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    at least u got a job..flaunt wat you got and be happy
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    you only get the penis because of your looks too
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    Yes, of course your experience, personality, exam results, etc will have played a major part in getting the job.
    But it's also fairly obvious that your employer would have like to hire someone who is good looking... For example, if you walk round an expensive clothes shop, how many ugly staff members do you see? Virtually none. If you walk into a 5 star hotel, are the reception staff ugly? Very rarely.

    I'm not saying you wouldn't have got the job without your looks, or that you would have got it without your brain. But your boyfriend was probably right in a sense, and he meant no harm in what he was saying.
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    I reckon he only meant it as a compliment and didn't realise he would upset you. Guys have a habit of saying things like that without realising, the boyfriend of a friend of mine told her that she, 'fxxxx like a porn star' he was trying to compliment her but it obviously wasn't a compliment to her. I think she dumped him soon afterwards cos he couldn't understand why she was a bit pissed off at the comment. To be fair they hadn't been together long and they were only having a bit fo fun so i don't think she ever saw it as a long term thing.
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    (Original post by sugarjunkie001)
    make him buy you dinner
    lol wtf? :lolwut:

    what kind of retarded attitude is that? :eek:

    "Make him buy you dinner" - someone's gotta be taking the piss here. "Make him"? :s

    Man should buy a woman stuff when she deserves it. Demanding women should be told off, not necessarily very politely. :sadnod:

    Sooooo sad... Seriously.
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    Better than having no job though, no? Just go and work hard and your bosses (if that is why they hired you) will know that you're more than just a pretty face (according to you )
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    (Original post by tomthecool)
    Yes, of course your experience, personality, exam results, etc will have played a major part in getting the job.
    But it's also fairly obvious that your employer would have like to hire someone who is good looking... For example, if you walk round an expensive clothes shop, how many ugly staff members do you see? Virtually none. If you walk into a 5 star hotel, are the reception staff ugly? Very rarely.

    I'm not saying you wouldn't have got the job without your looks, or that you would have got it without your brain. But your boyfriend was probably right in a sense, and he meant no harm in what he was saying.
    Err... she got a job in a box at a football club. Her exam results have exactly nothing to do with it.
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    (Original post by Dynamitri)
    lol wtf? :lolwut:

    what kind of retarded attitude is that? :eek:

    "Make him buy you dinner" - someone's gotta be taking the piss here. "Make him"? :s

    Man should buy a woman stuff when she deserves it. Demanding women should be told off, not necessarily very politely. :sadnod:

    Sooooo sad... Seriously.
    You sound very cotrolling and possesive. Not qualities that most girls find attractive. I think that people (male or female) should buy their partners a present to show their love/affection for them. It has nothing to do with deserving it.
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    (Original post by Anamaria90)
    I think that people (male or female) should buy their partners a present to show their love/affection for them
    You sound like a materialistic gold-digger. Not qualities that many men find attractive. I think that people (male or female) should be loved for who they are and the time they dedicate to being with the other person, not for the amount of money they can or are willing to spend. After all, time is the only thing in the world that cannot be (re)bought anyhow.

    I utterly despise girls who think they deserve being given presents just because they are women. Of course gifts are an okay habit and are nice, but there are way too many women that expect being pampered without any particular reason - just because the world is full of pathetic losers that fail in any kind of social life whatsoever and subdue to the stereotype that a girl needs to be bought a drink in a club when met for the first time/needs to be paid for on a first or second date etc. etc. and this has made a lot of women to have some sort of bizarre preconceptions or even demands. It's time for those bonkers conventions to be broken down in half and ended up with. :sadnod:
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    (Original post by Dynamitri)
    You sound like a materialistic gold-digger. Not qualities that many men find attractive. I think that people (male or female) should be loved for who they are and the time they dedicate to being with the other person, not for the amount of money they can or are willing to spend. After all, time is the only thing in the world that cannot be (re)bought anyhow.

    I utterly despise girls who think they deserve being given presents just because they are women. Of course gifts are an okay habit and are nice, but there are way too many women that expect being pampered without any particular reason - just because the world is full of pathetic losers that fail in any kind of social life whatsoever and subdue to the stereotype that a girl needs to be bought a drink in a club when met for the first time/needs to be paid for on a first or second date etc. etc. It's time for those bonkers conventions to be broken down in half and ended up with. :sadnod:
    I agree with it all, except for the first date thing. It's a tradition, I don't expect someone to pay for me or buy me stuff or whatever, but I'm not paying the first date. The second/third/whatever are fine, but not the first.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    so i am incredibly pissed off at my boyfriend. i just found out a got a job in a corporate box at a football club, basically just being nice and friendly to rich business people.

    at the interview, it all went quite well. i don't have alot of experience but he said he was impressed with what i had done. i'm a friendly person and i think this probably contributed to me getting the job. however, he asked me how my maths was because part of the job is collecting money for merchandise and i admitted that it was not too bad. i have an a* at gcse so it's not rubbish anyway. so he asked me quite a simple mental maths question and i got it wrong (!!) took me by surprise and nervous i guess. but he just laughed and said i would have a calculator anyway.

    so when i told my boyfriend about the job, he basically implied i only got it because of how i look (blonde and slim with big boobs) and this is apparently 'what men in corporate boxes want, someone nice to look at and buy stuff from'. it wasn't said in a really nasty way and i think he may have thought he was giving me some kind of compliment. he just said i got the maths question wrong and have hardly any experience. which is true. but i'd like to think the man saw that i was capable and friendly and would be good at the job. i'm not an idiot.

    and grrrr. he's really annoyed me by saying that. does everyone else on TSR think thats the only reason i got the job? i don't think it is. i'm a nice girl lol and i don't dress like a slut. so basically
    1. do you think thats the only reason i got the job?
    2. what do i do about my incredibly chauvinistic boyfriend?

    Take a walk around an investment bank front office. Full of incredibly attractive women.
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    Oh get over it, stop whinging and realise how the World works. Don't sound so naive.

    Zomg... so you're friendly, do you think the guy would have given the job to a fatty? Of course you got in for your looks. It's nothing to do about acting like a slut, and you have no reason to be angry with your boyfriend who has a better grasp of reality than you.

    How many uglies do you see as barstaff?
    LOL no-one tells the truth quite like you Bubbles :tongue:
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    It's a tradition
    Oh, is it here?

    TBH I'm prejudiced somehow, had too many gold-diggers in my early teens, so I'm really sceptical when it comes to me paying full amount on the first date. OK - I'm up for sharing the bill, or whatever, I've been used to going Dutch all the way all the time and girls were totally OK with it - at least those I have been dating once I got wiser. Glad to know that you agree with most of what I said here, it's always flattering when comes from such a smart girl like you. ;-)
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    Oh get over it, stop whinging and realise how the World works. Don't sound so naive.

    Zomg... so you're friendly, do you think the guy would have given the job to a fatty? Of course you got in for your looks. It's nothing to do about acting like a slut, and you have no reason to be angry with your boyfriend who has a better grasp of reality than you.

    How many uglies do you see as barstaff?
    Actually I've seen quite a few ugly barstaff...
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    (Original post by sugarjunkie001)
    b) looks would also be important in a job like that. im not saying thats why you got the job, but its unlikely they would hire an 'unfortunate looking person'
    I lol'd.

    Also OP, it probably didn't hurt, but I don't think you would have been hired if you were a completely incompetent fool or and untrustworthy person etc
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    (Original post by Dynamitri)
    You sound like a materialistic gold-digger. Not qualities that many men find attractive. I think that people (male or female) should be loved for who they are and the time they dedicate to being with the other person, not for the amount of money they can or are willing to spend. After all, time is the only thing in the world that cannot be (re)bought anyhow.

    I utterly despise girls who think they deserve being given presents just because they are women. Of course gifts are an okay habit and are nice, but there are way too many women that expect being pampered without any particular reason - just because the world is full of pathetic losers that fail in any kind of social life whatsoever and subdue to the stereotype that a girl needs to be bought a drink in a club when met for the first time/needs to be paid for on a first or second date etc. etc. and this has made a lot of women to have some sort of bizarre preconceptions or even demands. It's time for those bonkers conventions to be broken down in half and ended up with. :sadnod:
    You completely misunderstood me - probably my fault. I agree completely with most of your post. I was trying to make the point that a woman shouldn't have to earn presents. As in she shouldn't have to do something in order to get a present. It should be a spontaneous gift of love. I certainly did not mean that that women should expect men to buy them presents. I really am not a materialistic person. At all.
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    Oh get over it, stop whinging and realise how the World works. Don't sound so naive.

    Zomg... so you're friendly, do you think the guy would have given the job to a fatty? Of course you got in for your looks. It's nothing to do about acting like a slut, and you have no reason to be angry with your boyfriend who has a better grasp of reality than you.

    How many uglies do you see as barstaff?
    sorry op but this is the truth.
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    It's sad women can just get jobs because of there looks, it's degrading to women and any woman who think it's OK to get a job because of your looks well - i guess that's what makes men superior and why men get paid more on TV etc......
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    (Original post by Anamaria90)
    I agree completely with most of your post.
    That's good, it was worth mentioning, though - some girls still have got a lot of materialistic expectations and a demanding attitude, so it's always good to mention how wrong is it.

    I of course don't have anything against presents - I just don't tend to buy any for a girl, unless I'm in a relationship with her and I'm sure she's not gonna take the loot and show a clean pair of heels. So it has to be somehow "deserved", but of course we're not talking about a man-dog kind of relationship or something
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    The world is a superficial place.
 
 
 
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