long distance relationships

I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of 10 months while Im away at university. Im in Aberystwyth and he's in Cardiff. We have managed while I was in my first year but in September I will be starting my second and then still have my third to go - what can I do to make sure our relationship doesnt suffer because I'm not able to be there all the time?

Thanks!

Reply 1

naelse

15

well what have you been doing so far? i assume that's working?

Reply 2

kittycat_girl

OP

Ive been going home quite a bit, but next year is way more important so I cant afford to be going home all the time to see him. other than going home, what else can I do when Im not there? :confused:

Reply 3

naelse

15

regular calls/emails/letters?

just try to keep the romance alive when you do go back rather than just rushing to get certain things over and done with... make a special effort with things like little presents and love notes and candles and fun stuff like that.

Reply 4

BlackHawk

17

phone/text/MSN is about all you can do really. If you trust and care about each other then you should be fine.

I know how you feel though *pines for Wzz* :frown:

Reply 5

kittycat_girl

OP

BlackHawk

phone/text/MSN is about all you can do really. If you trust and care about each other then you should be fine.

I know how you feel though *pines for Wzz* :frown:

yeah...I guess at least we both have webcams so we can see each other like that, but Im not lookin forward to next year :frown:

I still have six days before I go home :frown:

Reply 6

Apricot Fairy

16

My ex and I managed for a year. I think the longest we went without seeing each other was 5 ot 6 weeks, so you definitely don't have to be going home all the time. It's all about trust and phone calls. :smile:

Reply 7

kittycat_girl

OP

susiemakemeblue

My ex and I managed for a year. I think the longest we went without seeing each other was 5 ot 6 weeks, so you definitely don't have to be going home all the time. It's all about trust and phone calls. :smile:

he hates talking on the phone tho :frown:

it'll have to do I guess. really should have gone to cardiff uni instead :mad:

Reply 8

Mean Mr. Mustard

Have him come to see you? Even if you have to work while he's there, it's better than nothing surely! I've been in a LDR since Februrary and everything is still going great! We've managed to see each other lots, the longest we've gone without seeing each other is just under 2 weeks. Things will be difficult when we both have loads of work to do next year, but I'm sure we'll manage, we have a rule: never leave it more than 2 weeks between seeing each other, and i fully intend on sticking to that, even if we do have to do loads of work when we're together.

Inbetween seeing each other, just keep up the contact, phone etc...it's hard work, but as long as the trust is there and you work at it, you should be fine!

Reply 9

Mean Mr. Mustard

I generally hate talking on the phone! But when I'm missing my girlfriend (basicially whenever we're apart :redface:

) I *love* talking on the phone! :smile:

Reply 10

Piggsil

16

kittycat_girl

he hates talking on the phone tho :frown:

it'll have to do I guess. really should have gone to cardiff uni instead :mad:

Blah blah blah, it's been said so many times before, if it's meant to work you'll make it work and come out stronger for it! I know it's hard, but there isn't anything you can do! You just have to make the effort to kep in touch and it will be fine! Then there's the old 'absence makes the heart grow fonder!'
Good luck xx

Reply 11

Lucas

bleh am going into a longdistance in september when i bugger off to uni...really not looking forward to it, just ****ers everything up..

Reply 12

jessicarabbit

8

kittycat_girl

I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of 10 months while Im away at university. Im in Aberystwyth and he's in Cardiff. We have managed while I was in my first year but in September I will be starting my second and then still have my third to go - what can I do to make sure our relationship doesnt suffer because I'm not able to be there all the time?

Thanks!

get a new boyfriend who's within a 15 mile radius :smile:

Reply 13

.graffiti.

I have the choice of going into a long distance relationship in September, but I'm not sure I'll be able to do it, let alone whether it'll even last until September. :frown:

Reply 14

xXMessedUpXx

15

my ex and i had a long distance relationship of 18 months. we didn't see each other that often, but then that kind of made the time we did spend together more special. to be honest we talked everyday though realistically that may not be an option, my best advice is just keep as much contact as you can, like others have said, email/msn and hey even an "old fashoined" letter via snail mail would help. i wish you the best of luck with things and i know how hard they can be but you just have to persevere.

my ex and i split up because he was moving to Las Vegas for 3 years and in his words "no, couples don't cope with that". currently i'm planning on being in teh smae city as my bf come september but i can't say how things would be if i didn't get in and had to go far far away :frown:

anyway good luck i hope things work out

Reply 15

xXMessedUpXx

15

Babyshambles

Have him come to see you? Even if you have to work while he's there, it's better than nothing surely! I've been in a LDR since Februrary and everything is still going great! We've managed to see each other lots, the longest we've gone without seeing each other is just under 2 weeks. Things will be difficult when we both have loads of work to do next year, but I'm sure we'll manage, we have a rule: never leave it more than 2 weeks between seeing each other, and i fully intend on sticking to that, even if we do have to do loads of work when we're together.

Inbetween seeing each other, just keep up the contact, phone etc...it's hard work, but as long as the trust is there and you work at it, you should be fine!

longest time apart with my ex was nealry 3 months (he was in the RAF...tho that wasn't why i didn't seem him)

it was a nightmare

Reply 16

kittycat_girl

OP

thanks for all the encouragement, Im going home for 4 months on Saturday so I dont have to think about it until September anyway!!! Will just have to keep up the regular contact and see each other whenever possible I guess. Just dont want him to feel like I dont care because I cant go home all the time due to my workload :frown:

Reply 17

xx_ambellina_xx

14

LDRs are hard...You just have to make the best of it if you both want to be together.

Reply 18

soilman

12

kittycat_girl

thanks for all the encouragement, Im going home for 4 months on Saturday so I dont have to think about it until September anyway!!! Will just have to keep up the regular contact and see each other whenever possible I guess. Just dont want him to feel like I dont care because I cant go home all the time due to my workload :frown:

just thought id say something since its just as relevent.

im also at uni, but I met my girlfriend a month before the term ended. now i didnt want to fall for her too much and sort of keep my distance, and things could lift off when we come back if we both felt the same. but we both couldnt help it, got really close, and had to leave each other.

now we are both finding it really dificult and ****. but we are just trying to keep contact and thats all we can do, as we both want more than anything for it to work.

hope it works out for you.

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