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    I cant do this. I need help. I could maybe see my GP on monday but I dont think she can really do anything.
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    (Original post by Saffie)
    I cant do this. I need help. I could maybe see my GP on monday but I dont think she can really do anything.
    Whats up? :hugs:
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    I just did 2 hours work! :proud:

    Think that's some kind of record :eek:
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    I just did 2 hours work! :proud:

    Think that's some kind of record :eek:
    :yy: Well done

    I'm so tired. I don't think counselling is going to work. I hate being tired. Cutting and self harming seems like a sensible plan when I'm tired. :rolleyes: :/
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    ******* compromise is pointless!
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    (Original post by Idiot-Finder)
    Whats up? :hugs:
    No idea. some days I just feel awful and totally out of control and scared of everything but there is never anyone to help.
    I could see my GP but she'll just up the meds. I wish I could see her regularly. I need something stable to hold on to. I have CBT but thats just awkward. I feel a bit better now, thanks :hugs: How're you getting on?
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    (Original post by Saffie)
    No idea. some days I just feel awful and totally out of control and scared of everything but there is never anyone to help.
    I could see my GP but she'll just up the meds. I wish I could see her regularly. I need something stable to hold on to. I have CBT but thats just awkward. I feel a bit better now, thanks :hugs: How're you getting on?
    :hugs: Well, we're always here. It's not much, but you know we'll always listen.
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    (Original post by kiss_me_now9)
    :yy: Well done

    I'm so tired. I don't think counselling is going to work. I hate being tired. Cutting and self harming seems like a sensible plan when I'm tired. :rolleyes: :/
    Looked back over it......16pages in 2 hours, not so good (esp with another 80 to go)



    Why don't you think counselling is going to work? And if you're tired...sleep?
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    Looked back over it......16pages in 2 hours, not so good (esp with another 80 to go)



    Why don't you think counselling is going to work? And if you're tired...sleep?
    Better than 0 pages

    I just don't... Speaking about all that **** makes me feel even worse. They seem to have a set answer for everything. 'Oh she's lost so many people in the last year that's the root of her problems' or 'oh she can't cope with people leaving her so we'll just give her some kind words for when people inevitably do piss off'. Or that somehow talking about how I feel and how the past has been (stuff that I would rather forget) is going to make me feel better when I just want to rip and tear and cut my skin. Not really a fan of talking therapies either (though... I'm not really a fan of any therapy ) But I'll go and give it a shot.

    Uh. I'm watching Derren Brown Going to bed once it finishes though.
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    (Original post by depressive)
    because wouldn't someone who's depressed not even feel like picking up the phone, booking an appointment, let alone going to the appointment?
    Permabanned? Already? :eyeball:
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    ***** sake, ******* drama, I don't want to ******* know, I just want to hibernate and people can go and **** themselves and leave me the **** alone. I only want to talk to about three people right now, and none of them want to talk to me, **** this ****.
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    (Original post by kiss_me_now9)
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    I just don't... Speaking about all that **** makes me feel even worse. They seem to have a set answer for everything. 'Oh she's lost so many people in the last year that's the root of her problems' or 'oh she can't cope with people leaving her so we'll just give her some kind words for when people inevitably do piss off'. Or that somehow talking about how I feel and how the past has been (stuff that I would rather forget) is going to make me feel better when I just want to rip and tear and cut my skin. Not really a fan of talking therapies either (though... I'm not really a fan of any therapy ) But I'll go and give it a shot.

    Uh. I'm watching Derren Brown Going to bed once it finishes though.
    Tbh I never really saw the value in "talking therapy", but yeah I think give it a shot because there is the possibility (however small) that it might really work for you. It can make you feel worse talking about stuff, I've heard that about it, but then if you feel worse with a trained person there perhaps it's better than feeling worse on your own when you're already feeling crap?
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    Hi all,

    Sorry to impose on any conversations you guys are having atm but I am here seeking advice and help because I've tried Connexions, Samaritans and a few others etc.to help me out but nobody ever does. They're trained to be impartial to an opinion and hence we just go around in circles, nothing gets revolved and I end up feeling worse than I did before.

    Long story short - University, everyone's either using me or brushing me off and now recently avoiding me. I've just started (been there for 3 weeks) and I have no friends. I live in Halls so you'd think that would help but no. Everyone has made their little cliques and there's no room for me, I'm always alone and I have nothing to occupy me (I feel too down to even do homework) so I just cry and I really want to leave because no-one will give me the time of day despite my efforts.

    On top of this, I want to die too. Because I see it this way, I feel like I have no place/niche in this world. I waste 3 years doing a degree I don't want to do at a Uni where everyone seems to be superficial and follows the popularity rather than the friendships or I can drop out and do nothing with my life. Either way I'll be unhappy. I see there as being no light at the end of the tunnel. I've been told to seek medical help but I know what counsellors are like - they're patronising and don't REALLY help, they just ask you how you feel about things in a soothing voice (which is almost mocking).

    Anyway I don't know what to do, I'm done crying, I'm done trying to "belong", I'm pretty much done with life and tbh. I'm just here for advice from people who will understand. Not being accepted by anyone sucks.

    I used to be so outgoing before but now my personality has been drained, they just keep bringing me down

    Edit: I don't want to have to take anti-depressants either, my mum and a friend takes them - they don't make you feel better - just neutral. It's not going to stop the fact that nobody wants anything to do with me and I'm just a socially inept mess. It will probably push me further to suicide =/
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    (Original post by GeetarHero)
    Hi all,

    Sorry to impose on any conversations you guys are having atm but I am here seeking advice and help because I've tried Connexions, Samaritans and a few others etc.to help me out but nobody ever does. They're trained to be impartial to an opinion and hence we just go around in circles, nothing gets revolved and I end up feeling worse than I did before.

    Long story short - University, everyone's either using me or brushing me off and now recently avoiding me. I've just started (been there for 3 weeks) and I have no friends. I live in Halls so you'd think that would help but no. Everyone has made their little cliques and there's no room for me, I'm always alone and I have nothing to occupy me (I feel too down to even do homework) so I just cry and I really want to leave because no-one will give me the time of day despite my efforts.

    On top of this, I want to die too. Because I see it this way, I feel like I have no place/niche in this world. I waste 3 years doing a degree I don't want to do at a Uni where everyone seems to be superficial and follows the popularity rather than the friendships or I can drop out and do nothing with my life. Either way I'll be unhappy. I see there as being no light at the end of the tunnel. I've been told to seek medical help but I know what counsellors are like - they're patronising and don't REALLY help, they just ask you how you feel about things in a soothing voice (which is almost mocking).

    Anyway I don't know what to do, I'm done crying, I'm done trying to "belong", I'm pretty much done with life and tbh. I'm just here for advice from people who will understand. Not being accepted by anyone sucks.

    I used to be so outgoing before but now my personality has been drained, they just keep bringing me down
    Medical help doesn't have to mean counselling. It can be CBT, drug therapy or another form of help.

    I dropped out of a different university to the one I'm at now two years ago in February. Best thing I did. Gave me time to understand what I really wanted to do with my life. I met new people at home as I had to get a job - and eventually I went back to college. Have you been to see your tutor? Or student welfare? Talk to them. See what they suggest. You belong here, you have a place, you just need to find it. You can't find it if you're dead. :hugs:
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    (Original post by kiss_me_now9)
    Medical help doesn't have to mean counselling. It can be CBT, drug therapy or another form of help.

    I dropped out of a different university to the one I'm at now two years ago in February. Best thing I did. Gave me time to understand what I really wanted to do with my life. I met new people at home as I had to get a job - and eventually I went back to college. Have you been to see your tutor? Or student welfare? Talk to them. See what they suggest. You belong here, you have a place, you just need to find it. You can't find it if you're dead. :hugs:
    Last line made me smile haha

    As much as I would want to I feel like dropping out is the cowards way out... it's like I'm letting everyone defeat me at my own expense.

    I haven't spoken to the support people at my Uni, I sound mad but I genuinely believe that they've structured Uni so that only certain people thrive. 90% of the societies are cultural/faith/political views based which is bound to create cliques and make it harder for someone like me who doesn't conform to none of the above to make friends because all throughout my life I've seen people stick to what they know and stay within their comfort zone and the societies just encourage it. The few societies I have joined are broad, i.e. the MUSIC society. Not even specific to a genre. Yeah I hate Uni - I really thought it would be diverse but it's full of cliques =/ /mad rant

    What is CBT like if you know? And after dropping out of Uni first time round, what was it that made you find it easier to make friends or just feel better about life?
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    (Original post by Saffie)
    No idea. some days I just feel awful and totally out of control and scared of everything but there is never anyone to help.
    I could see my GP but she'll just up the meds. I wish I could see her regularly. I need something stable to hold on to. I have CBT but thats just awkward. I feel a bit better now, thanks :hugs: How're you getting on?
    Can you not ask about seeing her regularly? Maybe counselling would be useful?

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    I have made an epic **** up, I swear it read the 15th on the form for exam entires and now I come to look it says the 7th **** **** **** ****. This is what happens when you leave things to the last minute. Either got to try find somewhere that has a later deadline doing the same exam board or do all 6 exams in the summer.
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    Just to say that antidepressants have made me my old self again, not neutral. It depends on the type, the depression and the person.
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    :hugs: 6 exams in the summer won't be too bad, I had 9 and only freaked out a little. Think about GCSEs - we had loads then! It also gives you more time in terms of sorting out meds and revision.
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    (Original post by steffi.alexa)
    Just to say that antidepressants have made me my old self again, not neutral. It depends on the type, the depression and the person.
    That's good to hear because I was starting to think I'd never find antidepressants that made me feel like me. Right now mine are having no proper effect, feel the worst today I have in months. :sad:
    I have an appointment with my GP on Tuesday to review them so I'll hopefully get it sorted.
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    (Original post by diamonddust)
    That's good to hear because I was starting to think I'd never find antidepressants that made me feel like me. Right now mine are having no proper effect, feel the worst today I have in months. :sad:
    I have an appointment with my GP on Tuesday to review them so I'll hopefully get it sorted.
    :hugs: It took about 2 months for me to start feeling the effects so it can be a long while trying to find the right one.
 
 
 
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