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    Why are people embarrased and ashamed to be anti social? As in not having many friends, beinga loner and not going clubbing etc. People are not afraid to admit that they are bad in other areas so why are people ashamed of being alone or having a lack of social skills?

    Have any of you ever admitted to people that you don't go clubbing, don't have a partner or many friends because you enjoy your own company?
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    Maybe it's because almost all tv shows, magazines and films aimed at young people glamorise socialising, partying, clubbing etc
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    Because "shame" is what "society" thinks? If you're anti society, then you're going to be "shamed". :unsure:
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    Myself and my mum do have good friends but we often prefer our own company and we're quite cynical about people and have often said we're both anti social at heart. I'm not too bothered what anyone knows or thinks.
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    (Original post by Lefty Leo)
    Because "shame" is what "society" thinks? If you're anti society, then you're going to be "shamed". :unsure:
    haha good thinking
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    I don't think there's any worthwhile thing that some one would reasonably not be ashamed of having unless it was difficult to obtain like money for example. Unless your relying on the idea that a social life isn't worthwhile .
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    we live in a society of extroverts. and most young people haven't reached the level of maturity to realise a person doesn't necessarily need friends. the idea of a good social life is a social norm.
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    (Original post by D3M!)
    I don't think there's any worthwhile thing that some one would reasonably not be ashamed of having unless it was difficult to obtain like money for example. Unless your relying on the idea that a social life isn't worthwhile .
    :confused: Lol your post hurts my head
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    I would define that more as asocial than anti-social.

    If you just don't get involved you are asocial (without socialness as it were)

    Anti social people tend to be rude and lack social skills.
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    Because it deviates from social norms?
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    Because we're young - need to be cool by going out getting drunk and having sex etc.
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    (Original post by ColdVein)
    :confused: Lol your post hurts my head
    My fault i'll explain better.

    The OP argues that people shoudln't neccaerily be ashamed or bothered about a lack of a social life , maybe even implying that it's something they should pride or be accepting of.

    I was trying to make the point that it's reasonable for anyone to be ashamed of anything worthwhile unless it is difficult to obtain , like money for example . Money is worthwhile but because so many have difficulty in obtaining it , the shame associated with a lack of money is negated. It's like everyone having bad haircuts.

    Unless the OP is relying on the idea that a social life isn't wortwhile , which IMO isn't true . I don't see how if faced with the choice between a healthy social life and a life of isolation ,a reasonable person would choose isolation. Of course having a social life isn't an on the spot choice we can make , it's more of a commitment.
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    i dont go clubbing, i only have close friends, i dislike being in a group, i prefer talking to one person at a time (wierd)
    but yeah... im only anti-social when it comes to doing things i dont enjoy....
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    (Original post by oh_adele)
    Because it deviates from social norms?
    who cares about social norms? it's just the beliefs of psychiatrists.

    A good "psychiatrist" would say that wanting be alone is ok, if the person is not distressed by it.
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    people can be ridiculed by others if they seem boring with little social life
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    Because you're removing yourself from hanging around with others, and by that you almost think you're better than others because you don't want to socialise with them. You come across as cold,shielded and extremely arrogant, as well as extremely boring.
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    I enjoy being alone and dislike socialising.. It's just a preference and, IMO, not a shameful one.
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    (Original post by 9MmBulletz)
    Because you're removing yourself from hanging around with others, and by that you almost think you're better than others because you don't want to socialise with them. You come across as cold,shielded and extremely arrogant, as well as extremely boring.
    why should they socialise with them? why go along to please somebody's ego? :confused: nobody owes anybody else their time.
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    (Original post by rajandkwameali)
    who cares about social norms? it's just the beliefs of psychiatrists.

    A good "psychiatrist" would say that wanting be alone is ok, if the person is not distressed by it.
    I was offering a possible reason why some people may be "embarrassed" or "ashamed" to be "anti-social".

    Just so we're all clear on that.
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    I just feel awkward in overly social situations, e.g. clubs.

    I far more prefer hanging out with up to five friends.

    Who cares? If people are worth being friends with, they'll accept that's how you are.
 
 
 
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