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    On a night out with mates last night my bf went to a strip club.
    I feel sick to the stomach.
    Made worse by the fact that a couple of days a go he had a go at me for having a joe calzaghe poster, and told me he doesnt want me to get a rampant rabbit, saying that it makes him feel useless and redundant.
    I asked how he'd feel if i did the sae and he said "like crap" to put it politely.
    How would you feel? Just want to get some alternative points of view
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    i wouldn't really mind...as long as it's a one off and not a weekly dirty fetish..but he's an idiot if he got stressed over a poster so you've got every right to be pissed off..
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    Dump him, the ugly sleaze-bag.
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    I don't think I'd mind.
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    I wouldn't mind the fact he'd been to a strip club, but I'd be annoyed by his comments re: your poster and getting a vibrator.
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    I wouldn't be annoyed by that, if I were you.

    But buy a vibrator, if that's what you want to do. It's unreasonable of him to expect double standards.
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    This happened to my mate while her bf was on holiday and it's totally hurt her.

    Personally, I don't think I could get over it, but then I'm insanely jealous and paranoid!

    Everyone's different though, you have to weigh up the pros and cons x
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    I'd probably feel abit useless but then again, if he comes back to me at the end of the day i don't mind
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    (Original post by shuperstar)
    On a night out with mates last night my bf went to a strip club.
    I feel sick to the stomach.
    Made worse by the fact that a couple of days a go he had a go at me for having a joe calzaghe poster, and told me he doesnt want me to get a rampant rabbit, saying that it makes him feel useless and redundant.
    I asked how he'd feel if i did the sae and he said "like crap" to put it politely.
    How would you feel? Just want to get some alternative points of view

    Thats a bit hypocritical really. I think you have every right to be annoyed.

    I'd consider his feelings with the vibrator if I was you - but he can't tell you not to have a poster up or get a vibrator because he feels insignificant and then have some sexy girl in his face, thats a bit hypocritical.
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    I don't think I'd mind.
    This.
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    (Original post by xwardax)
    I'd probably feel abit useless but then again, if he comes back to me at the end of the day i don't mind
    Him coming back to me is what makes me feel like a doormat. He's gone and perved and got his jollies over these stunning women then comes crawling back to me, the trusty doting girlfriend who'll always be there. To me, he's having his cake and eating it, and im so stubborn, i just do not want to let him.
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    I wouldn't mind. I'd be a bit disappointed but I wouldn't mind. Though I can see why you are angry with him for his double standards. Speak to him about it and say that his actions and behaviour are unfair. And get yourself the vibrator and if he says that he don't want you having it then say to him that you don't want him going to strip clubs but he did. pretty basic. just use everything he says to you against him.
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    I wouldn't have a problem with it to be honest.
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    I personally wouldn’t be that bothered depending on his attitude towards it ... wouldn’t want to be going out with a perv but yeah it's only a bit of fun.

    As for him ... DO WHAT YOU WANT!!!! He has no right to stop you having things especially something as stupid as a poster. If i were you i'd tell him and his double standards to piss off .. in a nice way obviously.
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    He's a total hypocrite. You can't have a poster but he can go look at live women? Tell him to **** off.
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    I think your boyfriends comments about having a poster and getting a vibrator are ridiculous!
    Personally, a strip club might not be all that bad - unless it turns into a multiple time occurrence, as he might of just have gone to say he has been, for the experience.

    You have every right to be pissed off!
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    The double standard thing isn't good at all.

    But other than that I wouldn't really mind. If my gf oogled at a guy walking down the street- so what? I can't pretend i don't do the same sometimes with girls because it's human nature. It's nothing to be jealous of. But that's where it ends; I don't approach them or do anything about it because I have someone I care about enough to not be interested. Hopefully he does too.
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    He sounds insecure and is being childish. Get a proper bloke not one of these pansy ***** that can't even deal with a poster and a bit of plastic but expect you to let them go off to strip clubs et al.
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    (Original post by shuperstar)
    Him coming back to me is what makes me feel like a doormat. He's gone and perved and got his jollies over these stunning women then comes crawling back to me, the trusty doting girlfriend who'll always be there. To me, he's having his cake and eating it, and im so stubborn, i just do not want to let him.
    He obviously thinks your better than them, that's why hes still with you and comes back to you. And when men get horny they think with their ding dongs and usually go for any stick wid balloons on her chest and a hole down there but when they snap out of that zombie period they realise who means what to them (i hope it makes sense) To me, i see a strip club in the same catergory as porn, men only use it to fantasize and what not.

    (Original post by alexzander)
    But other than that I wouldn't really mind. If my gf oogled at a guy walking down the street- so what? I can't pretend i don't do the same sometimes with girls because it's human nature. It's nothing to be jealous of. But that's where it ends; I don't approach them or do anything about it because I have someone I care about enough to not be interested. Hopefully he does too.
    he kind of reflects what im trying to say
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    (Original post by shuperstar)
    Him coming back to me is what makes me feel like a doormat. He's gone and perved and got his jollies over these stunning women then comes crawling back to me, the trusty doting girlfriend who'll always be there. To me, he's having his cake and eating it, and im so stubborn, i just do not want to let him.
    How about if u offer him what hes going there to get?
    that should put his pee pee back where it should be.
 
 
 
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