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    (Original post by Superstar6318)
    I dont see the will to go on anymore. Nothing is making me happy at all. I just dont see the point of anything, whats the point of doing exams and going to Uni when you're just going to settle into a regular Uni routine? People just overhype it I bet. I dont see the point in anything and I cant be bothered anymore. Whats the point of trying? Theres times when I've worked hard and been pessimistic and got good results, but other times when I haven't worked hard enough but I've been optimistic I've got **** grades. Why cant I have both?
    I cant even get out of bed in the mornings and my exams are 2 weeks away, I have never felt so unmotivated in my life. My legs feel weak and like jelly and I just cant be asked anymore. I have not one ounce of energy and I hate my life so much!
    :hugs: Don't knock uni until you've tried it, it may be far better than you think and you don't know how you'll do until results day so try to not worry about that and just enjoy the fact that you get a lovely long summer after this. And 2 weeks is plenty, I've revised for A level exams in less than that because I'm just lazy and it doesn't always turn out badly. :console: Things will improve, have you seen your GP?
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    (Original post by steffi.alexa)
    :hugs: Don't knock uni until you've tried it, it may be far better than you think and you don't know how you'll do until results day so try to not worry about that and just enjoy the fact that you get a lovely long summer after this. And 2 weeks is plenty, I've revised for A level exams in less than that because I'm just lazy and it doesn't always turn out badly. :console: Things will improve, have you seen your GP?
    Yeah but you're not me, I know for a fact that with myself I have to revise 9 weeks beforehand because by nature I just cant cram/get decent grades. And I dont want a long summer because I dont deserve it - I dont think Ive worked hard enough. I also bet you're quite clever tbh. I just want to crawl in a hole and die.
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    Anyone else starting to really hate the summer? There's loads of people outside my window just chilling together, playing with a ball, frisbee etc. I feel like such a loser, really wish I actually had friends I could hang out with.
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    (Original post by Superstar6318)
    Yeah but you're not me, I know for a fact that with myself I have to revise 9 weeks beforehand because by nature I just cant cram/get decent grades. And I dont want a long summer because I dont deserve it - I dont think Ive worked hard enough. I also bet you're quite clever tbh. I just want to crawl in a hole and die.
    :hugs: Maybe try and sit there with the work and try to do maybe 10 minutes? That's what I did and then I built it up and now I'm managing to do some work to the extent that it's becoming my 'distraction technique' when I start feeling really low. :console: You do deserve the the long summer, you deserve the time to relax and not have to worry about things for a while, you're having a tough time.

    Oh honey, I'm not clever, I'm the type of retard that regularly glues pens etc to their tops accidentally or walks into doors/lampposts or forgets basics words, like forget. You don't know how you'll do until you do it, try to stay positive and strong you can do this! :jumphug:
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    Anyone else starting to really hate the summer? There's loads of people outside my window just chilling together, playing with a ball, frisbee etc. I feel like such a loser, really wish I actually had friends I could hang out with.
    I hate the heat and have been OCD about suncream/hate the feeling of the sun on my skin for so long I can't remember the last time I tanned, so yeah. :hugs: You're not a loser, you're having a tough time and honestly I do believe that everything works out eventually and that there is a reason for everything, even if that reason is just to make you stronger, and it'll turn out for the good in the end :console:
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    (Original post by steffi.alexa)
    I hate the heat and have been OCD about suncream/hate the feeling of the sun on my skin for so long I can't remember the last time I tanned, so yeah. :hugs: You're not a loser, you're having a tough time and honestly I do believe that everything works out eventually and that there is a reason for everything, even if that reason is just to make you stronger, and it'll turn out for the good in the end :console:
    I wish you were right but I've never had friends, I spent every summer growing up with my brothers, I have 2 actual friends and both live very far away. Just been staring out the window at these people and now I'm crying, yeah I'm that pathetic. By the time I have friends/whatever I'll be too old to actually enjoy summer/anything. Best time of my life, my ass. :rolleyes:

    Sorry about the rant. How're you today? Is your head feeling any clearer than yesterday?
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    I wish you were right but I've never had friends, I spent every summer growing up with my brothers, I have 2 actual friends and both live very far away. Just been staring out the window at these people and now I'm crying, yeah I'm that pathetic. By the time I have friends/whatever I'll be too old to actually enjoy summer/anything. Best time of my life, my ass. http://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/i...s/rolleyes.gif

    Sorry about the rant. How're you today? Is your head feeling any clearer than yesterday?
    I never socialise in the summer either, I don't think it's uncommon TBH. And you've admitted that you do have decent friends, why not ask if they want to meet up this summer? And if you're feeling brave/totally fed up of not having friends nearby why not join a club/try getting to know flatmates/people that live nearby better? I know joining a club feels a bit like throwing yourself in at the deep end, but once you turn up, you just kind of have to go with it and it forces you to get to know people :yep:

    Yeah, I'm feeling a little less of a confused retard haha, looking forward to my friend coming over tomorrow though :woo: She's the one person I know I can trust and will have my back, and I have trust issues so... But I guess that's what you get when you've known them all your life and have good blackmail stories? Anyway, my point is that I would only class myself as only having one true friend, partly through my own lack of socialising and pushing others away, but I don't think it's common for people to have loads of actually close friends. I do stand by the club thing, if you feel you can. When I used to row, it did force me to socialise and also gave me something to do in the summer weather :yep: Two birds, one stone haha
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    (Original post by steffi.alexa)
    I never socialise in the summer either, I don't think it's uncommon TBH. And you've admitted that you do have decent friends, why not ask if they want to meet up this summer? And if you're feeling brave/totally fed up of not having friends nearby why not join a club/try getting to know flatmates/people that live nearby better? I know joining a club feels a bit like throwing yourself in at the deep end, but once you turn up, you just kind of have to go with it and it forces you to get to know people :yep:

    Yeah, I'm feeling a little less of a confused retard haha, looking forward to my friend coming over tomorrow though :woo: She's the one person I know I can trust and will have my back, and I have trust issues so... But I guess that's what you get when you've known them all your life and have good blackmail stories? Anyway, my point is that I would only class myself as only having one true friend, partly through my own lack of socialising and pushing others away, but I don't think it's common for people to have loads of actually close friends. I do stand by the club thing, if you feel you can. When I used to row, it did force me to socialise and also gave me something to do in the summer weather :yep: Two birds, one stone haha
    My flatmates are all international students and 3rd years so they're off home in a couple of weeks. They're nice enough, like we played cards once but they never want to do anything I've tried asking. I do go to a uni sports club, one of the girls there is pretty friendly with me but I just can't seem to break the ice with anyone else. She's also a third year, has exams atm and leaving for Japan in a couple of weeks. Last year I went to more sports clubs but I really am completely useless at making friends so had no luck.

    Am meeting one of my friends in the summer, we always play basketball/just chill and it's great but yeah way too much distance. At the beginning of the year I really threw myself in in like seminars and lectures talking to so many people, but think there's definitely something horrible about me I can't work out but everyone else picks up on because I can never get beyond polite conversation. :sad: (hence also my lack of response to Nothos' suggestion in here)


    That's great for you, I hope you have a really nice time with her. Are you doing anything in particular?
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    I'm OCD about the sun... Just went and 'sunbathed' for 15 minutes... Took 20 before hand to stick factor 50 sun cream all over me though :o:
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    My flatmates are all international students and 3rd years so they're off home in a couple of weeks. They're nice enough, like we played cards once but they never want to do anything I've tried asking. I do go to a uni sports club, one of the girls there is pretty friendly with me but I just can't seem to break the ice with anyone else. She's also a third year, has exams atm and leaving for Japan in a couple of weeks. Last year I went to more sports clubs but I really am completely useless at making friends so had no luck.

    Am meeting one of my friends in the summer, we always play basketball/just chill and it's great but yeah way too much distance. At the beginning of the year I really threw myself in in like seminars and lectures talking to so many people, but think there's definitely something horrible about me I can't work out but everyone else picks up on because I can never get beyond polite conversation. http://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/i...milies/sad.gif (hence also my lack of response to Nothos' suggestion in here)
    Why not ask a few of them out for a drink? So that you don't just talk to them there and get to know them a little better (plus alcohol may help break the ice a little). I doubt it's that there's anything horrible that they pick up on, it's probably more that they didn't have time to get to know you/only saw you in lectures maybe/ etc. :console:

    That's great for you, I hope you have a really nice time with her. Are you doing anything in particular?
    Her family is coming over (family friends) so just going to have a barbecue and both of us trying to avoid burning in the sun probably haha. It does mean that I have to finish revision before then though :cry2: I hope you have a good time with your friend this summer.
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    I'm OCD about the sun... Just went and 'sunbathed' for 15 minutes... Took 20 before hand to stick factor 50 sun cream all over me though http://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/images/smilies/o.gif
    Haha, sounds like me, except I can't even go that long now :sad: Even when I was outside wearing factor 40 the other day, I had to go inside after 20 minutes because I was convinced I was burning :rolleyes:

    Not sure how that will work out with my hope to visit Egypt/Greece/Rome etc one day to see ancient history stuff though :erm:
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    (Original post by steffi.alexa)
    Why not ask a few of them out for a drink? So that you don't just talk to them there and get to know them a little better (plus alcohol may help break the ice a little). I doubt it's that there's anything horrible that they pick up on, it's probably more that they didn't have time to get to know you/only saw you in lectures maybe/ etc. :console:
    Tried with the people I play sports with, they're too tired after apparently. Don't really know anyone in class, despite my efforts at the beginning of the year, I'd be like talking to them then suddenly they get their phone out and start texting, so it's like great thanks, I guess I'm that interesting. Meh **** it, I never had friends at school so I don't know why I expected to make some at uni. Thanks for trying.

    (Original post by steffi.alexa)
    Her family is coming over (family friends) so just going to have a barbecue and both of us trying to avoid burning in the sun probably haha. It does mean that I have to finish revision before then though :cry2: I hope you have a good time with your friend this summer.
    You'll be fine, sit in the shade and enjoy yourself. I'm super jealous :p: bbqs are awesome...burgers, beer, mmmmm :coma:
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    It's really sunny here where I am... I went out of my dark and cold room (it hardly gets any sunlight because my bedroom window faces away from the sun and is always in the shadows) and stood in the sun for a wee bit. It makes me feel a lot better.

    I think people should try getting out in the sun too! It doesnt matter if you're going to be on your own; in fact, i think it helps clear your head.... at least this is how I felt after being out in the sun for a few minutes.
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    Tried with the people I play sports with, they're too tired after apparently. Don't really know anyone in class, despite my efforts at the beginning of the year, I'd be like talking to them then suddenly they get their phone out and start texting, so it's like great thanks, I guess I'm that interesting. Meh **** it, I never had friends at school so I don't know why I expected to make some at uni. Thanks for trying.



    You'll be fine, sit in the shade and enjoy yourself. I'm super jealous :p: bbqs are awesome...burgers, beer, mmmmm :coma:
    Why not ask to meet up some other time then? :hugs: You will make friends, just need to find people who are friendly enough to be friends with. :yep:
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    (Original post by steffi.alexa)
    :hugs: Maybe try and sit there with the work and try to do maybe 10 minutes? That's what I did and then I built it up and now I'm managing to do some work to the extent that it's becoming my 'distraction technique' when I start feeling really low. :console: You do deserve the the long summer, you deserve the time to relax and not have to worry about things for a while, you're having a tough time.

    Oh honey, I'm not clever, I'm the type of retard that regularly glues pens etc to their tops accidentally or walks into doors/lampposts or forgets basics words, like forget. You don't know how you'll do until you do it, try to stay positive and strong you can do this! :jumphug:
    Thanks for the advice...its obvious advice but sounds better coming from someone that can understand me! I remember how I used to be when I was in happier moods - I was more motivated then most people (ie id actually spring out of bed cos I actually wanted to work lol) and had the strongest willpower ever, and I still did revision even if i couldnt get "stuck in" properly. I wish I was like that now though, ugh. Haha I thought I was the only one who is clumsy like that! lol. Thanks for the advice I feel marginally better. I think I may pretend I'm happy and go through the motions...could help...keep on encouraging me though please? xxx
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    (Original post by Superstar6318)
    Thanks for the advice...its obvious advice but sounds better coming from someone that can understand me! I remember how I used to be when I was in happier moods - I was more motivated then most people (ie id actually spring out of bed cos I actually wanted to work lol) and had the strongest willpower ever, and I still did revision even if i couldnt get "stuck in" properly. I wish I was like that now though, ugh. Haha I thought I was the only one who is clumsy like that! lol. Thanks for the advice I feel marginally better. I think I may pretend I'm happy and go through the motions...could help...keep on encouraging me though please? xxx
    Well you'll be that motivated again once you've got through this. Trying to go through the motions with revision does help, as does getting rid of distractions (haha, obvious basic stuff but I find myself procrastinating a lot more than normal recently). You can get through this and still get good grades :yep:
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    It's really sunny here where I am... I went out of my dark and cold room (it hardly gets any sunlight because my bedroom window faces away from the sun and is always in the shadows) and stood in the sun for a wee bit. It makes me feel a lot better.

    I think people should try getting out in the sun too! It doesnt matter if you're going to be on your own; in fact, i think it helps clear your head.... at least this is how I felt after being out in the sun for a few minutes.
    :ditto:

    Was on a verge of a panic attack this afternoon, so I sat out the sun for about 15 mins before going out to where I was meant to be and I was calm Its very very good tbh.
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    I'm amazed that I haven't had a complete breakdown yet today - I have very little time left for revision, yet I'm somehow just doing it as fast as I can and there's no more panic than is healthy. :woo:

    However, I know once I've finished this section, the tears will come, they're already there, but finishing this is making me feel a little better, so need to keep this up!
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    Im fed up of feeling like complete crap all the time and not having enough energy to do anything. I used to be so motivated but now im just so lazy and tired. I struggle to even keep my own room clean (full of paper!) I dont want to feel likethis anymore i want to be confident again but ive been knocked down so many times (especially last year) *sigh*
 
 
 
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