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Nude posters on his wall - Hard to have sex in his room? help! watch

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    weird question but here goes!

    i love my boyfriend but he has posters all over his bedroom walls of naked women from lads mags! the walls are completely covered in posters of blonde haired, big boobed women plastered in makeup and when im having sex with him it's hard to not feel a little insecure when i have to stare at these women no matter what direction i look in.

    advice?
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    What can we tell you? He's not doing anything wrong. We can't make you feel more secure about yourself. It's just something you're going to have to deal with.
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    Well he has to look at something other than your face when he's nailing you
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    close your eyes? if it's bothering you then tell him, but don't expect much.
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    I know where you're coming from. My boyfriend loves Morrissey. I sometimes wonder whether he's looking at his Morrissey pictures while we have sex.

    Although I do have better boobs.
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    Don't look at them?

    It's generally polite to pay attention to your partner when you're having sex, anyway.
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    Ergh. Helpful comments, much.

    Ask him to take them down. Explain how you feel about it - it's essentially him looking at porn while you two are having sex, and if you're not comfortable with it, something should be done about it. alternatively, plaster your walls with photos of naked men and see how he likes it. Seriously, though, talk to him. If he's a decent guy, I'm sure you can come to a compromise - he should care about how you feel and if it's making you feel uncomfortable and insecure then he should do something about it, just as you hopefully would if it were the other way round.
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    Tell him?

    I truly fail to understand how people can have sex with other people, and not talk to them about stuff like this, which is considerably less embarrassing and intimate.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know where you're coming from. My boyfriend loves Morrissey. I sometimes wonder whether he's looking at his Morrissey pictures while we have sex.

    Although I do have better boobs.
    Hahaha
    If you weren't anon, I'd +rep
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    Ask him to take them down. If he fails to be understanding just say something like "I just find it really uncomfortable, and it's a huge turn off. Maybe some other time..."

    Posters vs sex? I think he'll make the right decision
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    What a low-life, sleaze-bag. Dump the chav.
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    (Original post by Dionysia)
    Ergh. Helpful comments, much.

    Ask him to take them down. Explain how you feel about it - it's essentially him looking at porn while you two are having sex, and if you're not comfortable with it, something should be done about it. alternatively, plaster your walls with photos of naked men and see how he likes it. Seriously, though, talk to him. If he's a decent guy, I'm sure you can come to a compromise - he should care about how you feel and if it's making you feel uncomfortable and insecure then he should do something about it, just as you hopefully would if it were the other way round.
    God I hate it when people add much on the end of sentences. What are you some kind of cheerleader or something? Anyway...

    It's nothing about being a decent guy having to come to a compromise. At the end of the day, it is his room not hers and it is also her own insecurities. He probably would do something if she conveyed her feelings to him but thats not to say she isn't in the wrong here expecting him to do that. Guys like looking at naked girls because we're more visual but that doesn't mean we prefer that to our own girlfriends for example.
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    Suggest shagging against the wall would be "really hot" and use the friction generated to damage the posters beyond salvation. Move onto each wall until a satisfactory amount of posters have been damaged.
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    (Original post by smellslikemarmite)
    Tell him?

    I truly fail to understand how people can have sex with other people, and not talk to them about stuff like this, which is considerably less embarrassing and intimate.

    ugh, this!
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    Thats his jerking off material right there.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    weird question but here goes!

    i love my boyfriend but he has posters all over his bedroom walls of naked women from lads mags! the walls are completely covered in posters of blonde haired, big boobed women plastered in makeup and when im having sex with him it's hard to not feel a little insecure when i have to stare at these women no matter what direction i look in.

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    Let me think... you're willing to have sex with him totally naked, as long as he's takes the posters down for you??

    Ask him to take them down, I'm sure sure he's more into sex then mansubation :p:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What a low-life, sleaze-bag. Dump the chav.
    dittooooo :p:

    but seriously...what kind of decent guy has pictures like that all over his bedroom walls...esp when he has a girlfriend?? eurgh... tell him its gross and you cant have sex with him again if he doesnt do something about it
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    (Original post by Irrelevance)
    Suggest shagging against the wall would be "really hot" and use the friction generated to damage the posters beyond salvation. Move onto each wall until a satisfactory amount of posters have been damaged.
    :rofl: A guy's imagination... jeez :p:
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    Do what my female friend did, when her boyfriend left the room she just ripped them all down :P:
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    (Original post by emmie19)
    :rofl: A guy's imagination... jeez :p:
    If it wasn't convincing enough, he's blatantly gay. Win win situation. :p:
 
 
 
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