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    Please keep anon, very personal and people I know go on here.

    I've constantly had low self esteem and I absolutely despise my appearence but no one ever sympathises with what I'm going through. I constantly get "Get over it" or "don't let it bother you" which never helps.

    Can anyone tell me if they managed to get over their dislike for their appearence?
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    Remember that everyone our age will be ugly in 20 years time anyway...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Please keep anon, very personal and people I know go on here.

    I've constantly had low self esteem and I absolutely despise my appearence but no one ever sympathises with what I'm going through. I constantly get "Get over it" or "don't let it bother you" which never helps.

    Can anyone tell me if they managed to get over their dislike for their appearence?
    focus on your strengths.
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    Dress sense, haircut, hygiene, personality.
    Personality being the biggest, if you're really approachable, funny, kind and fun to be around, it makes a hell of a lot of difference, even though there will still be *******s that won't get to know you.

    Oh and if people judge you on appearance, then you don't want to know them really.
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    *shrugs* Plastic surgery? ><
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    Are you a boy or girl?
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    (Original post by fallen angel9)
    Are you a boy or girl?
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    Depends.

    If you're that ugly, then you might want to consider plastic surgery.

    But if you're just normal and you think you're ugly, i wouldn't do it :no:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    in that case:

    get paid.
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    Stop caring. It's easier than everybody makes out.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    well, how ugly?

    who thinks you're ugly?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    Get a nice hair cut, go to the gym, have good dress sense, focus on having a good personality. I'm sure you'll be fine :grin:

    We're not all superficial! :woo:
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    I think I got over it, just realise that apart from being tidy and clean there's not much you can do, and learn to accept that you'll be disadvantaged in life because of it.
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    good fashion sense and a good hair cut will definitely help. if a really good looking guy had awful clothes and a horrible haircut then I'd be a bit put off. and of course, if you act confident and you're charming enough, then people should be able to see past your looks anyway!
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    U-G-L-Y you aint got no alibi, you ugly ay ay you ugly.

    A positive mental attitude goes a long way.
    That is your answer.
    Dont ask me how to build one though.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Please keep anon, very personal and people I know go on here.

    I've constantly had low self esteem and I absolutely despise my appearence but no one ever sympathises with what I'm going through. I constantly get "Get over it" or "don't let it bother you" which never helps.

    Can anyone tell me if they managed to get over their dislike for their appearence?
    Strike it rich (I mean REALLY rich), and you'll have no shortage of gorgeous women wanting you...even if you're as ugly as sin :p:
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    If I may just say, the guys I fancy my friends think are horrendous, and vice versa. I'm not that sure there really is such a thing as objectively ugly, at least not in most cases. Also I suspect guys have it easier (sorry) as they're not judged solely on their looks as much as women.
    The point of this rambling is that, no matter what you might think of yourself at the moment, odds are you'll still pull enough ladies to see you through to christmas and beyond
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Please keep anon, very personal and people I know go on here.

    I've constantly had low self esteem and I absolutely despise my appearence but no one ever sympathises with what I'm going through. I constantly get "Get over it" or "don't let it bother you" which never helps.

    Can anyone tell me if they managed to get over their dislike for their appearence?
    dont consider plastic surgery... If I knew you as a person and you were good and had a lovely personality... I don't think I or any of the friends that I would have would care. Dont feel down about it... looks dont matter to a lot of people.. this is TSR half full of hormonal boys, coming on here might make you feel like everyone's bothered about what you look like... In reality I'm one of the many people who couldnt care less about that as long as they were interesting to talk to.

    No-one is ever fully satisfied with their appearance.. I know I'm not... the point is, is that I'm not fully over it, but I've learnt to accept myself for who I am. That eventually built up my confidence... if someone exudes in confidence more people would be attracted to them... so try and do well at school, be nice, make lots of friends and in no time you'll get a boost in self esteem and your looks will become the last thing you or anyone else worries about.

    :hugs: to make you feel better... I hope things get better in time
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    Maybe the amount of importance you place on being attractive is wrong . I think everyone is as they are for a reason , if you are indeed "ugly" then maybe it serves you a purpose that being attractive might otherwise might not have.
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    be rich and famous. seriously... money creates illusions
 
 
 
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