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    (Original post by Bateman)
    you have friends?
    Who'd've thought it, eh?
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    Who'd've thought it, eh?
    Yeah, i certainly didn't, i mean you don't lack the looks :p:
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    (Original post by Bateman)
    Yeah, i certainly didn't, i mean you don't lack the looks :p:
    I don't lack the look for friends..? :confused:
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    I don't lack the look for friends..? :confused:
    lol, no you don't, not for 5 am anyway.
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    (Original post by x-pri-x)
    why dont u enroll to a new college next year who do the same subjects/exam boards as you
    and just make a complete new start?
    Do not do this. you don't know where you're headed.
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    (Original post by Deyn_08)
    Do not do this. you don't know where you're headed.
    Tell me more :/
    I was also thinking this wasn't such a great idea- won't everyone have already got into groups there as well?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Tell me more :/
    I was also thinking this wasn't such a great idea- won't everyone have already got into groups there as well?
    I did this. disastarous mistake. I am now leaving the college.
    people seem to go to their friendships groups after class. they just leave in a hurry, leaving you stranded.
    i though it would be good to start somewhere afresh, i guess that dosn,t happen in college/6th form. you never really know how friendly a 6thform is until you start there. try and go with some people you know already.
    you can make aquaintances with people from 6th form, but i don't think you can make proper friends there. if you have exsisting friends, you can make better friends via connection.
    please don't go it alone. you'll regret it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yep, I want to try this, definitely
    I've been looking for some clubs to join for a while, but there don't seem to be many in the local area. I'll keep trying!
    Don't know if this would help, but doing voluntary work may also be an option...it may sound lame but you can meet people from all different backgrounds and ages...and if you are really keen on the "joining clubs" idea...you never know who you could meet whilst doing voluntary work...thats how i got into my local amateur dramatics club, I got talking to this woman who's daughter did drama and she suggested i go to one of their rehearsals
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    (Original post by Punkyetta)
    Don't know if this would help, but doing voluntary work may also be an option...it may sound lame but you can meet people from all different backgrounds and ages...and if you are really keen on the "joining clubs" idea...you never know who you could meet whilst doing voluntary work...thats how i got into my local amateur dramatics club, I got talking to this woman who's daughter did drama and she suggested i go to one of their rehearsals
    Hm, something else that I've considered actually
    My mum works for a hospice charity so I could quite easily get some volunteer work there but the problem is that the vast majority of volunteers are retired older ladies!
    May I ask what volunteer work you did?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hm, something else that I've considered actually
    My mum works for a hospice charity so I could quite easily get some volunteer work there but the problem is that the vast majority of volunteers are retired older ladies!
    May I ask what volunteer work you did?
    I worked in a shop in a hospital near where i live...it was a maternity shop so you got to see the babies and the parents and have a chat with them etc...and yes, the majority of the volunteers there were old ladies...i was the youngest volunteer on the team!!! But I got on with quite a few of the ladies there and they were very glad to have a young person to help them

    So, give it a try, you may or may not like it but it gives you an opportunity to interact with people of all ages
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    i have the same problem.
    i had a best friend at uni but we never went out together.and when i asked her she always said she couldn't come.she would proabably lose the shag with her bf or the sucking of his ****.
    she has a bf and she is alwaaaays with him and his losers bf's friends lol
    btw if it wasnt me she would be a loner sitting around alone bcs no one wanted her company.
    i am changing uni and country so that could help meet new people and other nationalities.people suck anyway.don't bother that much
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i have the same problem.
    i had a best friend at uni but we never went out together.and when i asked her she always said she couldn't come.she would proabably lose the shag with her bf or the sucking of his ****.
    she has a bf and she is alwaaaays with him and his losers bf's friends lol
    btw if it wasnt me she would be a loner sitting around alone bcs no one wanted her company.
    i am changing uni and country so that could help meet new people and other nationalities.people suck anyway.don't bother that much
    That sucks
    I've always been the one with the boyfriend, yeah, but everyone should know that I'd chose to go out with them rather than him because I see him all the time and hardly ever do anything with my friends, if they'd only ask, I'd just tell him I couldn't see him...the worst thing is that he goes out drinking with a big group of friends who are always asking him to go out, but I have to stay at home because I'm younger than him
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    Oh my God. Seriously OP, you sound exactly like me. I went through a stage of having quite a few friends through secondary school but we drifted apart when I went to college as some of them left and got jobs and I struggled with 2 part time jobs to save up some money for uni.

    During sixth form, I had two best friends and I spent ALL my time with them. My best friend at sixth form and I would spend all our time together - literally every day, never talking to anyone else and I saw my friend who worked about once a month. I tried to talk to other people but I split my time between two sixth forms. At my new one, the girls in the class whispered about me behind my back and if I talked to anyone else at ,my regular sixth form, they couldn't wait to get away lol.

    Things haven't changed at uni unfortunately. I've made new acquaintances but none ever ask if I want to do anything outside of uni. I've invited myself out a few times but it's always me making the effort and I tend to have random friends instead of being part of a group which is a bit embarassing as it's my birthday in 4 days and I don't feel like I can have a proper night out or a party. Once I get talking to someone, I'm alright and I'm not an obviously weird person - I don't look really bad or spend all my time reading books. I just find it hard to relax but it's starting to depress me lol.

    Sorry OP. That doesn't really help you but I just wanted you to know that I get what you're saying lol.
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    (Original post by xJessx)
    Oh my God. Seriously OP, you sound exactly like me. I went through a stage of having quite a few friends through secondary school but we drifted apart when I went to college as some of them left and got jobs and I struggled with 2 part time jobs to save up some money for uni.

    During sixth form, I had two best friends and I spent ALL my time with them. My best friend at sixth form and I would spend all our time together - literally every day, never talking to anyone else and I saw my friend who worked about once a month. I tried to talk to other people but I split my time between two sixth forms. At my new one, the girls in the class whispered about me behind my back and if I talked to anyone else at ,my regular sixth form, they couldn't wait to get away lol.

    Things haven't changed at uni unfortunately. I've made new acquaintances but none ever ask if I want to do anything outside of uni. I've invited myself out a few times but it's always me making the effort and I tend to have random friends instead of being part of a group which is a bit embarassing as it's my birthday in 4 days and I don't feel like I can have a proper night out or a party. Once I get talking to someone, I'm alright and I'm not an obviously weird person - I don't look really bad or spend all my time reading books. I just find it hard to relax but it's starting to depress me lol.

    Sorry OP. That doesn't really help you but I just wanted you to know that I get what you're saying lol.
    That's okay, I appreciate it. I would love to go out and socialise with people! So I'm hoping at uni I can be part of a group that does lots of stuff together. But I'm guessing most people don't do anything together 'outside of uni', since uni is a social experience in itself?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    That's okay, I appreciate it. I would love to go out and socialise with people! So I'm hoping at uni I can be part of a group that does lots of stuff together. But I'm guessing most people don't do anything together 'outside of uni', since uni is a social experience in itself?
    Most socialising takes place in halls or on nights out - flatmates normally go out together. I don't live at uni so I can't really tell you
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    (Original post by xJessx)
    Most socialising takes place in halls or on nights out - flatmates normally go out together. I don't live at uni so I can't really tell you
    Oh, well, that's a shame :/ but if you're flatmates you should be quite close?
    I'm hopefully going to be in halls and try and get myself involved in everything lol even though that's not my personality at all.
 
 
 
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