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    Please keep anon because people I know use TSR and I don't want everyone to know my family are having financial issues
    I'm 15, and my parents, who both have science and language university degrees, had been unable to find work for a while. My dad has just got a new job paying £18,000 a year which isn't a lot considering there are 5 os uf in the family inc. my mum dad, brother, sister and I. However my mum has refused to try looking for a job. She claims the fact that she isn't English is holding her back, however this is not true. She was told that if she took a basic English proficiency course (which is supposed to be easier than getting a C in GCSE English and took a GCSE in Maths and get a C, she would be able to search for a teaching post (on a minimum £23000 a year). However she has point blank refused. I told her I'd help if she wanted, but she said she went to school years ago and that she wouldn't be able to do it, and besides, the man should bring all the money into the house. I can't help but feel she is being selfish, as I work really hard at school in subjects I can't do very well, and my dad is doing everything. I've told her I will help more with house chores, but she won't listen. Am I just expecting too much?
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    Maybe she wants to look after you at home? :dontknow: How old are your sister and brother?

    Also, it can take a lot of guts for a fully grown adult in their 30s/40s/50s to take a qualification that's designed for people your age. Maybe she doesn't want to lose her pride?
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    What would Harriet Harman say?
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    Probs get more money being on benefits anyway.
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    She probably has her own motives. She probably wants to take it easy and sit back.
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    I think you're right to expect that she do a little bit more, because £18k for a family of 5, although is possible to live off, is perhaps a bit tight and she could at least get a part time job if she doesn't want to go and do teaching.
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    She was told that if she took a basic English proficiency course (which is supposed to be easier than getting a C in GCSE English and took a GCSE in Maths and get a C, she would be able to search for a teaching post (on a minimum £23000 a year).
    Errr... does she have QTS?

    Yes, she's lazy, but you knew that already.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Please keep anon because people I know use TSR and I don't want everyone to know my family are having financial issues
    I'm 15, and my parents, who both have science and language university degrees, had been unable to find work for a while. My dad has just got a new job paying £18,000 a year which isn't a lot considering there are 5 os uf in the family inc. my mum dad, brother, sister and I. However my mum has refused to try looking for a job. She claims the fact that she isn't English is holding her back, however this is not true. She was told that if she took a basic English proficiency course (which is supposed to be easier than getting a C in GCSE English and took a GCSE in Maths and get a C, she would be able to search for a teaching post (on a minimum £23000 a year). However she has point blank refused. I told her I'd help if she wanted, but she said she went to school years ago and that she wouldn't be able to do it, and besides, the man should bring all the money into the house. I can't help but feel she is being selfish, as I work really hard at school in subjects I can't do very well, and my dad is doing everything. I've told her I will help more with house chores, but she won't listen. Am I just expecting too much?
    woman like this make me sick
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    Personally I think it is lazy to not want to support your family, she could do some other form of work that didn't involve qualifications specifically. The decision is hers ultimately but I doubt you will be entitled to much benefits considering your dad's job is over the threshold the government considers really low, I think it's around the £15k mark (had loads of information recently as I am pregnant , so it may be different in your case).
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    i very recently lost my mom... i think you should be more appreciative of yours
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    (Original post by Hula129)
    i very recently lost my mom... i think you should be more appreciative of yours
    Unfortunatly you only realize this when they are gone.. but as sad as it is, yes I agree.
 
 
 
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