Coming out

prepare to be dumped by the god squad.

Reply 2

OP

technik

prepare to be dumped by the god squad.

Nice, really helpful advice as usual technik. Tit.

They wouldn't 'dump' me, they're not like that. I'm just slightly worried about how they will take it in comparison to my more liberal friends.

Reply 3

red_roadkill

Nice, really helpful advice as usual technik. Tit.

They wouldn't 'dump' me, they're not like that. I'm just slightly worried about how they will take it in comparison to my more liberal friends.

tits are great...but you wouldnt know about that...

nob.!

Reply 4

Wise One

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http://www.gayyouthuk.org.uk/forums/

The site's down at the moment, but normally it's very busy...and helpful...

Assuming of course, that this is what the post was about.

If not, I'm terribly sorry...

Reply 5

OP

technik

tits are great...but you wouldnt know about that...

nob.!

Nice. Really nice :rolleyes:

Reply 6

Beekeeper

red_roadkill

I've decided that I think all my friends/people from school - the entire network, should know. Everybody has guessed & frankly it's doing my head in - I just want to be myself around everyone and I want people to know.

Problem is (I never imagined I'd be faced with this) - how do I actually do it?!? There's 1 group of friends who I'm very close to but they're quite religious and telling them would be terrible. :confused:

Okay, *reads twice*

My eyes weren't deceiving me, this really is the "most gay person on tsr" asking for advice on coming out! :eek:

Well smack my arse and call me George.

I only told a close group of friends (which is actually quite a large network- when it spreads out its about 150 people really) that i was bi. They were all fine, even happy with it! Thats only because one of my friends found out, and asked me about it, so i told her the truth. As of then i told her it was ok if a few people knew about it, andi told a few people myself, and now pretty much everyone i talk to knows.

I've always been quite straight aswell, and most of my mates are guys (about 75%), and they've all been okay with it, though there were a few jokes at first. :p:

My mates are sensible, educated people, and they understand that i'm not going to try anything, so they don't really care.

If everybodies already guessed, and a few people already know, then whats the point in making a big deal of it? :confused:

If anybody asks, then tell them.

I must say, i'm shocked you're not out :eek:

lets just say you get around a bit!

Reply 7

Ferret_messiah

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Write it on a tshirt, and make a placard, and parade around with them, drawing as much attention as possible. If possible, carry a boombox to draw more attention. The most important thing is to make sure as many people as possible notice.

Reply 8

OP

beekeeper_

I must say, i'm shocked you're not out :eek:

lets just say you get around a bit!

No I don't! Not at all! I reaaaallly don't beekeeper u misunderstand me!

Reply 9

Ferret_messiah

Write it on a tshirt, and make a placard, and parade around with them, drawing as much attention as possible. If possible, carry a boombox to draw more attention. The most important thing is to make sure as many people as possible notice.

aye, nothing beats a "im a poof, look at me" display.

Reply 10

OP

technik

aye, nothing beats a "im a poof, look at me" display.

Don't use "poof", please, it's not very nice.

Reply 11

Jenni_Kitten

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The beauty of it is, you only need to tell one person and the entire world will know by the next day. Saves you the job of doing it yourself. And if everyone's already guessed as you say, shouldn't be that complicated :tongue:

Just tell the person you know with the biggest mouth.

Reply 12

RetiredAccount89

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beekeeper_

Okay, *reads twice*

My eyes weren't deceiving me, this really is the "most gay person on tsr" asking for advice on coming out! :eek:

Well smack my arse and call me George.

I only told a close group of friends (which is actually quite a large network- when it spreads out its about 150 people really) that i was bi. They were all fine, even happy with it! Thats only because one of my friends found out, and asked me about it, so i told her the truth. As of then i told her it was ok if a few people knew about it, andi told a few people myself, and now pretty much everyone i talk to knows.

I've always been quite straight aswell, and most of my mates are guys (about 75%), and they've all been okay with it, though there were a few jokes at first. :p:

My mates are sensible, educated people, and they understand that i'm not going to try anything, so they don't really care.

If everybodies already guessed, and a few people already know, then whats the point in making a big deal of it? :confused:

If anybody asks, then tell them.

I must say, i'm shocked you're not out :eek:

lets just say you get around a bit!

*looks at group of close friends and realise its more like 15 then 150....*

Reply 13

pkchips

1

my own advice would be, don't "come out". You might end up regretting it later.

Just think carefully, are you really gay or do you just think you're gay?

Answer this question please, do you think you could you possibly experience sexual pleasure from a woman?

I suspect it's probably the latter. If you run off and tell everyone "i'm gay" you might end up regretting it in the future.

Reply 14

Beekeeper

foolfarian

*looks at group of close friends and realise its more like 15 then 150....*

Hey, i'm a nice guy, everyone likes meee :rolleyes:

Even my hardcore catholic friend "still loves" me :smile:

Theres no problems with sexuality around educated, well rounded individuals, the only problems come when dickheads start pointing fingers. Fortunately i've never suffered from such behaviour, and i don't imagine i will anytime soon.
It's a shame there are dicks out there though, just trying to wreck peoples lives whenever they get the opportunity, with their shitty views and the kind of behaviour that causes people to commit suicide. (magiccarpet) :flute:

Reply 15

OP

Just think carefully, are you really gay or do you just think you're gay?

I am! Definitely...I doubt I'll ever change!

Answer this question please, do you think you could you possibly experience sexual pleasure from a woman?

Been there, done that, hated it.

Reply 16

Beekeeper

pkchips

my own advice would be, don't "come out". You might end up regretting it later.

Just think carefully, are you really gay or do you just think you're gay?

Answer this question please, do you think you could you possibly experience sexual pleasure from a woman?

I suspect it's probably the latter. If you run off and tell everyone "i'm gay" you might end up regretting it in the future.

As i said, he's been around a lot, he is gay.
Forcing people to keep questioning themselves is a foolish and frustrating thing to do. Please, accept that he is gay. If everyone did that, i'm sure comign out would be a hell of a lot easier.
Besides, gayness is needed to help control the disgusting birth-giving habits in this country.

Reply 17

OP

I think my life in general will be easier if I come out. Like, for example; if I go out with a group of friends and I see a really hot obviously gay guy, make eye contact, and want to talk to him, I feel as though I can't because that would just give it all away. I can't really be myself.

Like last night was the year 13 prom which was fabulous but one of the waiters who was blatantly gay and hot hot hot IMO (we made lots of eye contact etc) clearly wanted to talk to me, he even tried to approach me when I was walking across from the bar to go outside but I just ignored it - didn't want to make it all too obvious. Grrr he would have been such a good conquest too.

Reply 18

RetiredAccount89

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pkchips

my own advice would be, don't "come out". You might end up regretting it later.

Just think carefully, are you really gay or do you just think you're gay?

Answer this question please, do you think you could you possibly experience sexual pleasure from a woman?

I suspect it's probably the latter. If you run off and tell everyone "i'm gay" you might end up regretting it in the future.

Surely 'Do you think you could get sexual pleasure from a man' is more the question. After all, its a small minority who differentiate between Gay and Bi (basically the militant gay crowd only)

Reply 19