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    In September, I'll be starting university and living at home since the uni is too near to justify living out for. Just curious whether people who commute are generally like "outsiders" to those who live in halls because obviously that will take away some common ground, so to speak.
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    I think yeah you will miss out if you go to uni and live at home, because most people will make friends in their halls.

    Just depends really if your confident and dont just come into uni for lectures and go straight home but go out then i guess you'll be okay.

    Im going to a uni 35mins away from my house too, but going to live in halls for the first year just to see what its like and to make friends But I got an accomodation bursary guess its different if you have to pay for it
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    (Original post by anandv05)
    I think yeah you will miss out if you go to uni and live at home, because most people will make friends in their halls.

    Just depends really if your confident and dont just come into uni for lectures and go straight home but go out then i guess you'll be okay.

    Im going to a uni 35mins away from my house too, but going to live in halls for the first year just to see what its like and to make friends But I got an accomodation bursary guess its different if you have to pay for it
    I thought about doing that and my parents were supportive of it too, but I thought I'd rather save up for an apartment or something for later on (maybe second year / third year?).. i'm hoping i'll be okay seeing as i won't really be going lectures - home - lectures n etc.
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    (Original post by Preeka)
    I thought about doing that and my parents were supportive of it too, but I thought I'd rather save up for an apartment or something for later on (maybe second year / third year?).. i'm hoping i'll be okay seeing as i won't really be going lectures - home - lectures n etc.
    i would really recommend moving out the first year though because thats when everybodyyy makes their friends, and in the other years you just stick with the friends you made in first year and rent a house with them?

    Well if your gonna do uni work and socialise you should be okay
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    Without any hard evidence to back up my claim....yes you will miss out by commuting.
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    I'm going to Hull Uni which is only a minute drive from my house and the halls is a 15 minute drive but I decided to stay in Halls because of the social life and to make friends. As long as you dont just go in for lectures and go straight home again, I dont think you'll miss out too much but you'll still be missing out on the independance of living alone and you might find it more difficult to make friends.
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    darn - i was looking for affirmation ...in any given uni, are the majority of people living in halls then?
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    Unfortunately, yes.

    The only friends I made at Uni were from my halls, I didn't make any from the course. Luckily one of my floormates was on the same course.
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    I've commuted first year and I've found it fine! I've made amazing friends who I hangout with everyday and go out with. One downside maybe is that they're all on my course so I don't meet a wide range of people. If I go clubbing I stay round at their flats/student halls.
    And tbh I think I prefer living at home seeing the conditions they live in and them always getting ill because they're not eating properly and stuff. I also have a stable environment to study in with all my resources in one place.
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    (Original post by synthpopx)
    I've commuted first year and I've found it fine! I've made amazing friends who I hangout with everyday and go out with. One downside maybe is that they're all on my course so I don't meet a wide range of people. If I go clubbing I stay round at their flats/student halls.
    And tbh I think I prefer living at home seeing the conditions they live in and them always getting ill because they're not eating properly and stuff. I also have a stable environment to study in with all my resources in one place.
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    Make sure you join a club/society and make the extra effort in freshers week to attend the events. It's what you make of it-some will miss out by commuting (or by not living in halls like me) but others won't. There will be loads of people commuting and not living in halls and all of us will be worried about not making friends and missing out. I'm sure we'll be fine!
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    It's possible, but I don't think you have nearly as much experience of uni if you commute. Everything's that tiny bit more of a hassle, and you obviously miss out on making friends in halls.

    Out of personal experience, I did make friends with some coursemates, but on the whole they aren't the closest of friends. It was fairly clear than halls friends always came first, although we did go on regular nights out. Some people simply chose not to socialise with coursemates at all though. My course was very small (9-11 people depending on the year), so I don't know if being in a larger course is more or less social. I'd guess less so.

    If you don't mind about socialising that much and have plenty of friends at home, go for it. If your friends are all moving out for uni, I wouldn't recommend it, I'd definitely feel lonely/left out in that situation. Staying near to campus may be expensive but in the grand scheme of things it's worthwhile.
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    I'm really torn about this too. I live only 30mins away from my perfect uni and it makes sense money-wise to live at home, but the vast majority of people are saying i will miss out on the "experience" and it's getting me really confused! :confused:
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    (Original post by Svenjamin)
    It's possible, but I don't think you have nearly as much experience of uni if you commute. Everything's that tiny bit more of a hassle, and you obviously miss out on making friends in halls.

    Out of personal experience, I did make friends with some coursemates, but on the whole they aren't the closest of friends. It was fairly clear than halls friends always came first, although we did go on regular nights out. Some people simply chose not to socialise with coursemates at all though. My course was very small (9-11 people depending on the year), so I don't know if being in a larger course is more or less social. I'd guess less so.

    If you don't mind about socialising that much and have plenty of friends at home, go for it. If your friends are all moving out for uni, I wouldn't recommend it, I'd definitely feel lonely/left out in that situation. Staying near to campus may be expensive but in the grand scheme of things it's worthwhile.
    I always sort of thought 'coursemates' would be quite close i.e. there's loads of similarities in terms of intelligence ('cause you would have got similar grades to get onto that course), similar ambitions, and the added similarity of the academics and constantly seeing each other every lecture... does that not bring people as close as otherwise?
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    (Original post by Betty P)
    I'm really torn about this too. I live only 30mins away from my perfect uni and it makes sense money-wise to live at home, but the vast majority of people are saying i will miss out on the "experience" and it's getting me really confused! :confused:
    I know! It seems like everyone is moving out.. that can't even be possible space-wise unless there's some serious slave-ship flex going on in halls. lol
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    I've been in 2 minds for over a year lol. I'll be commuting to and from uni this year, and hopefully moving over next year. I'm doing a foundation year first so technically next will will be my first year if that makes sense?

    Uni is 40 miles away...
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    I've done it twice, I really missed out.
    In what ways, did you miss out?
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    (Original post by Preeka)
    I always sort of thought 'coursemates' would be quite close i.e. there's loads of similarities in terms of intelligence ('cause you would have got similar grades to get onto that course), similar ambitions, and the added similarity of the academics and constantly seeing each other every lecture... does that not bring people as close as otherwise?
    I found that hallmates are much closer than coursemates. Probably because in the first few weeks people make much more of an effort to know the people they're living with than studying with. Plus in the first year a lot of socialising is done within halls, sorting out nights out with friends in other halls ends up being more hassle and taking more time so it doesn't happen as much.

    Like I said, I had some really good friends from my course, but halls friends/housemates always came first. Usually if I was going on a night out with coursemates in first year it'd be because we were all going to the same place with our mates anyway. In 2nd and 3rd year there was more coursemate socialising because everyone's social circle has become a lot smaller after leaving halls, and studying timetables are obviously going to correlate more with coursemates than housemates, but the habits from first year are still there.

    It's a pros and cons situation really. There are times when it's more convenient to go out with housemates (when you want to go out with minimum fuss and waiting around), times when it's more convenient with coursemates (after handing in coursework, end of exams). It's not the end of the world if you miss out on one of those, but it obviously limits your options. But then again, it may be a case of not knowing what you haven't got.

    If you have enough friends at home and don't want many more, then I wouldn't argue against commuting. But if your friends are moving away for uni and you're expecting to make loads of new friends, I'd recommend halls. Also depends how far from the uni you live. If it's easy to get a taxi home after a night out then that's going to be a lot more liveable than having to sleep on friend's floors a few times a week.

    EDIT: Sorry for the essay, thought it best to give an overall answer so you could make a better choice. :o:
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    Uni is less than 15-20 mins away from me.

    Halls.

    FTW.
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    sadly, yes you do

    BUT its really up to the person to put themselves out there and make an effort with everyone to converse and what not.

    I know some people who commuted but made friends with those in halls and pretty much made friends with a lot of people in halls and was always invited out on their nights out etc.

    Just put urself out there.. not in the slutty way ofcourse :awesome:
 
 
 
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