too - long brown hair, fairly tall (5'10, just shorter than me), athletic body, curvy, firm breasts and arse. I was attracted to her in about a day. We did a fair amount together, for example climbing (where she was seriously stunning).

    Here are my problems however. What we did together, we did with my brother and at least one of the other house mates. I felt constrained by my brother - he has never had a girlfriend himself and he expects me to act in a certain manner about the people he knows so I don't give off the wrong impressions. I didn't want to seem too pervy or overly interested so whenever she spoke to me, I didn't look her in the eye much and nor did I speak with much excitement as if I was interested with what she said.

    Throughout the day, when she came home from work, I was always watching the TV and later that week, my brother told me she thought I was a lazy arse (when I'm not). I wasn't very enthusiastic about much and I gave the excuse that I was preparing more an important upcoming university interview. I was then unsuccessful with that interview (she wished me luck for it) and I'm afraid she may think I'm both an academic and social failure if I return to my brother's to stay for another week.

    I later learned that the German man and the woman I really liked were in a casual relationship, something my brother told me, and now it just seems even more wrong. I really, really liked her, loved her almost, because of both her brilliant personality and amazing looks.

    Sorry for this being so long - what should I do? I want to return to my brother's for another week and tell her my feelings, but with all the stuff that happened before, she will probably not be too keen on me anymore.
    TROLL ALERT.
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    Tell her you'll do anything to her for free, she'll fall for you head over heels

    Lol, if she's attracted to you then she'll give you the signs. If not, then don't bother. Some girls are flirty with guys because they know they're great.. so you may just be another guy. To go out with a girl like that you need a genuine personality that SHE would be attracted to.
 
 
 
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