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    (Original post by Q_M)
    So...you support a culture where people are taken from their family and basically raped or are forced to sell themselves for whatever reason....but watching a girl in a club is wrong?

    I said regulated. I am deeply uncomfortable about prostitution. However I accept that as the 'world's oldest profession' it will never be eradicated. I support REGULATED legalisation to make sure there is no force involved, no physical abuse, regular health checks, no pimping and so on.
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    (Original post by 0obrighteyeso0)
    That is not the point at all. I'm not so arrogant that I think I'm the only person my boyfriend finds attractive, but that doesn't mean he should parade that point around & shove it in my face.
    He hasn't really. He's gone to a club to look at attractive women while you're not there. Having a poster on his wall would be shoving it in your face if anything...
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    (Original post by *TheSweetestDrug*)
    i wouldn't really mind...as long as it's a one off and not a weekly dirty fetish..but he's an idiot if he got stressed over a poster so you've got every right to be pissed off..

    This. going to a strip club with a bunch of mates sounds more like a laugh than a big sexual deal anyway. its not like hes cheating on you!
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    (Original post by 0obrighteyeso0)
    That is not the point at all. I'm not so arrogant that I think I'm the only person my boyfriend finds attractive, but that doesn't mean he should parade that point around & shove it in my face.
    I don't understand how's he's "parading it around in your face"? I think that you're most annoyed because he did it, when he explicitly said that he didn't want you to do two generally minor things, and then went to a strip club? Not that there were girls with their boobs out, there?
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    my boyfriends been to a strip club. to be honest i wasnt totally impressed but i didnt get angry or anything. i've always wanted to go to a strip club, just for the experience so i cant really be telling him not to go.
    come to think of it...that definitely annoyed me more than i realised...grrr...

    yeh i'd be slightly wound up but not to the point of having a go or breaking up over it.

    tell him i think hes an idiot in regards to the vibrator and poster btw haha
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    (Original post by Alexzander)
    I don't understand this. You would be way more beautiful than any stripper to him. Here's the deal; strippers can be hot and sexy but not really beautiful. Which do you prefer? Your forgetting one of the biggest turn ons- character and personailty.

    I could fantasise about a stripper but i couldn't imagine myself ever dating or falling in love with one. Maybe that sounds really shallow, I don't know. I don't mean it to be. But honestly, if he's anything like me; sure the stripper may be hot, but in his head you'll be worth 100000X more.
    This times a million.
    If any other girl is insecure with their bf because he watches porn or stuff, don't be. Girls who do that are good to look at, and not much more.
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    Huh? I know loads of guys that go to strip clubs and their girlfriend is completely fine with it. It's not like it's a harlot house.
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    If I had a boyfriend, I wouldn't mind him going to a strip club with his friends for a laugh.

    But I think your boyfriend's definitely being out of line with his double standards, and I think you've got a right to be pissed off.
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    Strip clubs are more funny than anything. Honestly, that's no big deal. However, if he's going to have a certain degree of sexual freedom, he shouldn't be trying to restrict what you do. I mean, what kind of idiot tries to stop their girlfriend using a vibrator? It's really not something he should have any influence over at all.
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    (Original post by shuperstar)
    Him coming back to me is what makes me feel like a doormat. He's gone and perved and got his jollies over these stunning women then comes crawling back to me, the trusty doting girlfriend who'll always be there. To me, he's having his cake and eating it, and im so stubborn, i just do not want to let him.
    He is a bit out of order, although, why the need for the Vibrator? Surely if you are with him theres not to much issue? Of course there could be loads of things stopping this like distance etc, yeah, I personally would be a bit annoyed at the Vibrator thing, but not the poster, and you have every right to be annoyed at the strip club thing!
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    I think you're both overreacting.
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    i would be SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO annoyed.. and even more paranoid!!!! and feel inferior and useless.. and feel like he dont find me attractive... and be REALLY hurt by it... and not trust him going out lol and our relationship will probs fall apart cos i would act differently around him.. and probs care about him less cos he didnt care about my feelings lol
    hahaha
    but your bf does seem to care about you cos of the jealousy and that... but still.. unforgiveable
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    I wouldn't care but I'd be more pissed about his own comments and would quite frankly tell him to go **** himself.
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    (Original post by shuperstar)
    On a night out with mates last night my bf went to a strip club.
    I feel sick to the stomach.
    Made worse by the fact that a couple of days a go he had a go at me for having a joe calzaghe poster, and told me he doesnt want me to get a rampant rabbit, saying that it makes him feel useless and redundant.
    I asked how he'd feel if i did the sae and he said "like crap" to put it politely.
    How would you feel? Just want to get some alternative points of view
    I can understand why you would feel bad about the strip club but tbh they are not that great. A night with a real girl ftw!!

    The annoying thing is his double standards; ffs a poster is just a poster. Personally I wouldn't care about the rabbit if I were him but if he is insecure then maybe I can see his point.

    Why not goto a strip club yourself with a group of girls - Im sure there must be some aimed at women? He went so why shouldn't you?:woo:
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    (Original post by randomgirl)
    I wouldn't mind the fact he'd been to a strip club, but I'd be annoyed by his comments re: your poster and getting a vibrator.
    Same here- what an idiot.
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    I would be bothered by it, but I’d get over it.

    At the end of the day, he probably got dragged into it by all his mates – you know what lads are like when they get together and they probably just thought it would be a laugh; I’m sure he did not go in with the intention of looking at women more attractive than you or to hurt you.

    I know it’s easier to say this stuff when it’s not you; I would get jealous too but I’d know deep down it was stupid of me and I should just forget about it.

    Totally agree with other comments about what he said to you though; being jealous of a celebrity poster is quite normal I think, but asking you take it down is not! Everybody has them! It’s silly of him to let it bother him that much. Also, if you want a vibrator – go get one! If he’s not mature enough to see that it is not in anyway a threat or an insult to him, or to realise the potential that it has for your JOINT sex lives then he’s not worth having around at all. Do want YOU want.
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    maybe you should strip for him, or maybe you do but you not professional or you body isnt what he expected, either way, i cannot believe he went to a strip club to get his groove on, just forget about it or warn him
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    I'd be pretty upset, and I'd hope he would understand because he doesn't like me saying guys are really hot etc.

    I wouldn't necessarily say that it is grounds for breaking up, as long as he understands why you are upset.
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    (Original post by shuperstar)
    On a night out with mates last night my bf went to a strip club.
    I feel sick to the stomach.
    Made worse by the fact that a couple of days a go he had a go at me for having a joe calzaghe poster, and told me he doesnt want me to get a rampant rabbit, saying that it makes him feel useless and redundant.
    I asked how he'd feel if i did the sae and he said "like crap" to put it politely.
    How would you feel? Just want to get some alternative points of view
    after the first sentence i thought, omg, another insane gf. But tbh, if hes going to a strippers then surely you can get a vibrator and have a poster.

    my gf has one and it doesnt really bother me. maybe thats just me though. :rolleyes:
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    all these chicks who are sayig "i dont mind" and acting like theyre so cool and liberal, would be feeling alot differently if it actually happened to them.

    he sounds like an ass, sorry.
 
 
 
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