So basically I'm going into my second year of uni this September, and well, I kinda cocked up my first year both academically and socially. I had a long term girlfriend of a year and we well practically saw each other everyday before uni, like I lived with her and that. Anyway, we went through a big break up at first and it killed me. I didn't really make friends very well. We got back together. I'd go over to her Uni every week for about 3 or 4 days and thus missed most of my socialising opportunities with friends.
Any how, while I was with her in my first term i'd sack off my mates, and be really 'moody' and just not get involved. We ended up splitting up and I made a much more concious effort in second term. Made more friends and developed bigger relationships with my flat mates. However, in first term we sorted out who were living with and I just chose people I didn't really know. We always say now that we wish we left til second term as we all came out of our shells abit more.
The only problem is is that, the people I'm living with are introverts and are very quiet, I don't really know them and have very different interests with them. My old flat mates are my only friends at uni and there's only 3 or 4 of us now as one of them has stopped being friendly with us due to a new found girlfriend (ironic I know). I know a couple of girls on my course, but don't know them to well really either as I never went to lectures of seminars...
so I'm worried that I'm not going to be able to socialise this year due to a shortage of friends and oppotunites and am just going to be stuck in this hole I feel I'm in....
Bad Start At Uni Watch
- Thread Starter
- 04-08-2009 16:08
- 04-08-2009 17:15
join a society or get a job? talk to people in the library? knock at your neighbours houses when you move in and introduce yourselves? talk to friends of friends? millions of different ways, chat to people in the pub?
- 04-08-2009 17:23
Its not too late to get to know people on your course better and joining some societies will help to meet new people. You should also try and talk to the people you will be living with, just because they are shy doesn't mean they will be boring. And just try and stay in touch with your old roomies. I think you'll be fine.. just worrying for no reason!